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In the Village | Safe Sleep, Breastfeeding and Postnatal Health

There’s always something happening in the world of pregnancy, birth, and parenting in Aotearoa. We’ve started gathering the stories we think every māmā should know about — whether that’s a new health campaign, a research finding, or a moment worth celebrating. Here’s what caught our eye this fortnight.

Preparing for More Than the Baby

We prepare for the baby. But are we preparing for everything that arrives alongside them? The mental load, the endless tasks, the pressure to cope. Here’s why postpartum support matters more than we talk about.

How to Navigate the 4 Month Sleep Regression

Wondering why your baby’s sleep has gone haywire? Learn what causes the 4 month sleep regression, why it’s actually a progression, and get gentle tips to help your baby settle again.

The benefits of goat milk explained

Goat milk is gaining popularity as a nutritious alternative to cow’s milk. Discover the key benefits of goat milk — from easier digestion and prebiotic content to rich vitamins and minerals — and why more Kiwi families are making the switch.

Postpartum Fatigue Isn’t Just Lack of Sleep: Supporting Your Body After Birth

If you’re feeling exhausted after birth, you’ve probably been told the same thing over and over again.“Of course you’re tired. You’ve just had a baby.” And while broken sleep absolutely plays a role, many women sense there’s more to it than that. The tiredness feels deeper. Heavier. Less responsive to rest. Even on a good night, energy doesn’t fully return. If that sounds familiar, you’re not imagining it. Why Postpartum Fatigue Often Feels Different Postpartum fatigue is often spoken about as inevitable. In reality, it’s frequently a sign that your body is still recovering and asking for more support than it’s getting. Birth is one of the most physically demanding events your body will ever go through. Blood loss, hormonal shifts, tissue repair, and the energy demands of feeding a baby all happen at once. On top of that, many women enter postpartum already depleted from pregnancy, particularly if nausea, low appetite, or nutrient deficiencies were present. What’s often missing from the conversation is that recovery doesn’t happen automatically just because the baby has arrived. Your body still needs building blocks. Recovery Is Active Work for the Body In the early weeks after birth, your body is working hard behind the scenes. Repairing tissues. Replenishing blood volume. Regulating hormones. Supporting your nervous system. For many women, producing breast milk. This work requires consistent nourishment, not just calories grabbed when you remember to eat. Yet this is often the stage when meals become the most irregular. Toast while standing. Cold coffee. Picking at leftovers. Skipping meals because it feels too hard to organise anything more. Over time, this can quietly compound fatigue. When Under-Eating Drives Exhaustion One of the most common patterns I see in postpartum women is under-eating, particularly protein, minerals, and fats, alongside fluctuating blood sugar. This combination can leave women feeling wired but tired, lightheaded, irritable, flat, or constantly reaching for something sweet just to get through the afternoon. This isn’t a willpower issue. It’s physiology. Rebuilding Energy After Birth Supporting postpartum energy is less about bouncing back and more about rebuilding. Meals that include adequate protein, nourishing fats, and mineral-rich foods help stabilise blood sugar, support hormone regulation, and give your body the raw materials it needs to recover. In practical terms, small shifts here can make a meaningful difference to postpartum energy. This often includes:prioritising protein at each meal and snackincluding nourishing fats rather than eating carbohydrate foods on their owneating regularly enough to prevent long gaps that lead to blood sugar crasheschoosing warm, easy-to-digest meals when appetite or digestion feels fragile These aren’t rigid rules or a full plan. They’re simple anchors that help your body feel steadier while it’s doing the work of recovery. Digestion also plays a role here. Constipation, bloating, or sluggish digestion are common postpartum, particularly after pain relief, iron supplementation, or a long labour. When digestion is slow or uncomfortable, appetite often drops, which can further reduce nutrient intake and energy. This is where gentle, warming, easy-to-digest meals can be incredibly supportive, especially in the early weeks. Not elaborate cooking. Just food that your body can easily access and use. What About Postpartum Supplements? Many women wonder whether postpartum supplements are necessary. The answer is rarely one-size-fits-all. For some, targeted supplementation can be helpful alongside food, particularly where blood loss has been significant, nutrient stores were already low, or symptoms persist. For others, food-first support makes the biggest difference. What matters most is understanding what your body is asking for, rather than assuming exhaustion is something you simply have to push through. Postpartum Is a Time for Support, Not Minimising Your Needs Postpartum is not the time to minimise your own needs. It’s a period of rebuilding, and the support you receive during this stage can influence energy, mood, recovery, and resilience for months, even years, to come. If you’re feeling persistently exhausted, flat, or like your body hasn’t quite caught up since birth, it doesn’t mean you’re failing at motherhood. More often, it means your body needs steadier nourishment and support. You don’t need to overhaul everything or follow rigid rules. Sometimes it’s about understanding where to focus, how to build meals that actually sustain you, and whether food and supplements are working together to support recovery. How I Support Postpartum Recovery You don’t have to push through this on your own. I’m here to support you. In a one-on-one postpartum nutrition consultation, we focus on recovery — supporting energy, digestion, mood, and rebuilding nutrient reserves after birth. We look at how you’re eating day to day, whether blood sugar dips or under-eating are contributing to fatigue, and how food and supplements can work together to support healing, hormone balance, and sustained energy. The aim is to help you feel more like yourself again. Steadier, nourished, and supported. Not constantly running on empty. 1:1 Postpartum Nutrition Consultation Warmly,Kelly WrightCertified Holistic Nutrition ConsultantFounder, Well and Truly Nourished

Managing Baby Sleep in Heat and Humidity: What Parents Need to Know

Summer brings longer days and warmer weather, but for many families it also brings more disrupted baby sleep. Parents often notice shorter naps, more night waking, and unsettled bedtimes during hot or humid weather, and wonder what they can do to help. At Restful Sleepers, this is one of the most common seasonal concerns I hear from families. The good news is that with a few thoughtful adjustments to your baby’s sleep environment, you can support safer, more comfortable sleep during summer. Why Heat and Humidity Affect Baby Sleep Babies aren’t able to regulate their body temperature as efficiently as adults. When they’re too warm, their bodies stay more alert, making it harder to fall asleep and stay asleep. Humidity can add another layer of discomfort by stopping sweat from evaporating properly. This often shows up as: These changes are common in summer and don’t mean your baby’s sleep has suddenly “gone backwards.” What Is the Ideal Room Temperature for Baby Sleep? The recommended room temperature for babies is 18–22°C. This range supports deeper, safer sleep and reduces the risk of overheating. In reality, many homes, especially during New Zealand summers, regularly sit above this range. If the room feels uncomfortably warm to you, it’s likely too warm for your baby as well. A simple room thermometer can be helpful, but your baby’s comfort matters just as much as the number. Signs Your Baby May Be Too Hot Rather than checking hands or feet (which are often cool), feel your baby’s chest or back. Signs they may be too warm include: If you notice these signs, adjusting clothing or airflow can help. Creating a Cooler, More Supportive Sleep Environment At Restful Sleepers, I often remind families that sleep is influenced by environment as much as routine. During summer, small changes can make a big difference. What Should Baby Wear to Sleep in Summer? Overdressing is one of the most common issues I see during warmer months. Choose: lightweight layers, natural fibres like cotton or merino, which regulate temperature and wick moisture (merino is suitable year-round and can actually help keep babies cool in summer), and short-sleeved bodysuits or singlets on very warm nights. For sleep sacks you can choose a low TOG (0.2–0.5) or possibly go without on very hot nights, if safe to do so Always dress your baby for the room temperature, not the season. The Takeaway for Parents If your baby’s sleep feels harder in summer, you’re not alone. Heat and humidity can disrupt even well-established sleep patterns. By focusing on: …you can help your baby stay more comfortable and support better rest for the whole family. And remember, seasonal sleep disruptions are temporary. If you’re feeling unsure how to adapt your baby’s sleep during summer, personalised guidance, like the support offered through Restful Sleepers, can help you make small, practical changes with confidence.

To birth plan or not to birth plan?

That’s the age-old question. And one that seems to invite opinions from absolutely everyone. “Birth is unpredictable, you can’t plan for it.”“You’ll just be disappointed when things don’t go to plan.”“Go with the flow, take it as it comes.”“All that matters is a healthy baby.” That last one really gives me the ick. Yes, of course you want a healthy baby. That is the expectation. That is the baseline. But why does the conversation stop there? What about you? What about how you feel mentally, emotionally and spiritually after one of the biggest initiations of your life? Because that matters. Deeply. Becoming pregnant and stepping into motherhood is not just another life event. It is a full-body, full-identity shift. You will not be the same person you were before. It is huge. Life-altering. Terrifying and beautiful all at once. And here’s the part that often gets glossed over. Your birth experience shapes your postpartum experience. How you leave birth matters. Leaving feeling traumatised, disempowered or emotionally flattened is very different from leaving filled with pride, trust in your body, and a sense of empowerment. Your nervous system carries that experience forward. It influences how you recover, how you bond, how you mother, and how you feel within yourself. Yet so many women walk into birth having done very little preparation beyond a loose plan and a hope that everything will work out. Not because you don’t care.Not because you are naive.But because no one ever showed you how to prepare properly. So often I hear women say, “I went into my appointments knowing I should be asking questions… I just didn’t know what questions to ask.” Maybe you’ve felt that too. You sit there, nodding along. You trust the professionals. You assume that if something was important, someone would tell you. And in many cases, care providers are doing their best within short appointments, stretched systems and rigid protocols. Birth is unpredictable. That part is true. There is no way to plan your way into a guaranteed outcome. But planning is not about control. It is about responsibility. What if instead of one rigid plan, you mapped out different pathways birth might take? What if you explored Plan A, Plan B and Plan C, so if things shifted, you weren’t making big decisions for the first time while in labour? What if interventions weren’t something that happened to you, but something you had already discussed, understood and made peace with? Wouldn’t that change how you experienced it? Birth trauma affects a significant number of women, and so much of it comes down to feeling out of control. Not necessarily out of control of what is happening, but out of control of the conversations happening around you. The moments where decisions are made quickly, information feels rushed, and you don’t feel equipped to speak up or ask questions. I know that feeling well. I’ve had two very different birth experiences myself, and even now I can see where I wish I had prepared more intentionally for the what-ifs. And that realisation is what led me here. My Body My Birth™ was created from lived experience and extensive research, but most of all from seeing a gap I kept running into. I wanted a way to truly self-educate in my own time and bring my partner into the journey in a meaningful way, beyond screens and online courses. When I couldn’t find that, I created it. These cards are designed to help you ask the questions that truly matter. Not just the obvious ones, but the conversations that are often overlooked, avoided or rushed. The ones that shape your experience long before labour begins. They guide you through understanding your options, reflecting on your values, and preparing for different scenarios without fear-mongering or bias. They support you to create a birth plan that feels like yours, while also building realistic contingency plans if things change. In a world that is increasingly digital, these cards intentionally pull you and your birth partner away from screens and into real, meaningful conversations. You can play them as a game or work through them slowly, one by one. With space to write notes on each card, your birth partner becomes an active participant rather than a bystander. They walk into birth knowing what matters to you and how to advocate for your autonomy when it counts. We cover the topics others like to avoid. And while we don’t cover medical emergencies, we do help you build the knowledge and confidence that supports calmer decision-making when things feel intense or unexpected. These cards are neutral, unbiased, and designed to support you no matter how or where you choose to give birth. This isn’t about giving birth “right”.It’s about giving birth informed.It’s about knowing your options, trusting your instincts, and feeling supported in your choices. This is your body.This is your birth.And My Body My Birth™ is your guide to an empowered one.

A Gentle Revolution: How Kiwi Parents Are Redefining Birth & Postpartum Care in Aotearoa

There’s a quiet revolution happening in homes all across Aotearoa. It doesn’t look like protest signs or loud declarations. Instead, it sounds like the soft hum of an air pump inflating a birth pool. The shuffle of a midwife’s socks on carpet at 3am. The reassuring splash of warm water filling a tub in the living room. And somewhere in the middle of it all, a mother whispering to herself, “I was made for this.” More Kiwi parents than ever are choosing calmer, gentler, more intuitive birth and postpartum experiences — ones that honour both body and heart. This movement didn’t start with a hashtag. It started with families who wanted to feel informed, supported, and connected. With one of the world’s most trusted midwifery systems and a growing appetite for gentle birth, Aotearoa is carving out a beautiful path forward — one where parents feel held, informed, and empowered. The Rise of Intentional Birth in New Zealand Over the last decade, planned home births and water births have steadily increased. Midwives see it. Parents feel it. Statistics confirm it. Families are leaning toward: New Zealand’s fully funded midwifery system is a huge reason why families have the confidence to make these choices. We have one of the most respected midwifery models in the world — and parents are using it. But more than anything? Kiwi families are craving a birth that feels like birth, not a hospital procedure. Why Water Birth Has Become a Kiwi Favourite Ask midwives what’s trending, and you won’t hear “gender reveals” or “baby shower grazing tables.” You’ll hear: “Everyone wants a water birth now.” And honestly? We get it. Warm water does wonders: It’s basically nature’s epidural — without the paperwork. Many parents tell us they “weren’t sure about a home birth,” but the moment they try the warm water during labour, they think, “Right, I’m never getting out of this pool.” Lucky for them, our Oat Milk Birth Pool Hire kits come with everything except someone to fan you with a palm leaf and feed you grapes. We’re working on that. (Kidding… unless?) The Postpartum Support Gap — And Why Kiwi Parents Are Filling It Themselves Let’s talk about the fourth trimester — the part of parenting that everyone forgets to mention at baby showers. New Zealand offers amazing midwifery care, but many parents feel the sudden drop-off when daily support ends. The village is smaller and often spread across the country. Parents are left navigating: So now, more families are prepping for postpartum like it’s an Olympic event — except the prize is healing, sanity, and maybe a warm meal. A Return to Gentle, Traditional Healing Around NZ, parents are rediscovering postpartum care practices that generations before us understood deeply: warmth, nourishment, rest, herbs, rituals, and companionship. Perineal Healing Rituals Sitz baths, peri bottles, cooling sprays — the things no one tells you you’ll become emotionally attached to. Warm, Healing Foods Stews, soups, congee, slow-cooked everything — basically meals that hug you from the inside out. The First 40 Days More parents are embracing intentional slowing down — and noticing the benefits. Breastfeeding Support IBCLCs, peer support groups, and gentle products for nipples that are frankly going through a lot. I have first-hand hobbled to the bathroom, clutching an ice pack to know this one truth: Your perineum deserves a medal. Until medals become standard issue, our Perineal Relief Bundle does a pretty good job at being the supportive bestie you didn’t know you needed. (Warning: customers have been known to say “this spray is life-changing” with suspicious levels of emotion.) What Kiwi Parents Are Now Preparing For 1. A Healing Station That Actually Helps Parents are building little postpartum “nests” with: We put together bundles like the Tender Recovery Box and the Milk Moon Breastfeeding Box because parents told us they were sick of Googling “what do I need for postpartum at 2am?” Think of these boxes like the friend who shows up with food and doesn’t expect you to answer the door. 2. A Micro-Village of Support Support now looks like: Small but mighty. 3. A Cosy, Soothing Environment Soft lighting. Warm blankets. Clean sheets. A room that whispers, “Stay. Rest. Heal.” 4. Emotional Space Parents are finally speaking openly about the emotional realities of postpartum — and that honesty is becoming its own kind of support network. New Zealand Is Shifting — And It’s Beautiful Across Aotearoa, parents are reclaiming gentle birth and postpartum support. And in response, many small NZ businesses — ours included — are rising to meet that need. As more whānau choose intentional birth and deeper postpartum care, the ecosystem around them is evolving: And more mothers are saying, “I want this season to feel sacred, not rushed.” Where Labour and Love Fit Into This New Wave We’re mothers. We’re NZ-based. And yes, we’re completely obsessed with the fourth trimester. We offer: Birth Pool Hire Nationwide Everything included. No last-minute “OH NO, we don’t have the right tap adaptor!” We learned the hard way, so you don’t have to. Natural Postpartum Healing Products Created with organic, gentle ingredients. Because your body just did a lot, — the least we can do is be kind to it. Curated Support Bundles For newborn haze, cracked nipples, the “why do I cry every evening at 7?” phase, and everything in between. Our products won’t magically make your baby sleep longer… But they will make those 3am wake-ups less “send help” and more “okay, I’ve got this.” (We wish we could fix the sleep thing. Truly.) Final Thoughts: A Heart-Led Future for Kiwi Parents Aotearoa is embracing a new chapter of birth and postpartum — one grounded in choice, softness, autonomy, and whānau. And whether your journey includes: You deserve to feel supported, informed, and held. The revolution is here — gentle, quiet, powerful — happening in homes just like yours.

What Every Expecting Mum Needs to Know About Side Sleeping, Comfort, and Safety. 

Quick Summary – Here’s What You’ll Learn  Why Sleep Can Feel Impossible During Pregnancy  Let’s be honest, sleep can be tough when you’re pregnant. Your body is growing, your bump is getting bigger, and everything from hormones to your changing centre of gravity can make finding a comfy position feel like a challenge.  If you’ve ever found yourself lying awake at 3 a.m., Googling pregnancy sleeping tips, you are definitely not alone. For a lot of mums-to-be, those nights feel never-ending.  The good news? There is a sleeping position that’s safe, comfortable, and backed by science: side sleeping. And with a few simple strategies, it can become much easier, and even natural to sleep this way.  Why Side Sleeping Matters  As your pregnancy progresses, with the increasing weight of your baby, lying flat on your back can put pressure on a major vein which carries blood from your lower body back up to your heart. This added pressure from the weight of your baby can reduce blood flow to the uterus and placenta, and sometimes cause dizziness or shortness of breath.  This is where side sleeping makes a big difference. By lying on your side, you take the pressure off those blood vessels, helping your baby get all the oxygen and nutrients they need. Research has shown that starting each sleep on your side in late pregnancy can  significantly reduce the risk of complications, which is why this advice is so widely shared by Kiwi midwives and maternity care providers.  For many mums, using supportive tools like a pregnancy pillow makes this switch much easier. A structured pillow, like the Belly Bliss Pregnancy Pillow, can cradle your belly, support your back, and help you stay comfortably on your side throughout the night for peace of mind.  Why The Left Side Is Recommended  While both sides are safe, the left side is usually recommended because it:  That said, sleeping on the right side is also perfectly fine. Most women naturally switch between sides, and that’s okay. The most important thing is to avoid lying flat on your back for long stretches, especially in the second half of pregnancy.  Using a pregnancy pillow can make side sleeping feel far more natural. Many mums find that a pregnancy pillow that supports the belly, and aligns the hips, and back, like the Belly Bliss Pregnancy Pillow, keeps them feeling cosy, supported, and secure all night long.  What If You’re Not A Natural Side Sleeper?  If you’re used to sleeping on your back or stomach, switching to side sleeping can feel a little awkward at first, and that’s completely normal. Your body is simply adjusting to a new position. The good news is that most women adapt quickly with the right support. A pregnancy pillow can act like a gentle “nest,” keeping you stable, comfortable, and supported throughout the night.  The Belly Bliss Pregnancy Pillow is designed with a three-piece modular setup, so you can experiment with different pillow positions and find what feels best for your body. This flexibility is one reason so many mums prefer it over traditional single-shape pillows.  And if you wake up on your back, it’s perfectly normal, just simply roll back onto your side and settle in. Your body will quickly remind you what feels best, helping you continue sleeping comfortably.  Common Myths:  Myth 1: “If I fall asleep on my back, I’ll hurt my baby.” Fact: Your body usually wakes you long before anything harmful happens. If you notice discomfort, just roll back to your side.  Myth 2: “I can only sleep on my left side.” Fact: Both sides are safe. The left may have slight circulation advantages, but switching sides is normal and fine.  Myth 3: “Side sleeping will hurt my hips.” Fact: Hip pain usually comes from poor alignment, not the position itself. Supporting your knees or using a pregnancy pillow can help dramatically.  Myth 4: “It’s impossible to sleep well while pregnant.” Fact: With the right support and positioning, many women sleep comfortably, even into their third trimester!  FAQs  When should I start sleeping on my side? Ideally from the second trimester onwards. By around 28 weeks, try to start each sleep on your side.  What if I wake up on my back? No need to panic. Roll back onto your side – that’s all that’s needed! Using pillows can help guide you into a comfortable position.  Is sleeping on the right side okay? Absolutely. While the left may offer slight circulation benefits, the right side is also safe.  Why does side sleeping sometimes hurt my hips? Hormonal changes loosen your joints, which can make your hips feel sore. Supporting your knees or using a pregnancy pillow can relieve this discomfort.  Do I need a pregnancy pillow? Not every mum does, but many find it makes a huge difference. A pillow like Belly Bliss Pregnancy Pillow can support your belly, back, and hips, helping you stay comfortable and giving you peace of mind night after night.  Finding a comfortable, safe way to sleep during pregnancy can feel like a challenge, but it doesn’t have to be stressful. Understanding why side sleeping matters and giving your body the support it needs can make a huge difference to both your rest and your baby’s wellbeing. Here’s what’s most important to keep in mind:  Key Points to Remember:  Small adjustments and the right support can make a big difference. With tools like a pregnancy pillow, side sleeping can become comfortable, helping you wake up feeling more refreshed and supporting your growing baby every night. 

Why Imaginative Play Matters for Child Development

In today’s fast-paced world of screens and schedules, imaginative play isn’t just a break—it’s a building block. At Adventure Alley, Auckland’s leading indoor playground, we believe play is essential for raising confident, curious, and emotionally aware children. 1. Imaginative Play Builds Brain Development Pretend play strengthens problem-solving, language, and emotional regulation. When children act as chefs, astronauts, or superheroes, they’re building storytelling skills and cognitive foundations for lifelong learning. 2. Role Play Teaches Empathy Imaginative scenarios help kids understand different perspectives. Our themed play zones promote kindness, collaboration, and emotional intelligence—skills that matter just as much as academics. 3. Play Sparks Confidence From leading tea parties to climbing play structures or trying our limited arcade machines, every small win builds self-esteem. Adventure Alley offers safe spaces for kids to take risks, try new things, and grow in confidence. 4. Play Strengthens Social Connection Play is how children bond—with peers and the world around them. Our environment encourages teamwork, laughter, and shared discovery through sensory-rich experiences. 5. Inclusive Play Supports Every Child We offer sensory play sessions with reduced noise and lighting for children who thrive in calmer settings. Our messy play classes invite creativity through paint, slime, and tactile exploration—perfect for hands-on learners. Learn more about our sensory play sessions and party packages. Meet Carlie from Messy Rainbows Carlie leads our sensory and messy play sessions with heart and intention. As founder of Messy Rainbows, she creates neurodivergent-affirming experiences featuring potion play, themed slime, and sensory storytelling. Her inclusive setups meet kids exactly where they’re at—making her events a favourite among Auckland families. Discover more about Carlie and Messy Rainbows. Meet the Mess Maker! – Messy Rainbows Why Choose Adventure Alley Auckland? Adventure Alley is more than a playground—it’s a purpose-built space for imaginative, inclusive, and sensory-friendly play. Locally owned and family-focused, we offer: Ready to Explore Imaginative Play? Events – Adventure Alley Visit Adventure Alley Auckland today and discover why play matters. Book your visit, follow us on Instagram, or check out our latest events and sensory sessions.

How Dads Can Help After Birth: Building Confidence, Connection, and Calm in the Early Weeks

From “Helper” to Co-Parent Let’s be honest: the first few weeks after your baby arrives can feel like stepping into another world. There’s crying (sometimes from everyone), feeding around the clock, and sleep so patchy you start to wonder what day it is! For many dads, this period is a strange mix of joy, pride, love—and complete confusion. You want to help, but you’re not sure how. You want to feel useful, but everything seems centred around mum and baby. You might even feel like a bit of an outsider looking in. Here’s the truth: you are not a sidekick, you’re half the team! The early weeks are your chance to build confidence, connection, and calm for everyone in your little family. You don’t need to have all the answers. You just need to show up, learn, and lean in. Understanding What’s Really Going On Mum’s Recovery: It’s a Big Deal After birth, mum’s body is in recovery mode. She might be sore, bleeding, swollen, or exhausted (probably all of these to be honest!). Her hormones are swinging wildly as her body recalibrates. Emotionally, she can feel raw, tearful, or overwhelmed — even when everything is going “well.” Your role here isn’t to fix it — it’s to notice, support, and care. Check in with her to see what she needs, offer before she has to ask, and keep the basics running in the background so she can focus on healing and feeding the baby. Small things make a huge difference: You might not be able to stop the chaos — but you can cushion it. The Emotional Rollercoaster Those first few weeks can test even the strongest relationships. Mum’s adjusting to her new identity; you’re figuring out yours. Both of you are sleep-deprived and trying to keep a tiny human alive. It’s totally normal to feel out of your depth or unsure how to help. The trick is communication, patience, and a sense of humour. You’re both learning as you go — no one nails it straight away. Emotional Support: Being Present and Reassuring Listen, Don’t Fix When mum opens up about how hard it feels, it’s really tempting to jump in with solutions. Resist the urge. She’s not asking you to fix it — she’s asking you to hear her. Try simple responses like: Listening with empathy helps her feel seen and supported — and that’s far more valuable than offering advice or logic in the heat of an emotional moment. Reassurance Counts Tell her she’s doing well — often. New mums rarely hear that enough. A simple “you’re amazing” or “I’ve got this, you rest” can completely change her day. And don’t underestimate physical reassurance. A hug, a hand squeeze, a warm touch on her shoulder — tiny gestures that say you’re not alone in this. Practical Support: Sharing the Load You Don’t Need to Ask Permission to Help If you see something that needs doing — just do it. Don’t wait for instructions or expect praise. You’re not “helping out,” you’re parenting and supporting your partner! Try these practical ways to lighten the load: Think of it like tag-teaming. One of you feeds; the other cleans up. One naps; the other watches the baby. Neither of you is “helping” the other — you’re both doing what needs to be done to keep the family running. Remember, partnership beats perfection! Bonding With Your Baby The Power of Presence Bonding doesn’t happen instantly for every dad (or every mum) and that’s okay. You don’t need to force it; you just need to show up. Babies learn who their people are through consistency and care. Easy, natural ways to connect: The more time you spend interacting with your baby, the more confident you’ll feel. And that confidence builds fast once you realise — you really do know what you’re doing. Supporting Feeding (Whatever It Looks Like) If Mum Is Breastfeeding Breastfeeding can be beautiful — but it can also be frustrating, painful, and emotional. Dads have a massive role to play here. You can: Sometimes, the best support is simply saying: “You’re doing great. Take your time. We’ll figure this out together.” If You’re Bottle Feeding Whether it’s expressed breastmilk or formula, bottle feeding gives dads a hands-on way to bond. Take turns feeding, make eye contact, and hold your baby close — it’s not just about nutrition, it’s about connection. If you’re doing night feeds, use it as your special time together. Those quiet, sleepy cuddles at 3am might just end up being some of your most treasured memories. Looking After Yourself Too Dads Get Tired Too You can’t pour from an empty cup. While all focus is often on mum and baby, dads also experience exhaustion, stress, and emotional ups and downs. Postnatal depression and anxiety can affect fathers too — it just shows up differently. Warning signs to watch for: If that sounds familiar, you’re not weak — you’re human. Talk to your GP, a counsellor, or a trusted mate. Reaching out is strength, not failure. Finding Your Own Rhythm Your life has changed forever — but it doesn’t mean you lose yourself. Try to: Looking after yourself isn’t selfish — it’s smart. A rested, grounded dad is better equipped to support his partner and enjoy his baby. Common Traps Dads Fall Into (and How to Avoid Them) Practical Ways to Help Every Day Here’s a simple checklist for the first few months: Morning: Afternoon: Evening: Middle of the night: When Things Feel Hard Every new dad hits moments of frustration, helplessness, or doubt. That doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong — it means you’re in it. Simple resets when it feels overwhelming: You won’t always get it right, but your presence, effort, and love matter far more than perfection. Final Thoughts – Teamwork Over Perfection There’s no medal for the most organised dad or the tidiest house. What matters is that you show up — with patience, love, and the willingness to learn. Your

Haemorrhoids in Pregnancy and Postpartum: What You Need to Know

Let’s be real for a second: pregnancy and birth are amazing, but they’re also… intense. Among the less glamorous side effects? Haemorrhoids. If you’ve experienced that telltale itch, sting, or swelling down there, you’re definitely not alone. In fact, piles are super common during pregnancy and after birth, especially here in Aotearoa. This article breaks down what haemorrhoids are, how they affect pregnant and postpartum people in New Zealand, and most importantly how to manage them safely and effectively. What are haemorrhoids (and why do they show up during pregnancy)? Haemorrhoids are swollen veins in or around the anus and rectum. They can cause itching, pain, bleeding, and discomfort – especially when you go to the toilet. During pregnancy, your growing baby adds pressure to your lower body, slowing down blood flow and digestion. Combine that with hormone changes and the effort of pushing during birth, and it’s no surprise that haemorrhoids often pop up in the third trimester or shortly after giving birth. Health NZ explains it simply here. How common are they in pregnancy and postpartum? Short answer: very. While we don’t have exact numbers for Aotearoa, global studies show up to 40% of pregnant people develop haemorrhoids, and they often continue into the postpartum period. One study found 43% of women still had them after birth. So, if you’re dealing with this now… you’re in good company. Natural and at-home care that actually works In New Zealand, the first advice from midwives and GPs is usually conservative care. That means focusing on gentle, natural ways to ease the pressure: You can also try over-the-counter creams like Anusol for relief (but check with your midwife or pharmacist if you’re pregnant or breastfeeding). When to talk to your GP or midwife Most haemorrhoids clear up on their own, but it’s important to know when to get help: Your midwife or GP can suggest prescription creams or refer you to a specialist if things aren’t improving. In rare cases, minor procedures or surgery might be needed… but usually after baby is born. What NZ health providers recommend Local health boards and the College of Midwives back up everything above: start with food, fluids, fibre and comfort care. If you’re struggling, they’re there to help… this is a super common part of pregnancy and birth. And don’t be afraid to speak up. Whether you’re 38 weeks pregnant or chasing a newborn, you deserve to be comfortable and cared for. You’re not alone! Haemorrhoids aren’t fun, but they’re also nothing to be ashamed of. With the right care, most will clear up within days or weeks. Until then, grab a padsicle, chat to your midwife, and remember: you’re doing an incredible job. Sources Disclaimer: This blog is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your GP, midwife or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition.

The Story Behind FrankieMoo: Simple, Safe Laundry for Sensitive Skin 

When my eldest daughter was little, her skin reacted to nearly everything, lotions, baby wipes, and especially laundry powder. After one too many flare-ups, I began hunting for something gentle and genuinely natural. I didn’t just want a product that wouldn’t make things worse, I wanted something that would soothe her skin, not add to her irritation.  That’s when FrankieMoo. began to take shape.  I wanted a washing powder that actually worked, without leaving behind harsh residues or synthetic scents. So, I started experimenting in my kitchen, testing combinations of natural ingredients until I found a formula that was both gentle on skin and powerful on stains. That blend became FrankieMoo. Natural Washing Powder, the same simple recipe we use today. It’s nothing new, your Nana likely used something similar many years ago.  Why Keep It Simple?  Most supermarket laundry powders, even ones labelled “eco” or “natural” contain 20 or more ingredients. Many of these are sulphates, perfumes, and fillers designed to create bubbles or fragrance, rather than actually clean. They tell you to add quite a lot to your wash, up to 4 tablespoons in some cases!  The problem is that these ingredients often don’t rinse out completely. They cling to fabrics, meaning traces can end up on your skin every time you wear freshly washed clothes.  For sensitive or eczema-prone skin, that leftover residue can make irritation worse.  FrankieMoo. is made from just four ingredients, all chosen for their natural cleaning ability and skin-friendliness. Each one is:  Once your washing cycle is done, those ingredients simply wash away — leaving your laundry truly clean, with nothing left behind. A little goes a long way, and an average load only needs 1 tablespoon of powder.  Why Sulphate-Free Matters  Sulphates are common in household cleaners because they create foam and lift dirt. But they’re also harsh on skin. They strip away natural oils, weakening the skin’s protective barrier and making it more prone to dryness and irritation.  That’s why FrankieMoo. is completely sulphate-free. Our formula cleans effectively without compromising the health of your family’s skin or the environment.  If you’ve ever noticed that “eco” powders still leave a white residue or strong smell on your clothes, it’s likely due to sulphates and synthetic fragrances.  Clean Laundry, Naturally  Every ingredient in our powder serves a clear purpose, no fillers, no colourants, no unnecessary extras. Together, they tackle dirt, body oils, and odours while staying kind to fabric and skin. Because the formula is fully biodegradable, it’s safe for septic systems and greywater use too.  The result? Laundry that feels soft, smells fresh (naturally), and doesn’t aggravate sensitive skin. Just clean clothes and peace of mind.  The Four Ingredients That Do It All  Every ingredient in FrankieMoo. Natural Washing Powder has a simple, specific job with no unnecessary extras. Together, they create a gentle, effective clean for your whole family.  For Those Who Love a Light Scent  Our Natural Washing Powder is unscented by design, making it ideal for babies, children, and anyone sensitive to fragrance.  But if you enjoy a hint of scent in your laundry, we’ve created FrankieMoo. Fragrance Boosts, natural magnesium salt crystals infused with pure essential oils. They add a subtle aroma without any synthetic perfumes or fixatives.  One of our most loved blends is the Sleep-Time Fragrance Boost, made with lavender, cedarwood, and vetiver essential oils. It’s perfect for pyjamas, sheets, and towels, helping to create a calm, relaxing bedtime routine for the whole family.  Handmade, Honest, and Kind  Every FrankieMoo. product is handmade in New Zealand, in small batches to ensure quality and freshness. We keep our process simple and transparent, using ingredients you can actually recognise and trust.  We’re proud to offer products that are safe for sensitive skin, gentle on the environment, and effective for everyday family washing. Our goal isn’t to complicate things, it’s to make them easier and safer.  Because at the end of the day, laundry shouldn’t be another worry on your list. It should just work, and work well.  Try FrankieMoo for Yourself  If you’re looking for a simple, reliable laundry powder that’s kind to your skin (and the planet), we’d love for you to try FrankieMoo.  Shop the full range of natural washing and cleaning products at www.frankiemoo.co.nz, and enjoy 10% off your first order with the code ‘HEYMAMA’ at checkout.  FrankieMoo. – handmade, chemical-free, and designed with love. 

The Story Behind Coops Clothing: Our Journey with Eczema

‘‘Our life was a constant battle to keep him comfortable. His bed sheets were constantly blood stained from the scratching, and his face was puffy from the steroid inhaler. As a Mother, you feel so helpless watching your child in agony and there is nothing you can do. Throw in sleepless nights with scratching and crying, plus a new baby and well life has been hectic…’’, Kirsty Smith, Founder of Coops Clothing Coops Clothing was named after Cooper (Coops), Kirsty’s first son, who has been on quite the journey with eczema. By sharing this story, here at Coops Clothing we hope we can help other parents if their child suffers with eczema. In her words, Kirsty shares her story… ‘‘Cooper first got eczema when he was 10 months old. We were told to use moisturiser and barrier creams by the GP and so, that’s what we did. A few months later, at the age of one, his eczema had still not improved. Back to the GP we went. Once again, we were met with advice to use creams and moisturisers. It was beyond frustrating, being told the same thing over and over. It wasn’t until Cooper was two, that we were able to find out he had a dairy allergy, and this was only after pleading with a dermatologist for a blood test. So, we thought we had a solution, change his diet a little more and this should work. Cooper was pretty much dairy free already, so it didn’t impact our lives that much, but it was helpful to have a definite answer. However, this was once again a dead end and his eczema continued to flare up and worsen. By the time he was three we had been using steroid creams for over 18 months on and off with little results. We had been referred once again to a dermatologist, but every time we had an appointment, they just kept prescribing stronger steroid creams for our son’s delicate skin. Even on adult skin steroids are extremely harsh and not for long term use, often causing bruising, scaring and your skin becomes addicted to the medication. This is where I began researching more natural and homeopathic routes. I was truly losing my faith in the UK health system. From here, the journey for our little Cooper got worse, he started to develop asthma which seemed to escalate quite quickly, from needing an inhaler once a week to several times a day. Eventually, we were referred to have a skin prick test, which revealed an allergy to eggs, house dust mites and dog dander. We of course, tried to do absolutely everything we possibly could to remove these allergens from Cooper’s environment but, still he remained in constant discomfort. We were once again at a dead end. Back and forth to the GP’s and dermatologists we went, but all they seemed interested in, was relieving Cooper’s symptoms and never focusing on a long term solution. So many eczema sufferers are expected to do exactly that, suffer! It is an autoimmune disease that scientists can’t find a cure for, with so little research into this all-too-common disease. Myself and my partner, decided didn’t want Cooper to be on a daily dose of antihistamine, steroid creams and a steroid inhaler for the foreseeable future. This isn’t a long-term solution. We finally agreed to seek an alternative option for Cooper by using a nutritionist and homeopath. The start of the homeopathic remedies was horrendous. Cooper’s skin had a chronic eruption that put him in hospital, an awful time for us all. No parent wants to see their child in pain. It was excruciating for him and after all of that we were once again sent home with no long-term care plan for Cooper. However, there is now a glimmer of hope. Despite the horrible start with the homeopathic remedies, with little to no options left, we stuck with it. We know, it will be a slow process, but we hope to cure his eczema and asthma. Through this we also hope to detox his body from the prolonged use of steroids. There have been some positive signs with his asthma already, he hasn’t used his inhaler for nearly a month now and his skin is less inflamed, still incredibly itchy, but we are seeing improvement. We are so relieved to have finally found a solution for our child, one that was never offered to us through the UK healthcare system, it is one we had to research and find on our own. I truly hope by sharing our story, it helps other parents out there, battling the same journey as us. I wish I could give you the magic answer, but every child is different. I will say listen to your gut and trust your instincts as a Parent, you know what is best for your little ones.” Kirsty – Coops Clothing

Colic vs Digestive Discomfort: Understanding the Differences

For many new parents, the early months bring both joy and challenge. One of the most difficult aspects can be hearing your baby cry and not knowing the reason. All babies cry, but when the crying feels excessive, many parents wonder: Is this colic? Or could it simply be everyday tummy discomfort? Understanding the difference between colic and common digestive upsets can provide reassurance. It also helps parents find ways to bring comfort to their little one while knowing when it might be time to seek further support. What Is Colic? Colic is not a disease or diagnosis, but rather a term used to describe long episodes of crying in an otherwise healthy baby. The most common guide is known as the “rule of 3s”: Colic often begins around 2–3 weeks of age, may peak between 6–8 weeks, and usually improves by 3–4 months. The exact cause is unknown, and it does not mean anything is “wrong” with your baby. For parents, however, these long crying spells can feel exhausting and overwhelming. What Is Digestive Discomfort? Digestive discomfort is much more common and usually easier to identify. It refers to the everyday tummy upsets babies often experience, such as: These upsets are usually shorter lasting and may be linked to swallowing air during feeds, adjusting to a new feeding pattern, or simply the normal development of a baby’s digestive system. Key Differences Between Colic and Digestive Upsets Colic Digestive Discomfort Crying follows the “rule of 3s” (prolonged, frequent, ongoing) Crying is shorter and often linked to feeding Baby may be very hard to soothe Baby can often be comforted with burping, massage, or a change of position Episodes often occur at a similar time each day, usually late afternoon/evening Can happen at any time after a feed Cause not fully understood Often related to gas, bloating, or temporary tummy imbalance Soothing and Comforting Strategies Whether your baby is experiencing colic or just an unsettled tummy, there are gentle ways to provide comfort: Some parents also choose to use fast-acting liquid dietary supplements made with natural active ingredients for support with occasional fussiness, gas or bloating. Colic Calm, for example, is based on traditional plant extracts such as chamomile, fennel, ginger, and peppermint, which have a long history of use for digestive comfort. When to Seek Advice Crying in babies is common and often temporary. However, you should always speak to a healthcare professional if: It is always better to check in if you are worried. Health professionals can offer reassurance, assess your baby, and rule out other causes. Supporting NZ Parents Parenting in the early months can feel like a rollercoaster. The sleepless nights, endless feeds, and constant second-guessing are familiar to almost every new parent. Whether your baby is experiencing colic or occasional digestive discomfort, remember: At Colic Calm NZ, we understand the challenges parents face. That is why we are dedicated to providing resources, natural active ingredient supplements, and reassurance for families throughout Aotearoa. For further information, you can visit Colic Calm NZ where you will find resources and product details designed specifically for New Zealand parents. FAQs What age does colic usually start and stop?Colic often starts around 2–3 weeks, peaks at 6–8 weeks, and generally resolves by 3–4 months. Can colic be mistaken for silent reflux?Yes, the symptoms can overlap. Silent reflux involves stomach contents moving back up the oesophagus without visible spitting up. This can cause discomfort and frequent crying, which may look like colic. A healthcare professional can help identify the difference. How long do digestive upsets last after feeding?These are usually short-lived and may pass within minutes to an hour once wind is released or the tummy settles. Are there natural active ingredients that may support digestive comfort?Chamomile, fennel, ginger, and peppermint are traditional plant extracts often used for occasional digestive upsets in babies. When should I talk to a healthcare professional?Any time you feel concerned about your baby’s crying, feeding, or general health, it is best to seek advice. Conclusion The difference between colic and everyday digestive upsets can be subtle, but understanding the signs may help parents feel more confident. Colic involves prolonged and frequent crying episodes that can be very challenging, while digestive discomfort is more common, shorter in duration, and often linked to feeding. Whichever your baby is experiencing, know that this stage is temporary. There are gentle ways to bring comfort, and support is always available. For more resources and information, visit Colic Calm NZ. Disclaimer Always read the label and use as directed. Dietary supplements are not a replacement for a balanced diet. If symptoms persist, see your healthcare professional. Colic Calm NZ, Wellington.

Starting Solids Without Stress: A Calm, Nourishing Guide for Your Baby

If you’re feeling unsure about starting solids, nervous about choking, overwhelmed by conflicting advice, or worried you’ll somehow get it wrong, you’re not alone. So many parents tell me they’re excited and terrified all in the same breath. And honestly, that makes perfect sense. You’re suddenly responsible for feeding a tiny human who has never eaten before. Of course you want to do it safely. Of course you want to give them the best start. It’s no wonder your mind is buzzing with questions. But here’s the part that often gets lost in the noise: Starting solids doesn’t need to feel confusing or stressful. Why Starting Solids Feels So Overwhelming  Most of the overwhelm isn’t because you’re doing anything wrong. It’s because you’ve been handed an avalanche of mixed messages about what “good feeding” should look like. One person swears by baby-led weaning. Another insists on purées. The internet warns about choking. Your friends talk about allergens. And meanwhile, you’re just trying to figure out what’s actually right for your baby. Let me say this clearly: you and your baby can absolutely have a calm, confident start, and it doesn’t require perfection. Readiness Matters More Than Rules Most babies show readiness somewhere around six months. Once you know what those cues look like, the picture becomes much clearer. Sitting with some stability. Good head control. Curiosity around your food. Solids are a skill your baby learns gradually. They don’t need full meals or large quantities. Tiny tastes are enough in the beginning, especially because breastmilk or formula will continue to be their main source of nourishment throughout the first year. The Method Is Less Important Than You’ve Been Told This is also why the method matters far less than you’ve been led to believe. Some families feel happy offering soft finger foods straight away. Others prefer smoother textures. Many land somewhere in the middle. There is no superior approach. The best method is the one that keeps you calm and helps your baby feel safe. What matters most is not the method. It’s how supported and steady feeding feels for both of you. Where Nutrition Begins to Matter More  Where things begin to matter more is the quality of the nutrition you offer. Babies only eat small amounts, so early foods make a meaningful difference to their iron stores, brain development, gut health, energy, and immune system. This doesn’t mean complicated recipes or perfectly planned meals. It simply means choosing foods that offer nourishment in a gentle, digestible way, without overwhelming their system. And yes — this can be far simpler than parents expect. Most babies’ first foods are vegetable purées, and that’s very common. While vegetables can absolutely have a place, they tend to be low in the nutrients babies need most early on, particularly iron and healthy fats. Because babies eat very small amounts, those first foods need to deliver a lot in just a few mouthfuls. In practice, this often means including iron-rich foods and nourishing fats early, rather than relying solely on vegetables. This might look like slow-cooked meats, egg yolk, or vegetables combined with added fats, all prepared in a texture that feels safe and manageable for your baby. Understanding Safety Without Fear And then there’s the safety piece — the part that usually keeps parents up at night. Gagging can look dramatic. Choking feels terrifying even to imagine. But once you understand what’s normal, how to prepare safe textures, and how to sit close and stay present, everything shifts. Feeding becomes calmer. Babies learn beautifully when we meet them with steadiness and understanding. Feeding Is About More Than Food With the right support, starting solids becomes less about fear and more about connection. Shared meals. Tiny tastes. Messy hands. Curious eyes. These are the moments that help your baby develop confidence, trust, and a lifelong relationship with food that feels positive and relaxed. When You Need a Little More Support If you start to notice changes in digestion, fussiness, skin concerns, or possible sensitivities, you don’t have to decode these signs alone. Every baby is different, and having guidance tailored to your baby’s needs can make feeding feel lighter and more intuitive. How I Support Families Starting Solids If you want clearer direction or reassurance as you begin solids — whether that’s navigating safe textures, choosing nutrient-rich foods, introducing allergens, understanding possible sensitivities, or making sense of symptoms like constipation, eczema, unsettled digestion, or fussiness — this is exactly what I support parents with. Every baby’s timing, tolerance, and response are different. That’s why personalised guidance can make such a difference. In a one-on-one baby nutrition consultation, we look at your baby’s readiness, their nutritional needs, any digestive or skin concerns, how they’re responding to foods if you’ve already started, and the approach that feels calm and doable for your family. Many parents say they leave feeling relieved, confident, and genuinely excited to feed their baby. You’re not alone. I’m here to support you. 1:1 Baby Nutrition Consultation Warmly,Kelly WrightCertified Holistic Nutrition ConsultantFounder, Well and Truly Nourished

Pumping 101: A Gentle Guide for New Parents 

For many new parents, pumping can feel like stepping into a whole new world of buzzing machines with so many buttons and pieces! Whether you’re heading back to work, sharing feeds with a partner, or simply wanting some flexibility in your feeding journey, pumping can be an incredibly helpful tool.  But like most things in early parenthood, pumping comes with a learning curve—and that’s okay. Here are some key things to know as you start.  Getting Started with Pumping  When you first sit down with your pump, it can feel a little overwhelming. There are different settings, parts to assemble, and questions about how much milk you “should” get. The truth is—pumping is a skill, and it takes time to get used to.  A few basics to keep in mind:  Finding the Right Fit  One of the most important (but often overlooked) parts of pumping is flange sizing. The flange is the funnel-shaped part of the pump that sits over your nipple. If it’s too big or too small, pumping can be uncomfortable and inefficient.  Signs your flange might not fit quite right:  If you’re not sure, this is something you don’t have to figure out alone. I offer personalised consults where we can check fit, troubleshoot pump settings, and build a plan that works for your lifestyle. Find out more here  Choosing a Pump  Not all pumps are created equal. Some are fantastic for occasional use, while others are designed for full-time pumping. Wearable pumps, for example, are super convenient but may not always be the best choice if you’re exclusively pumping.  If you’re unsure which pump might work best for your situation, it can help to talk it through with someone who understands both the products and the realities of daily life with a baby. That way, you can make a choice that truly supports your feeding goals.  Building a Pumping Routine  Every parent’s pumping journey looks different. Some might pump once or twice a day to build a small freezer stash, while others might pump exclusively. The key is finding a rhythm that fits your life and supports your milk supply.  Here are some helpful tips:  Remember, the “perfect” pumping schedule doesn’t exist—it’s about creating one that works for you and your baby, and adjusting as your needs change.  Helpful Tools  The right tools can make pumping feel smoother and less stressful. A few to consider:  Every parent finds their own little “hacks” that make the process easier. The key is experimenting until you find the tools that fit your routine and lifestyle.  Final Thoughts  Pumping can be a powerful way to nourish your baby while also giving you some flexibility. But it doesn’t need to be overwhelming—you deserve support and guidance as you figure out what works best for you.  It’s also important to know that you don’t need to pump if you don’t want to or don’t need to. Pumping isn’t for everyone, and that’s completely okay. Some parents love the freedom it offers, while others prefer to stick with direct feeding. Both choices are valid—you get to decide what feels right for you and your baby.  If you’d like one-on-one help with pumping, from flange sizing to routine planning, I offer consults designed to take the stress out of the process. And if you’re looking for reliable gear, you’ll find handpicked products to support your journey at flowandflourish.co.nz

From Classrooms to Living Rooms: How Teachers Support Kids Beyond School

Parenting is a juggling act. Between school, work, after-school activities, and family life, it can sometimes feel like there aren’t enough hours in the day. That’s exactly why The Teacher’s Connections was created: by two mums who were also teachers that realised parents need trusted support, and the best people to provide it were already right in front of us: our colleagues. Teachers bring more than subject knowledge. They know how to connect with kids, build confidence, manage challenges, and make learning (and everyday care) engaging. It’s these skills that make them exceptional tutors and babysitters. Tutoring That Builds Confidence When children fall behind at school, it can affect more than their grades; it can impact their confidence. Our teacher-tutors provide: Parents often see the change quickly: a child who feels capable, motivated, and proud of their progress. Babysitting You Can Trust Leaving your child with someone new can be daunting. With a teacher-babysitter, parents gain peace of mind knowing their children are in capable hands. For families, it means babysitting that’s enriching as well as safe. Why We Built This Network As mums ourselves, we know the value of having a reliable support system. We wanted to create a service that we would trust for our own children – and that’s how The Teacher’s Tutors and The Teacher’s Babysitters began. By connecting families with qualified teachers, we’re making it easier for parents to find care and learning support they can feel confident about. From Our Families to Yours Teachers make a difference far beyond the classroom. Whether through tutoring that builds confidence or babysitting that offers trusted care, they’re helping children thrive and giving parents the support they need. From classrooms to living rooms, we’re proud to connect families with teachers who care. Find out more about how The Teacher’s Connections can support your family.

Postpartum Planning: A protective factor for perinatal mental health

Matrescence NZ specialises in antenatal and matrescence education for parents and professionals. Sharing the latest research to enhance parental and infant wellbeing and practitioner competence.  When we talk about preparing for a new baby, the conversation still centres largely around birth plans and baby gear. But if we zoom out and look at the data, particularly in Aotearoa New Zealand, we can’t ignore the facts: recent studies have shown up to 50% of parents experience perinatal distress (Helen Clark Foundation, 2022). There is not enough being done to support mothers’ mental health during the postpartum period. And the effects of this shortfall ripple into families, communities, and future generations. What we also know is this: mothers in the early postpartum period face a perfect storm of risk factors. Sleep deprivation, hormonal fluctuations, identity disruption, physical recovery, and a massive emotional recalibration, all while caring for a completely dependent newborn. Add in the isolation that many modern mothers feel, and it’s no wonder this period is so vulnerable. But what if we stopped treating postpartum distress as inevitable, and started seeing it as something we can prepare for logistically, emotionally, and relationally? This is where postpartum planning comes in, not as a fluffy self-care suggestion, but as a proven protective factor for maternal mental health. The science of pre-planning: Why it helps Cognitive overload is a term used to describe what happens when your brain is trying to process too much at once. In the postpartum period, this is nearly constant. Every question… What’s for dinner? Who’s coming over? Where are the nappies?… feels heavier when you’re running on two hours of sleep. This is where pre-planning matters. Reducing decision fatigue (the mental load of constant small choices) improves mental health outcomes and reduces anxiety. When we are already depleted, minor logistical stressors can trigger a heightened stress response.For example, something as minor as realising there are no clean baby onesies can cause a cascade of emotional overwhelm, not because the task itself is large, but because it arrives on top of sleep deprivation, hunger, and the pressure of meeting a newborn’s constant needs. When you’re already depleted, even tiny stressors can feel insurmountable. Planning things like, meals, boundaries and support systems before baby arrives is a practical act of self-compassion. It’s not about being rigid. It’s about creating scaffolding so that when things inevitably feel wobbly, you’ve got something to hold you. Simple doesn’t mean shallow One of the biggest misconceptions around postpartum planning is that because the strategies are simple, they’re not worth prioritising. But simple doesn’t mean shallow. It means essential. Take meals, for example. It’s not just about having something to eat. Having food prepped means: Each of these outcomes directly contributes to mental wellness. Regular meals reduce cortisol spikes. Warm, easy-to-digest foods support digestion and hormone processing. And not having to clean up can mean the difference between a breakdown and a moment of peace. The same goes for visitor boundaries. A simple plan that outlines who comes over, when, and for how long doesn’t just protect your time, it protects your nervous system. It reinforces the message that your space, your needs, and your baby’s rhythm take priority. Identity and the invisible load From a matrescence perspective, we know that identity transformation is one of the most destabilising aspects of early motherhood. You’re mix of becoming someone new, and unbecoming the things that no longer serve you, and this comes with grief, confusion, and often a quiet sense of “Who even am I now?” Having a plan doesn’t erase that discomfort. But it does create space for it. When your physical and emotional needs are already considered, you have more bandwidth to reflect, process, and integrate this new version of yourself. Postpartum Planning isn’t about perfection. It’s about creating simplified the processes as much as you can. Relationship dynamics: One of the most overlooked factors Postpartum doesn’t just change you, it changes your relationships. And this area, deserves intentional planning too. Research consistently shows that relationship satisfaction drops significantly after a baby is born. One study from Gottman Institute found that 67% of couples experience a decline in relationship satisfaction in the first three years after having a child. . This isn’t because we don’t love our partners. It’s because stress, sleep deprivation, new responsibilities, and shifting priorities stretch even the strongest bonds. But planning ahead can make a measurable difference. In our postpartum plan, we encourage couples to: Planning for your relationship isn’t about fearing the worst; it’s about strengthening your foundation so it can hold the weight of what’s to come. Prevention Is the earliest intervention As we share in our Matrescence Practitioner Certification, “supporting mothers before challenges arise is the earliest intervention for maternal wellbeing.” Preventing distress before it begins isn’t about shielding mothers from the natural difficulties of motherhood. It’s about reducing avoidable stress and empowering them with tools to navigate what’s to come. Research on stress inoculation training shows that being exposed to potential challenges in a controlled way helps improve real-world coping. When mothers understand what’s likely to happen, emotionally, logistically, relationally, they’re better equipped to respond, not just react. They become more resilient, more adaptable, and less likely to feel ambushed by their own transition. Likewise, research into post-traumatic growth (PTG) shows that challenges can be transformative when mothers are prepared. When we approach matrescence with education, planning, and support, we’re not just preventing burnout, we’re building emotional strength, identity integration, and confidence. So much of the overwhelm mothers experience is not because they’re not coping, but because they were never taught what to expect. They weren’t given the language, the validation, or the frameworks. That’s what our postpartum plan and our Matrescence Practitioner Certification exists to shift. For Professionals and Policymakers If you support mothers, whether clinically, as a birth worker, or in community care, this isn’t about adding to their to-do list. It’s about encouraging them to invest in their own soft landing. Planning is emotional

Maternal and paternal suicide in Aotearoa: a kōrero we must have

Maternal and Paternal Suicide – It’s a hard conversation, but one that needs to be had – this one comes with a *trigger warning*  Parenting can come with challenges from every angle – the unknowns, the pressures, the lack of a village….. It can be overwhelming and we’re seeing many parents struggling with the weight of the load, alongside carrying their babies – especially those with a history of mental health challenges, birth trauma and deeper layers to their story. Mental health support is massively undervalued here in Aotearoa, with many parents reaching out for help only to fall through cracks that urgently need to be filled with preventative support and practical responses.   Too many babies are growing up without their parents as we face an endemic crisis – one that isn’t being met with the level of support it needs and deserves. Suicide prevention really matters – for our babies, for our parents, for our entire community.  Life is hard out there, and without support, families are being left in places they struggle to climb back from. Parents need and deserve more support – and they need it now. It’s important to speak up. To ask for help, and to ask again when it doesn’t feel like anyone is listening.  To accept help, even when it feels impossible. To let someone you trust see the truth of what’s going on in your mind.  The world needs us to have these uncomfortable conversations – because our lives depend on it. Following a suicide attempt as a teenager, I lived through years of shame before walking a new path, living well and recovered as a Suicide Prevention Advocate.  The darkness knocked on my door again in postpartum –  navigating life with a new baby alongside anxiety, suicidal ideation and no village rocked me in a whole new way. While the tool belt and wisdom of my past was there to lean on, it wasn’t enough and I saw a serious need for more full-circle support and an alternative to the elusive village. I truly do not take this work lightly.Knowing the depths of how it feels to want to leave this life – it’s brutal, its dark and it’s not easy to pull yourself back from – and a huge driving force behind our support. We know these conversations are hard, especially for those who have lost loved ones to suicide and those in hard places right now, and we speak of this with so much compassion and understanding. We know there’s fear that talking about suicide can lead to increases in suicide and cause distress, and while believe this caution is incredibly important, we also feel that human conversations, approached with sensitivity and safety, can help create a shift in how we approach these difficult conversations on a human level.  We’ve come a long way, yet we seem to be stuck in the awareness phase with very little support, information and knowledge on how we can make proactive, societal changes to actually move forward. There’s a lof of shame and stigma attached to these very human and real experiences – yet in our work we’re seeing this show up for many, if not most, parents, both new, seasoned and from every walk of life – when we say “you’re not alone” – we really do mean this, you are not alone, the world’s just really shit at talking about hard things sometimes. We know that speaking up can be one of the hardest, yet most powerful things we can do – not only for ourselves, but those around us so they can help us, and so we can stay to see our babies grow – and we’re here to shake this up a bit, not only in your feed and homes, but in our society too. Too often, as a society we see someone struggling and don’t know what to say or do, offering an (unintentionally) dismissive “You’re doing great, mama!” without stopping to ask questions or notice that someone’s crying for help. There’s too much of the “well at least …you should be grateful” mentality in our society – and unfortunately, this doesn’t prevent suicide….it can amplify it. Most people don’t want some to fix their struggles – they just need a present, safe space to be real without judgement or pressure. Sometimes that looks like helping with practical steps like booking a doctor’s appointment, connecting with a community support service, making sure they’ve showered and eaten or sometimes its just being there to listen. Support doesn’t always have to be huge to be impactful. Being seen and heard carries a kind of real, tangible magic, especially when combined with something to lighten the load in the physical world. Of course, safety should always be the highest priority when working in human centred support. Peer Support can be incredibly helpful, however deeper distress and stressors truly need and deserve more extensive clinical support.  We do believe that offering a safe presence and space can help someone feel less alone and serve as a beneficial starting point while awaiting broader societal changes, but we note this simple support is not an answer for everyone. Founded by a Mother, Suicide Prevention Advocate, Maternal Mental Health Peer Support and Matrescence Practitioner, Dew Drops was born through lived experience and a deep understanding of the sensitive nature of mental health distress.   Dew Drops provides safe, informed, practical support to reduce physical overwhelm in the home – helping parents find a little more room to breathe, take time to rest and support the mind through its challenges. This support is more than home help – sometimes it’s a lifeline, a form of suicide prevention that meets parents where they are, supporting them to keep moving through the hardest moments, with a little less pressure. We know that’s a bold claim…but from our experience and words from families we support – the difference it makes is something we witness every day. Suicide is a

Feeling Lost in Motherhood? Start Here

Motherhood is wild. It’s full of love, mess, laughter, and tears – and we swing from the peak of one emotion to the depths of another in moments, all day long. As Mums, we’re often told to “look after ourselves,” but what does that actually mean when you’re juggling lunchboxes, tantrums, maybe a career, and whatever version of sleep you’re managing right now? Self-care isn’t just bubble baths and alone time (though those are lovely too). Real self-care starts with getting to know the answers to these two questions; 1. Who am I?2. How am I? These aren’t just questions. Think of them as anchors, ways to return to yourself in the chaos of parenting.  Top Tip 1: Who Am I Now? This might be the most important question you ask yourself right now. Not, “Who was I before kids?”Not, “How can I get my old life back?”But rather, “Who am I now?” There’s often a pressure (sometimes internal, sometimes societal) to “bounce back” – to your body, your job, your hobbies, your identity. But here’s the thing: You’re not going back. You’re going forward. You’ve gone through one of life’s most profound transformations, one that deserves the same recognition we give to adolescence. There’s actually a word for it: Matrescence. It’s the emotional, psychological, physical, and social transition into motherhood. I didn’t even know this word until I had my second child. And I wish I’d known it sooner. Because instead of feeling like I was “failing” for not being who I used to be, I could’ve realised: of course I’m changing. I’m meant to. A Personal Example Before I had kids, I lived in central Auckland, worked full-time at a major bank, hiked on weekends, did back-to-back yoga classes, and had a little eco-friendly lifestyle dialled in. I only needed to put out 1 bag of landfill every two weeks. Now? None of that is true anymore. And for a long time, I resisted it. I tried to keep up with that old version of me. But I was exhausted, misaligned, and honestly – just a bit lost. When I finally got curious (and compassionate) about who I was now, I started to make changes. Small ones at first. And life got lighter. Reflection Prompts for You Let’s take a moment. Ask yourself: This isn’t about throwing away your old self. She was wonderful. This is about letting her evolve, gently and with grace. You’re not losing yourself. You’re meeting yourself again. So much of being well as a parent starts with understanding this new version of you. Think back: So take a deep breath, soften your shoulders, and give yourself the space to evolve. You don’t need to figure it all out today. Just start with gentle curiosity. The next part? Listening. Top Tip 2: How Am I, Really? As Mums, we can go an entire day – or even several – without checking in on ourselves. We wake to cries, move through the day meeting everyone else’s needs – the kids, work, the house, maybe even the dog. And before we know it, we collapse into bed without having once asked ourselves: How am I doing today? Maybe you know you’re exhausted – that feeling can be pretty loud. But have you actually sat with that? Have you listened in, the way you would to a close friend? Or your child? Try This Daily Check-In. Even just 5 minutes.  Start by asking: It could be as small as a deep breath, a walk around the block, or saying no to one thing on your list. It’s not selfish to carve out time each day for you. You’re being self-aware, and that’s how we make aligned decisions in our day that actually support us. Not sure where to find even 5 minutes in a day? Start small. Try these in-between moments to pause: We’re so good at tuning into our kids. We watch them closely, we ask how they’re feeling, and we adjust the day to support what they need. How often do we offer ourselves that same care? A Final Note Self-care doesn’t need to be big, fancy or expensive. But it does need to be inwards and intentional. Māmā, you are doing so much. And you deserve rest, support, joy, and time to breathe – not in some magical future season, but now. There are an array of tools and places to focus energy when navigating the challenges of motherhood; getting to know your inner critic, practicing self compassion, practicing building community, letting go, asking for help or even setting boundaries. But if you can start anywhere, start with Who am I now?How am I today? Keep asking them. Keep listening. And keep choosing small ways to honour the answers you hear. If you are feeling overwhelmed, reactive, or like you’re running on empty – you’re not alone. And I’ve got something for you. Join my free virtual workshop: Feel Calm, in the ChaosYou’ll learn science-backed tools to regulate your nervous system, calm your body, and reset in the chaos of daily life. 7.30pm, Monday 29 SeptemberFree to attend thanks to The Village NZRegister here (just create a quick Village NZ hub account) Citations: “Being the best person that they can be and the best mum”: a qualitative study of community volunteer doula support for disadvantaged mothers before and after birth in England McLeish J, Redshaw M. BMC Pregnancy and Childbirth 2019 Jan 10;19(1):21 abstract “Perceptions and experiences of labour companionship: a qualitative evidence synthesis.” Bohren MA, Berger BO, Munthe-Kaas H, Tunçalp Ö. Cochrane Database of Systematic Reviews 2019, Issue 3. Art. No.:CD012449; abstract “Having a tough time.” Towards an understanding of the psycho-social causes of postpartum emotional distress.”Knaak, S. Journal of the Association for Research on Mothering abstract

Postnatal doulas and our role in your village 

What is a postnatal doula? Why would you get one and what do they actually do? How do you find one and what do they cost?  In the early days and weeks of parenthood when everything is new and everyone is Figuring Things Out, you might find yours and your baby’s essential practical and medical needs are being met, but what about everything else? What about yours and your partners’ emotional recovery from the wild ride of birth – however it played out? Who’s making sure you’re well nourished? Who’s helping you with the domestics? Who’s helping you at least have one hot cuppa and a shower without interruption?  Do you have anyone who can offer another pair of arms to rock your baby when you’re absolutely exhausted? Take care of them while you catch up on sleep? Sit with you between midwife visits, help you establish feeding, build your confidence and be a non-judgemental source of evidence-based support and signposting to other professional services you might need.  And what about when the time comes for you to do something alone, something for you – perhaps get out into the world, move your body, reconnect with your partner or older children?  A postnatal doula can help you with all of that, and more.  And it’s not because you can’t handle parenthood on your own, it’s because we weren’t meant to do it on our own. Modern life means people are often living far away from their immediate family, have partners who can only take two weeks’ parental leave, and who are faced with a barrage of information about the do’s and don’ts, the ‘must-haves’ and the ‘ideals’ and whose postnatal healthcare teams are spread too thin.  Postnatal doulas offer professional, compassionate and evidence-based care. We do not give medical advice, undertake examinations or perform any other clinical tasks. We take time to get to know you and your family, and provide support that’s totally tailored to you as you navigate the ride that is postpartum.  Doulas are not new  The concept of community-based, in-home support during the postpartum period isn’t new – it’s been around as long as we have. In many cultures around the world, new mothers are surrounded by experienced women who provide practical support, share wisdom, and ensure the new family is fully nurtured.  However, modern life has dismantled our traditional support systems. We often live far from where we were raised. We’re expected to bounce back quickly, to manage independently, and to find our way through parenthood with minimal support. The feeling of isolation this can create  contributes to higher rates of postnatal depression, relationship stress, and feelings of inadequacy among new parents.  An experienced postnatal doula brings ancient wisdom into the modern era, offering part of the village needed to help raise your child.  What does postnatal doula support actually look like?  Think of your doula as an extra pair of experienced, caring hands who shows up without judgement and with the specific intention of tending to your entire family during the perinatal period.  Practical support  During a visit, your postnatal doula might arrive with a nourishing meal – nutritious, warm, easy on the digestive system and perfect for recovery, perhaps some homemade bread and soup, or an easy pasta bake that can be frozen for when you need it. While you focus on feeding and bonding with your baby, we’re quietly taking care of the things that can end up feeling overwhelming or just too much to take on: changing bed sheets, folding a load of washing, tidying the kitchen, or playing with other children.  Equally, we might be using some of our early sessions to take care of your baby so you can sleep, honouring your need for rest as the most vital part of physical and emotional recovery.  As time goes on and life settles, postpartum doulas can help ease the transition of partners going back to work, providing continuity of support as your midwife visits come to an end. We are also often our clients’ first babysitters!  Emotional and informational support  Beyond the practical tasks, doulas provide a safe space for you to process your birth experience, discuss any feeding challenges, and simply talk through the myriad of emotions that accompany new parenthood. We’re trained to listen without judgment, offer evidence-based information when needed, and remind you that your instincts are valid and important.  Many of us are trained with a trauma-informed approach to care, which means we can hold space and support the tough things that may come up.  Doulas will also help connect you with other services and support networks, whether that’s a lactation consultant for feeding troubles, mental health support, infant sleep support, or local parent groups. We act as a bridge between your family and the wider support systems available in your community. Some doulas offer these types of additional services themselves.  Debunking doula myths  Despite the growing recognition and availability of postnatal doula support in Aotearoa, there are a couple of myths that warrant busting, so people aren’t dissuaded from accessing a service that might be transformative for them.  “You don’t need a doula if you have family nearby”  While family support is invaluable, it can bring its own complexities. Close relatives may not always be available – especially if they live far away, or are working. Grandparents may have an ‘outdated’ view of baby care and could bring strong opinions about your parenting choices, however well-meaning they are.  Family dynamics can also include an emotional context and/or expectations that may add stress rather than relief during a vulnerable time. Postnatal doulas are not family members, and that is often what our clients value most!  “Doulas make partners feel useless”  Experienced doulas will actually enhance partners’ abilities to give their best support. A doula will give them guidance, build their confidence, help answer their own questions, help them process their experiences of the birth process and ensure they are also getting necessary rest.  Rather than

Clothes That Last: A Parent’s Guide to Choosing Kidswear That Goes the Distance

As parents, we know the story all too well: you buy a cute top for your toddler, and two washes later it’s stretched out, faded, or riddled with holes. Kids grow quickly, yes. But when clothes don’t even last through one season of wear, it’s frustrating, expensive, and wasteful. And with the rising cost of living in New Zealand, parents are more careful than ever about where their money goes. Clothing is a necessity, but it doesn’t have to be a constant drain on the family budget. Choosing clothes that last means fewer replacements, less stress, and better value over time. So how can you spot kids’ clothes that truly go the distance? And why does it matter so much in a Kiwi household? Let’s dive in. Why Longevity in Kids’ Clothing Matters Saves Money Over TimeWhen every dollar counts, spending a little more upfront often means spending less overall. A durable $40 t-shirt that survives 40 washes is better value than a $15 one that falls apart after five. The cost per wear is what really matters. Kinder on the PlanetEvery year, New Zealand sends thousands of tonnes of textile waste to landfill. When clothes are built to last, they stay in use longer, reducing environmental impact. Hand-Me-Down PotentialHigh-quality clothes can live on through siblings, cousins, friends or donating to those in need. That’s real value for families who are juggling budgets and don’t want to keep buying new every season. The Problem with Fast Fashion It’s tempting to grab a bargain, especially when kids seem to sprout out of their clothes overnight. But fast fashion, cheap, mass-produced clothing designed to be replaced often—comes with hidden costs. The low price tag can be misleading. If a t-shirt only lasts a handful of wears before shrinking, stretching, or fading, you end up paying more over time by replacing it again and again. On top of that, many of these items can’t be reused or handed down, and they end up in landfill after just a short life. Fast fashion doesn’t suit the Kiwi lifestyle either. Our kids run, climb, play, and get messy. Cheap fabrics and flimsy seams rarely survive the wear and tear. For families balancing the cost of living, the cycle of buy–replace–throw out just doesn’t make sense. That’s why investing in fewer, better-quality pieces is a smarter choice for both your wallet and the planet. What to Look for in Clothes That Last When you’re shopping for your little one, here are a few key things to check: Tip for parents: Create a “quality checklist” in your phone notes. You’ll quickly learn to spot which brands pass the test and which don’t. The Kiwi Kid Factor: Why NZ Families Need Tougher Clothes Kiwi kids don’t just sit inside. They run, climb, roll, and explore. A typical week might involve a trip to the playground, muddy gumboots at kindy, beach adventures, and a tumble across the lawn. That means New Zealand parents need kidswear that can handle: Unfortunately, many mass-market clothes just don’t measure up. They might look fine on the rack, but shrink, stretch, or fade far too quickly. For busy parents, that’s not just an inconvenience—it’s an extra cost. How Tiny Fern Approaches Kidswear When I started Tiny Fern, my goal was simple: create clothes that are soft enough for everyday wear but tough enough to keep up with real Kiwi kids. Here’s what sets our pieces apart: Parents who have already discovered Tiny Fern often tell me their children’s favourite tees outlast everything else in the drawer. That’s exactly the kind of feedback I dreamed of when starting this journey. Tips to Make Kids’ Clothes Last Even Longer Buying quality is the first step, but how you care for kidswear matters too. A few easy hacks can extend the life of your child’s wardrobe: These small steps can double the lifespan of your child’s clothing and keep wardrobes looking fresh. Why It’s Worth the Shift In today’s cost-of-living climate, parents need every purchase to go the distance. Clothes that last aren’t just about style or comfort. They’re about stretching budgets further, reducing waste, and investing in items that can truly keep up with family life. By resisting the pull of fast fashion and choosing durable, thoughtfully made clothes, Kiwi parents can save money, stress less, and make more sustainable choices. Final Thoughts Parenting is already full of fast-moving moments, our kids’ clothes shouldn’t be one of them. By choosing clothes that last, we give our tamariki comfort, value, and freedom to explore, while protecting our wallets and our planet. If you’re curious about how nature-inspired, durable clothing can fit into your child’s wardrobe, take a peek at the Tiny Fern range, designed and printed in New Zealand, for Kiwi kids who live life to the fullest. Jade Gibens

One less thing to Google at 2am: introducing the Fourth Trimester Sleep Call

Hi, I’m Fran — mum of two and a certified sleep consultant.Before I trained as an SC, I went into my first newborn stage thinking, “I won’t sleep much, and I should sleep when the baby sleeps.” That was about the extent of my plan. Two weeks in, between breastfeeding, postpartum recovery, and bone-deep exhaustion, I was deep in the trenches and even deeper in conflicting advice. One blog said one thing, an Instagram post said the opposite, and I felt more confused than ever. Looking back, my daughter wasn’t a “bad sleeper”. She was doing normal newborn things, and I simply didn’t know what normal looked like. Second time around, with more knowledge and confidence, everything felt calmer. That shift is why I created the Fourth Trimester Sleep Call — to give expecting and new parents clarity about what is normal, what actually helps, and what you can gently put in place from day one. This is not about strict routines or one-size-fits-all rules. It is about education, support, and realistic, kind foundations for your baby and your family. What the Fourth Trimester Sleep Call is A 1-hour, personalised consultation for expecting parents or those in the newborn trenches who want to understand newborn sleep and feel confident responding to it. We unpack what the first 12 weeks really look like, why sleep can feel so up and down, and how to create a calming rhythm that works for your baby’s age, temperament, and your lifestyle. You can bring all your questions, or I can lead the way. Either approach ends with you feeling grounded, informed, and with one less thing to Google at 2am. Who it’s for What’s included What you will leave with Investment $129 NZD for a 60-minute call, plus your summary email. Ready to feel more prepared and supported? Book your Fourth Trimester Sleep Call today and step into newborn life with confidence and clarity. Fran, Hello Sleep

Preparing for a Positive VBAC

If you’ve had a C-section before, the idea of a vaginal birth might bring hope, excitement, anxiety, or uncertainty. A VBAC (Vaginal Birth After Caesarean) is very possible and with the right preparation, support, and mindset, it can also be a healing and empowering experience. Here in Aotearoa, about one-third of births are currently by caesarean, and that number is rising. This means more and more families are thinking about their options for future births. An elective caesarean can be absolutely valid and, for some, very healing. But it’s also important to know that each caesarean can bring increased risks in future pregnancies – one of the reasons many people consider or choose VBAC. Research shows that around 60–80% of people who plan a VBAC do go on to birth vaginally, especially when labour begins on its own, they have continuity of care and interventions are kept to a minimum. While VBAC does carry some risks, they’re often lower than many assume. For example, the chance of uterine rupture after one caesarean is about 1 in 200 (0.5%), though some interventions can increase this slightly. As a midwife and antenatal educator I’ve supported many VBAC journeys. One of the most common questions I hear is: “Do you have any tips for preparing for a VBAC?” Here are my top 10 to help you feel confident, informed and supported. 1. Choose a Supportive Team Pick care providers and a birth partner who genuinely support VBAC and trust your body. You can always decline recommendations that don’t align with your values or change providers if needed. 2. Understand Your Previous Birth Request your notes, ask questions and debrief what led to your caesarean. Working through any fears or trauma with a professional can be powerful. Releasing fear helps labour progress more effectively. 3. Reframe Your Mindset Mindset matters. Relaxation, breathing, visualisation,and affirmations reduce fear, calm your body and support a smoother labour. Reframe your language: instead of “I’ll try for a VBAC,” say “I’m having a VBAC.” 4. Educate Yourself Knowledge really is power. The more you understand about labour, what supports a physiological birth and what VBAC looks like, the more confident you’ll feel. Learn your hospital’s policies and VBAC guidelines too. If you’d like structured, evidence-based support, my online antenatal course covers birth physiology, interventions, natural comfort measures, postpartum, and more. It gives you the foundations you need to feel prepared and confident for whatever path your birth takes. 5. Listen to Positive Stories Hearing VBAC success stories – through podcasts, blogs, or support groups – can be uplifting and remind you that you’re not alone. 6. Support Optimal Baby Positioning Encourage baby into a good position with forward leaning, hands-and-knees or a birth ball prior to labour. Stay upright and active in labour to use gravity and create more pelvic space. Techniques like yoga, acupuncture or Spinning Babies can help too. 7. Let Labour Begin Spontaneously Spontaneous labour is one of the biggest predictors of VBAC success. Try to avoid unnecessary induction or intervention unless medically indicated. 8. Stay Home Early On If safe, remain at home for as long as possible during the early stages of labour. Privacy and comfort help oxytocin flow which supports smooth, effective labour. 9. Create a Calm Birth Environment Low lighting, music, familiar scents and supportive people all help you feel safe and allow labour to flow. You can create this space at home or hospital. 10. Document Your Birth Preferences A flexible birth map helps you feel informed and respected, even if circumstances change. Plan for a VBAC but prepare emotionally for all outcomes. I’ve created a Birth Preferences Template to make this process easier. It not only helps you outline your ideal VBAC, but also includes space to plan for contingencies – including preferences in case of an emergency c-section. Having these written down ensures your wishes are known, no matter how your birth unfolds. You can download the template for free using the code HEYMAMA. Printing a copy and placing it in your birth space also means any staff who enter are aware of your preferences, even if they haven’t met you before. Final Thoughts Preparing for VBAC is about more than knowledge – it’s about confidence, support and advocacy. Trust your instincts, surround yourself with the right team and remember your voice matters in every decision. If you’d like more evidence-based, holistic education, I’d love to welcome you into one of my online or in-person antenatal classes at My Little Kiwi. Let’s write your next birth story your way. About Becca Becca is a registered midwife, antenatal educator and mum of two from the Waikato. She founded My Little Kiwi to empower families with evidence-based, practical, and holistic antenatal education. She has helped support hundreds of families to have a positive birth and postpartum experience.

Creating the Perfect Safe Sleep Environment for Your Baby 

Ensuring your baby gets a restful and safe night’s sleep is one of the most important things you can do for their development and wellbeing. In the early months, sleep fuels everything – from brain development to physical growth, and it affects the mood and energy of the whole family.  But creating the perfect sleep space is about more than comfort, it’s about safety. In New Zealand, safe sleep guidelines are in place to protect babies from preventable risks like Sudden Unexpected Death in Infancy (SUDI). A well-designed nursery and safe sleeping space combine the right equipment, environment, and routines to support both rest and safety.  In this guide, we’ll explore how to create a safe, comfortable sleep environment for your baby, covering cot and mattress choices, bedding, room conditions, and essential nursery safety measures.  1. Start with the Right Cot  Your baby will spend thousands of hours in their cot, so it’s important to choose one that meets New Zealand safety standards.  Look for the safety standard sticker All cots sold in NZ – new or second-hand, must comply with AS/NZS 2172. Don’t just take the seller’s word for it, check the sticker is current.  Check the base Measure carefully Safety standards allow for gaps between bars of 50-95 mm, small enough to prevent a child slipping through, but big enough for airflow.  Mind the fit There should be no more than a 20 mm gap between the mattress and the cot sides when the mattress is centred.  Avoid drop sides unless well-secured If your cot has a drop side, make sure it can’t be moved easily from inside by a bouncing child.  2. Choose a Mattress That’s Safe, Firm, and Breathable  A baby’s mattress needs to be firm, flat, and well-fitting – soft surfaces increase the risk of suffocation.  Why firmness matters A too-soft mattress can let your baby’s face sink in, making it harder to breathe.  Breathability is a game-changer Growbright’s airnest Cot Mattress is made from high-quality, ultra-breathable materials. The food-grade polypropylene core allows air to flow freely, reducing overheating and helping dissipate carbon dioxide if your baby rolls over.  Chemical-free peace of mind The airnest core contains no foams, adhesives, or chemical nasties. The cover is Oeko-Tex® Class One certified, safe for babies from birth.  Easy care The airnest system is completely washable, including the mattress core – keeping your baby’s sleep surface hygienic and allergen-free.  3. Keep Bedding Simple and Safe  The Ministry of Health and the American Academy of Pediatrics both recommend:  Fitted sheets only Growbright’s airnest Fitted Sheets are made from breathable TENCEL™ fibres that may help regulate temperature.  Waterproof layer A waterproof mattress protector can be a real lifesaver during those messy moments, like toilet training or when your little one is feeling under the weather. With the airnest Cot Mattress, we don’t recommend using a waterproof layer every night, so you can enjoy its full breathability. But for “spilly” times, sickness, or for use on another mattress that can’t be fully washed, the airnest Waterproof Mattress Topper is perfect. It keeps your baby comfortable and airflow flowing, while protecting against spills and leaks.  Swaddles instead of blankets Loose blankets can cover your baby’s face. A wearable swaddle or sleeping bag keeps your baby warm without risk. Swaddling also soothes and promotes longer stretches of sleep.  4. Temperature & Ventilation  Overheating is a known risk factor for SUDI. The ideal nursery temperature is 20–22°C.  How to maintain the right temperature:  The airnest sleep system’s breathable layers naturally help regulate temperature, keeping your baby comfortable year-round.  5. Light, Noise & Routine  Light control Blackout curtains make it easier for your baby to nap during the day and sleep longer at night. For night feeds, use a dim light so baby stays sleepy.  Sound environment White noise or gentle lullabies can mask background noise and signal it’s time to rest.  Consistency counts A predictable routine – such as bath, feed, cuddle, swaddle, white noise – helps your baby transition into sleep more easily.  6. Nursery Safety Beyond the Cot  A safe nursery is about more than just the sleep space. Here’s a quick safety checklist:  Fix your furniture Anchor tall furniture to the wall to prevent tipping, especially as your baby starts to pull up and climb.  Rounded edges & smooth finishes Choose nursery furniture without sharp corners to reduce bumps and bruises.  Windows & cords Install window latches and keep blind cords out of reach to prevent falls and strangulation risks.  Floor safety If you have hard flooring, add a rug or padded mat for warmth and cushioning.  General hazards  7. As Your Baby Grows: Toddler Room Safety  Toddlers are curious and mobile, so safety needs to adapt.  8. Your NZ Safe Sleep Recap  From Plunket and Ministry of Health guidance:  Final Thoughts  Creating the perfect safe sleep environment for your baby is about combining evidence-based safety guidelines with comfort and practicality.  By:  …you can rest easier knowing you’ve given your baby the best possible start.  When I became a mum to Liam and Amelia, I had no idea what I was doing. Trust your intuition, keep it safe and simple, and lean on your village, you’ve got this. – Natalie 

Natural Pain Relief in Early Labour

Recently a friend told me about his wife going into labour. “We went up to the hospital, bags packed, ready to get the show on the road, but then we were told she hadn’t dilated enough and we were sent back home,” he told me. “She was so disappointed.” It’s a story that would be familiar for many first-time mums. Knowing when you’ve reached established labour is hard to gauge – and as the pain continues to escalate, you’re not sure how much you can take before heading to hospital. But if your pregnancy is low risk, riding out the early stages of labour (which can quite often be many hours!) at home is really important, according to midwife Sam Ghazi. “Most midwives tell you to come to the hospital when you’re having strong and regular contractions,” she says. “If you come to the hospital too early, when you’re not in established labour, they’ll suggest you go back home because your home environment is less stressful, and you’re more likely to progress your labour more comfortably and naturally.” While this can seem quite daunting as you’re left to manage the pain by yourself, don’t despair – there are a number of natural pain relief options you can prepare for in advance, to help you cope until you get to hospital.  Heat packs Many women swear by using a heat pack on their lower back during labour to help manage pain. “This can help ease the tension and backache in early labour by relaxing the muscles,” explains Sam. Hot water bottles or wheat bags are good options. Labour TENS machine “When I was gritting my teeth and breathing my way through early labour at home, I wouldn’t have coped half as well without a labour TENS machine. Not only did this help manage the pain, but it also worked as a good distraction and allowed me to feel like I had some control over the situation.” TENS machines are small, battery-operated devices with pads you place on your back, which transmit tiny electrical (and safe) impulses. These impulses flood your nervous system, reducing its ability to transmit pain signals through the spinal cord to your brain. Essentially the TENS interferes with the pain signals running through to your brain. “It is most effective in the early stages of labour,” advises Sam. Labour TENS machines can be hired over the internet. Hot baths and showers Hot baths and showers help during labour for two reasons: they help manage the pain, and they also help you to relax. When Emma Runciman went into labour at home she was constantly jumping in and out of the shower to help lessen the pain. “I would go in for periods at a time until I thought the pain had eased,” explains Emma. “Then I would jump out and do something else, but I never sat down.” When the pain became too much again, she would jump back in the shower. She said by standing up with her back under the hot water she felt like a lot of the weight was lifted off her, which helped alleviate the pain. Deep breaths While in labour with her first baby, Leanne Milner used a combination of natural pain relief options to manage the pain while at home. One of these options was slow, deep breathing while bouncing on a fit ball or leaning over her kitchen bench. Taking deep breaths during labour has a number of benefits, including sending extra oxygen to the muscles, which helps release tension and allows your muscles to relax. There are many different breathing techniques you can try, so do some research to work out which one best suits you ahead of time. Massages This is where a good birthing partner comes into play. Having someone massage you can help stimulate the release of your own natural painkillers (endorphins) – and anything that kills pain will be your friend during every stage of labour. However, Sam says to communicate with your birthing partner throughout your labour, as being touched may begin to annoy you as your labour progresses. Distraction The simple art of distraction has proven to be a great way of coping with pain. In the early stages of labour, occupy your time. Fold washing, watch Netflix, wander around your garden, pick flowers, read a book. If you’re able to, keep quietly busy and active, and you’ll find the time goes quicker. Relax Lastly, it’s vital to relax while in labour. (You may already have realised that from all the information above!) “Feeling as relaxed as possible is important because feeling anxious can make the pain and discomfort worse,” explains Sam. “Women can try music, relaxation tapes, aromatherapy, and breathing techniques to try and stay relaxed.” None of these pain relief options will completely alleviate the intense pain of birthing a child, but they will hopefully help you manage it to the point where you reach regular, strong contractions and established labour.  Hire a TENS machine.

Postpartum Does Not Stop At Six Weeks, It Grows With Your Whānau

We do not talk about this enough. Postpartum is not a neat six week window, it is a living season that shifts as your child grows. Newborn nights turn into kindy drop offs, school runs, lunchboxes, winter bugs, sports uniforms, permission slips, and never ending laundry. The mental and physical load does not disappear when the bassinet goes back in the cupboard, it just changes shape. Your Lead Maternity Carer usually provides formal postnatal care for up to six weeks, yet the need for support carries on well past that first check in. “Doing it all” is outdated and unfair Many of us still feel pressure to be everything at once, the perfect parent, partner, house manager, and employee. The reality is simpler and more honest. Families thrive when the load is shared and visible. Time use data in Aotearoa shows why the old “do it all” story does not fit. In New Zealand’s most recent full Time Use Survey, women recorded about 4 hours 20 minutes a day on unpaid work, while men recorded 2 hours 32 minutes. – Manatū Wāhine Ministry for Women Cross country analysis paints the same picture. Globally, women do roughly three quarters of unpaid care work. And when you look at the mix of paid and unpaid work, New Zealand women spend about 65.4% of their total work time in unpaid care, compared with 29.4% for men. That imbalance feeds directly into stress, capacity, and how much a household asks of its primary parent.- wgea.gov.au Your wellbeing sets the tone at home The energy of a home often follows the caregiver’s nervous system. When you are stretched thin, everything feels brittle. When you are supported, fed, and have fewer spinning plates, the whole house breathes easier. Maternal mental health is a core part of family wellbeing. New Zealand reports show 12 to 18 percent of mothers experience depression, anxiety, or other perinatal mental health needs, and that many do not meet criteria for specialist services. Suicide has been the leading cause of maternal death in Aotearoa across multiple reporting periods, which underscores how vital it is to take caregiver wellbeing seriously. Burnout matters here too. International research suggests at least 5 percent of parents experience parental burnout at any given time, with serious consequences for health and relationships if it goes unaddressed. Practical support helps families feel human again Real life help is not glamorous, it is grounding. Warm kai on the bench means you can sit with your tamariki instead of scrubbing pans. A reset lounge means the evening starts at neutral, not in the red. Folded washing means no last minute sock hunt before the bell. This is the kind of care Postpartmum brings into your everyday. What we do, in simple terms: Ready to prioritise what would help most this week. You can book a package that fits your season, from a short reset to a fuller in home session: Make a booking. Explore individual options here, including the Freshen Up or Take A Break sessions. Postpartum support should not stop at six weeks Those first weeks matter, and so do the next six months, and the next six years. Returning to work, toilet training, kindy transitions, school notes, therapy appointments, sports days, and the sickness carousel all add layers to the mental load. Support that continues past the early days is not a luxury, it is practical infrastructure for family life. Our care model is built for newborn snuggles and for kindy runs and school seasons, because postpartum is still postpartum when your oldest needs a costume by tomorrow and your youngest is teething. How Postpartmum eases the load Want to gift real help. Postpartmum is genuinely the gift that keeps giving for baby showers, second babies, and return to work weeks. Send support straight to a family with a digital gift card. A new story for Aotearoa Imagine if we measured success not by a spotless house, but by how supported parents feel. Imagine if help arrived before crisis, and if warm meals, tidy spaces, and extra hands were normal parts of family life. The data already tells us the load is uneven. The fix is cultural and practical, name the load, share it, and bring in support. If you are tired of carrying it all, you are not failing, you are human. We would love to help you feel human again. Find us on Hey Māmā, or book direct with Postpartmum: Make a booking | About us | Gift cards

How Nutrition Can Truly Help You Heal Postpartum

Hey Mama, If you’re feeling flat, foggy, constipated, or just not yourself since birth — I see you. And I want you to know this:It doesn’t have to be this way. So many Mamas think feeling exhausted, depleted, or uncomfortable is just part of motherhood — but it’s often your body asking for something it’s not getting. Most of the time? That something is nourishment. What I Hear All the Time From Mamas “I’m so tired, even after a full night’s sleep.”“My digestion still hasn’t been right since birth, still constipated weeks post birth.”“I just don’t feel like me anymore.” You’re not alone. And these symptoms are common, but they are not inevitable. When we support your body with the right foods in those early postpartum weeks, everything changes — your energy, your digestion, your healing, your mood. Here’s What I Want You to Know Your body is doing so much behind the scenes after birth — healing wounds, rebalancing hormones, producing milk, rebuilding blood and nutrients lost. That kind of work requires more than crackers or toast while standing with a baby on your hip. You deserve real food.You deserve deep nourishment.And you deserve to feel supported — physically and emotionally — as you adjust to this new chapter. Let’s Talk About the Two Big Ones Constipation & Digestive Issues Honestly, hardly anyone talks about this — but it’s such a big deal postpartum. Whether it’s from iron supplements, stitches, fear of going to the toilet, or just slowed digestion after birth, so many Mamas feel uncomfortable for weeks. Your digestive system has been through a lot — and it needs warmth, hydration and gentle fibre to get going again. What helps: warm foods like soups, kitchari, oats; hydrating drinks like herbal teas and coconut water; chia, flaxseed, and magnesium-rich foods. Avoid raw, cold foods in the early weeks — your digestion will thank you. Fatigue & Feeling Depleted This isn’t just tiredness from broken sleep. It’s a deeper, heavier kind of exhaustion — the kind that lingers in your bones and makes even the smallest tasks feel overwhelming. And often, it’s not just about sleep — it’s about your body running on empty. Birth is one of the most energy-intensive, nutrient-draining experiences your body will ever go through. You lose blood, vital nutrients, energy reserves, and your hormones go through a massive shift. Then, almost immediately, your body is expected to keep going — to produce milk, heal tissues, regulate hormones, and care for your baby. Without replenishing what was lost, it’s no wonder so many Mamas feel depleted for months — even years — after giving birth. What helps? But here’s the truth: if you’re left depleted of key nutrients after birth — like iron, B12, iodine, omega-3s, or zinc — it can affect everything from your energy, immunity, and mood to your thyroid and hormone balance for years to come. That’s why the first 40 days are so crucial — this window is your foundation for long-term health and vitality. And this is exactly where a holistic nutritionist (like me!) can make a real difference. Together, we look at your unique needs — your symptoms, your diet, your lifestyle — and create a plan to ensure you’re getting the right nutrients in the right forms, through both food and supplements (especially if you avoid certain foods like meat or dairy). You don’t need more guesswork or random internet advice — you need tailored guidance that actually supports your body, your healing, and your goals. If you’re still pregnant — now is the time to think about your recovery. Not just what to pack in your hospital bag, but what your body will need to heal and rebuild in those first weeks. Imagine: That’s exactly what we do inside The Early Days Postpartum Planning Service — a one-off, personalised session where I help you set up your nourishment plan before baby arrives. It’s never too late. Whether you’re 6 days or 6 months in — if you’re not feeling like yourself, I can help. Through a 1:1 consultation, we’ll talk about what you need support with — low energy, digestion, mood, supply — and create a food and nourishment plan tailored just for you. It’s not about more pressure or more things to do. It’s about giving your body what it actually needs so you can feel stronger, more steady, and more like you again. Let’s make sure you’re supported with the nourishment your body truly needs. Here’s how we can work together: Not ready to book just yet? You don’t have to do this alone, Mama.I’m here when you’re ready. With love & care, — Arti xCertified Nutrition Consultant & Founder of Nourish Me Mama

Mess Happens: Smart Ways to Protect Your Home (and Sanity) With Kids Around

Let’s face it, life with little ones is messy. From 2 am bed changes to mid-car tummy bugs, kids have a knack for creating chaos in even the cleanest homes. And as much as we love them, we’d all prefer a little less scrubbing, soaking, and stressing. That’s where a few clever parenting tools come in. Whether you’re toilet training, dealing with sickness, or just trying to protect your couch from snack-time spills, here are some of the most helpful ways to make cleanups easier – and your home a whole lot messier. 🛏️ Night-time Accidents? Meet Your 2 am Lifesaver If there’s one product parents swear by during toilet training (and long after), it’s the Brolly Sheet with Wings. Designed by a Kiwi mum, it sits on top of your child’s fitted sheet with flaps that tuck securely under the mattress. So when accidents happen – whether it’s wee, vomit, or a surprise stomach bug – you can simply whip it off and go back to bed without stripping everything underneath. They hold up to 2L of liquid, are breathable, quiet, and soft against your child’s skin. Plus, they come in fun colours and prints that help turn accidents into something a little less stressful for everyone involved. Parents also use them for: “Honestly, I don’t know how we lived without it. Absolute game-changer during toilet training.” – NZ parent 🚗 Protecting the Car: Because No One Wants a Wee on the Seat Whether it’s a quick trip to the supermarket or a long summer road trip, accidents can (and will) happen in the car. That’s why many parents swear by Car Seat Protectors – waterproof pads that sit under car seats or boosters to catch spills, accidents, or those mysterious snack crumbs that somehow multiply daily. They’re ideal for: Car seat protectors are discreet, washable, and save you from those awkward steam-cleaning missions. Pair one with a Wet Bag to stash used clothes or back-up undies in the boot or glove box. No crinkly plastic bags needed – and no lingering smells either. 🛋️ At Home: Couch, Rug, and Carpet Defence Your home doesn’t have to suffer just because you’ve got kids. When you’re dealing with babies, toddlers or sick school-aged kids, every surface is fair game for mess. That’s where the Brolly Sheet with Wings comes in handy again. It’s not just for beds – lay one on the couch during movie night or under your toddler while they’re eating lunch. You can also use it on the floor as a play mat or during nappy-free time to protect the carpet. Because it’s soft and breathable, it’s far more comfy than a towel or plastic sheet – and looks a lot nicer too. 👶 Change-Time, Play-Time, and Baby-Time From messy nappy changes to tummy time and everything in between, having a soft, waterproof layer handy is a game-changer. You can use a Brolly Sheet or a compact Bed Pad (which is like a mini version) to: Many parents also use them on their change table or as a makeshift change mat while out and about. The best part? Just toss it in the wash and you’re good to go again. 🚽 Toilet Training Tools That Actually Help Toilet training is different for every child – and every parent. Some kids are dry in a week, others take their time. No matter what your journey looks like, having the right gear can make a huge difference. Here’s what parents are using (and loving) right now: Having these on hand means you’re not caught off guard – and your little one can feel confident knowing you’re prepared. 🤢 When Bugs Hit: Be Ready for Anything One thing all parents know – sickness never comes at a convenient time. Whether it’s gastro, the flu, or a surprise bout of car sickness, it pays to be ready. The Brolly Sheet is a total lifesaver when your child is unwell. Use it on their bed, the couch, or even in the car to catch vomit or leaks without destroying upholstery or mattress layers. It’s also a lot easier to change and wash than stripping everything – especially at 3 am. Having one clean and one on rotation means you’re always covered. Literally. ✈️ Travelling with Kids? Here’s What to Pack Even the best-laid travel plans go sideways when kids are involved. Whether you’re heading to the family bach, flying to visit grandparents, or doing a South Island road trip, these mess-minimisers are worth making room for: They don’t take up much space, but they’ll save your sanity when you’re trying to keep things clean in someone else’s home or a hotel room. 🧼 Final Tip: Build a “Mess Kit” and Keep It Handy You don’t need a big budget to stay prepared – just a few tried-and-tested essentials ready to go. Here’s what many parents keep in their “mess kit”: Tuck a mini version into your nappy bag or keep it in the car. You’ll be amazed how often you use it – and how glad you are to have it. 💬 Final Thoughts: You’re Doing Great Parenting is messy – and unpredictable. But with the right gear in your corner, you can spend less time scrubbing and more time enjoying the fun stuff (like eating a full meal sitting down… maybe).

Move with Purpose: Creating Space for a Positive Birth Experience

Although we know your body was built to birth the unpredictability of birth, let alone the concept of not knowing what you don’t know comes into play. But here’s the truth: preparation matters. When you understand how your body works during labour, how your uterus, your pelvis and your pelvic floor muscles move with purpose, you empower yourself with the ability to intentionally prepare your body for a confident positive birth experience. I know from both my own experience of a game changing third pregnancy and also through supporting others in their birth prep journey, when you have an understanding of what your body is working extremely hard to achieve during labour, you tend to cope better, your hormones align better, tension throughout your body is less and the labour process flows better. And when your body is prepared for the movement and has the ability to create the space that your baby needs to pass through your birth canal (pelvis and pelvic floor muscles) with ease then labour will be easier and progress smoother with less injury to this area. I know that fear is playing on your mind, and I intend to ease that through education and inspiration to support you to prepare you better for labour.  Here are my four essential tips to aid preparing your body for a confident labour and birth experience. UNDERSTAND THE LABOUR PROCESS Understand the process your body is going through for labour to progress When you empower yourself with the understanding of what your body, your uterus and your pelvis are working to achieve during the intensity of each contraction, you arm yourself with the awareness that the pain or intense sensation that you will feel with each regular contraction is for a purpose.  We all know that during labour and birth Mum’s go through a series of intense contractions, they will likely be extremely painful and hard to tolerate, you will likely spend a lot of time worrying or figuring out how you will manage this pain which is understandable and there are a lot of options. Here’s a great place to start. Think about understanding and visualising what your body is doing with each contraction, the uterus slowly building thickness and strength up to its top to thin and open your cervix at the bottom. You can work through that vision to help with this process rather than tense up to potentially hinder it.  Practicing for the endurance you will need for labour as the contractions build in intensity and become closer and closer together is a great tool to prepare you for this. Try this circuit aimed at keeping your mindset on task for about 1 minute at a time, which is roughly how long contractions will last at the most intense part of your labour. These will keep coming every 2-3 minutes, sometimes with very little break.  PELVIC MOVEMENT Practise moving your body in ways that will create space for your baby to be in the optimal position for labour to start and progress. Movement creates space, you need space for optimal positioning of the baby but also space and the ability of your pelvis to move subtly to open at the top, through the midpelvis and open at the bottom as your baby rotates through and is born. The position that your baby is in inside your uterus is significant in determining how your labour may progress. A consideration to support optimal positioning includes posture awareness; throughout your pregnancy, your posture changes significantly, your centre of gravity is thrown off as your baby grows out the front and the rest of your body compensates for that, creating tension in all sorts of places.  Ligaments surrounding your uterus can build up tension that may impact your baby’s positioning and potential your comfort with everyday activities. Having body awareness of how you stand, sit and move regularly and a toolbox of exercises to practise regularly to help keep tension even throughout your body will support your baby to find and maintain balance and space within your womb for optimal labour progression.  Additionally, having the understanding and ability of your pelvis to move in the subtle ways and the ability of your pelvic floor muscles to yield and stretch with ease will support the progress and outcomes of your labour. Pelvic mobility will help to enable your baby to engage into the top of your pelvis and the progression of your labour as your baby moves down and rotates through and out the bottom without getting stuck or causing nasty tears to your perineum/pelvic floor muscles.  This leads on to understanding the part your pelvic floor muscles play in your labour.  YOUR PELVIC FLOOR MUSCLES Do you even know much about your pelvic floor?  Your pelvic floor is the sling of muscles that sit within your pelvis attaching from front to back and side to side. Your pelvic floor muscles make up the bottom of your core system, they literally hold your abdominal organs in (your bladder, uterus and bowel) and control your toileting functions. During labour and birth, these muscles get stretched to 300-400 times their normal length, sometimes getting injured in the process, anything from small grazes to deep and nasty tears that may effect your toileting function afterbirth, this is something I’m extremely passionate about supporting you to prevent having suffered a nasty tear and subsequent problems with leaking ever since. I’m constantly shocked in my work as a maternity nurse hearing that Mum’s don’t know much about their pelvic floor muscles after giving birth. Preparation for birth with a good understanding of these muscles and practising ways to connect with and relax/lengthen these muscles for birth will help reduce your risk of injury. Grab your free pelvic floor protection guide here After birth, it is essential to take time to proactively and intentionally rehab your body, just like you would any other significant injury. Pregnancy, labour and birth impact your body significantly, you shouldn’t

Supporting Childhood Development and Milestones with Chiropractic Care

From the moment your little one takes their first breath, their brain and body begin a beautiful journey of growth, discovery, and development. As parents, we’re constantly watching for those special milestones – the first smile, the first steps, and their first words. But what happens when things seem a little delayed? Or when your child isn’t quite hitting those expected milestones at the speed others do? At The Chiro Studio, we can help support children with their development and meeting milestones through chiropractic care. We believe that every child deserves the best start in life — and chiropractic care can play a gentle, supportive role in helping them thrive. In this blog, we’ll explore how childhood development unfolds, what milestones to expect, and how chiropractic care can support your child’s nervous system, movement, and wellbeing at every stage. What Are Childhood Development Milestones? Developmental milestones are key indicators of a child’s growth across physical, cognitive, social and emotional domains. These can include: While there’s a general timeline for these milestones, it’s important to remember that every child is different and develops at their own pace. However, delays or difficulties may indicate underlying issues with the nervous system or structural imbalances — and these are the areas where chiropractic care can play a vital role. The Nervous System: Your Child’s Internal Superhighway The nervous system controls and coordinates every function in the body — from moving and talking to digestion, immune response, and sensory integration. For children, this system is developing rapidly in the first few years of life. Birth itself, especially if traumatic, prolonged, or medically assisted, can place stress on a newborn’s spine and nervous system. This stress may present as: In older children it may show up as: Chiropractic care focuses on identifying and correcting areas of spinal dysfunction that may be interfering with optimal nervous system function. By gently supporting the spine and nervous system, we help restore balance and promote better brain–body communication. How Chiropractic Care Supports Childhood Development At The Chiro Studio, we take a holistic, gentle approach to paediatric chiropractic care. Our chiropractors are trained in techniques specifically tailored for infants, toddlers, and children. Here’s how chiropractic can support healthy development: 1. Encouraging Proper Posture and Spinal AlignmentAs your child grows and begins to sit, crawl, and walk, they rely heavily on a well-functioning spine and pelvis. Misalignments can affect movement patterns, balance, and coordination. Chiropractic adjustments help ensure proper alignment during these rapid growth phases. 2. Supporting Gross and Fine Motor Skill DevelopmentThe ability to crawl, walk, grasp objects, and write all depends on strong brain–body communication. A well-functioning nervous system helps children process information, move freely, and interact confidently with their environment. 3. Promoting Better SleepMany parents report improvements in their child’s sleep after chiropractic care. When the nervous system is in balance, the body is better able to regulate rest, digestion, and emotional responses. 4. Easing Common Issues Like Colic, Reflux, and Ear InfectionsWhile chiropractic care is not a treatment for these conditions, gentle adjustments may help relieve nervous system stress and improve spinal function, which may support the body’s natural healing processes. 5. Encouraging Sensory Integration and Emotional RegulationSome children struggle with sensory processing, finding it hard to tolerate noise, light, textures, or touch. Chiropractic care may assist by calming the nervous system and improving how the brain receives and integrates sensory input. When to See a Chiropractor for Your Child You may consider bringing your child to a chiropractor if you notice: Even if your child isn’t showing any concerns, many families choose chiropractic care as a proactive way to support their child’s growth, development, and wellbeing. What to Expect at The Chiro Studio We understand that trusting someone with your child’s health is a big decision. That’s why we take time to connect with you and your child, understand their history, and tailor care to their individual needs. Our paediatric visits are relaxed, nurturing, and guided by your child’s pace. We use age-appropriate techniques, often involving light fingertip pressure, cranial work, or a hand-held instrument called an activator. A Whole-Family Approach to Health At The Chiro Studio, we don’t just focus on symptoms — we look at the whole picture. Our goal is to support your child’s journey through every stage of life, from newborn to teen. We work with parents, caregivers, and children to create a calm, caring environment where your family can feel heard, supported, and empowered. Final Thoughts Your child’s development is a beautiful and unique journey — and sometimes, that journey benefits from a little extra support. Chiropractic care can be a gentle, effective way to help your little one thrive. By supporting their nervous system, encouraging healthy movement, and promoting overall wellbeing, it can play an important role in their growth and development. If you have questions about your child’s development or are curious about chiropractic care, we’d love to chat. Pop into our clinic, give us a call, or book a consultation online. 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Strong Steps: How Supporting Your Child’s Movement—From Bare Feet to Footwear—Builds Confidence for Life

As mothers, we’re always watching those little steps—first wobbles, running races, playground tumbles, and sporty sprints. Our children’s feet carry them through every adventure, and how we support those tiny feet can shape more than just their physical development—it impacts their confidence, independence, and wellbeing. At Nurture Paediatrics, we work with families every day to support children’s movement, manage pain, and promote development through expert physiotherapy that’s playful, practical, and tailored to each child’s needs. But there’s a question we get all the time from parents: Should my child be wearing shoes? Or is barefoot better? Let’s explore what science—and our experience—says about children’s growing feet, the importance of paediatric physiotherapy, and how to find the right balance between barefoot freedom and protective footwear. Why Barefoot Play Can Be So Beneficial In Aotearoa, there’s a long-standing cultural tradition of letting kids run free—barefoot at the beach, in the backyard, even to school. And research backs up what many Kiwi mums have long suspected: growing up barefoot can support healthy foot development. ✅ Stronger Foot MusclesBarefoot play encourages natural use of foot muscles, helping to form stronger arches and more stable ankles. ✅ Better Balance & CoordinationWithout shoes to restrict movement, children become more aware of how their bodies move and adjust—boosting neuromuscular control and confidence. ✅ Sensory AwarenessFeeling grass, sand, pebbles, or wood underfoot helps children learn about texture, temperature, and space—fostering rich sensory experiences that support brain development. When Shoes Matter—and What to Look For Of course, there are times when shoes are essential—for safety, support, or comfort. The key is choosing the right kind of shoe that still respects how children’s feet grow and move. Here’s what we recommend as paediatric physios: A Balanced Approach: Barefoot & Protected Let them explore barefoot when it’s safe and natural. Use protective, well-fitting footwear when needed for safety, school, or structured activities. And most importantly—trust your instincts and keep watching those little steps with love. Because every confident step they take begins with your support. Where Paediatric Physiotherapy Fits In Sometimes, kids struggle with pain, tripping, or toe-walking—or they just seem to tire more easily than others. That’s where we come in. At Nurture Paediatrics, we specialise in child-centred physiotherapy that helps tamariki feel strong in their bodies and confident in their movements. We work with children, from babies to teens, alongside their families, to: And we do all this in a way that’s fun, engaging, and safe—either in person or online.

Sun Safety for Little Eyes: Protecting Your Kids from the Shine

Sunscreen, hats, shade… It’s a whole thing, right? New Zealand sees 4 seasons in a day and it’s amazing, with endless opportunities for outdoor play, picnics in the park, and beach days. But with the sun’s intensity, comes the worry. How do we balance fun with sun safety? We want our little ones to run, jump and laugh in the sunshine, but we also want to make sure their eyes and skin are protected. Sunscreen is great for the skin, but what about their precious eyes? Young eyes are more sensitive to the sun’s harmful rays and UV than adult eyes. That’s where Te Rā Sunglasses come in. We’re passionate about creating stylish and functional sunglasses for kids, designed with New Zealand’s unique sun conditions in mind. Our sunglasses aren’t just about looking cool; they’re about providing essential eye protection and making outdoor adventures safer and more enjoyable. We understand that choosing the right sunglasses for your child is crucial, and that’s why we’ve designed our frames to be durable, lightweight, and comfortable. They’re specifically designed to be a part of your child’s outdoor wardrobe, perfect for everything from beach days and park play to adventures in the bush. I remember that terrible trip to the beach when my now Mr. 12 was 4! We were all geared up for a day of sun, sand, and smiles. But little B? He spent the whole day trying to wrestle those flimsy plastic shades off his face. They kept slipping, they kept falling, and honestly, they were practically falling apart by the time we packed up. We were constantly readjusting, trying to keep his eyes protected, but it felt like a losing battle. That’s when we started brainstorming. How can we make sun protection fun AND actually stay put? That’s how the idea for Te Rā Sunglasses began to take shape. We wanted sunnies that were as tough as B, but also super comfortable for little ones. We needed sunglasses that didn’t fight back every time he moved. Te Rā Sunglasses, a kiwi-mum owned brand, was born from that frustrating, but ultimately memorable, day at the beach. Why should you invest in good sunnies for your little ones? Beyond the aesthetic appeal and the comfort of a perfect fit, sunglasses are crucial for protecting your child’s precious eyesight. UV rays aren’t just a nuisance; they can cause serious long-term damage to their eyes. Prolonged exposure to harmful UV rays can lead to cataracts, macular degeneration, and other eye problems later in life. By consistently wearing sunglasses from a young age, you’re not just shielding your child from the glare and squinting, you’re actively preventing potential vision issues down the line. Proper UV protection is key, and that’s where Te Rā Sunglasses come in, offering durable, comfortable, and stylish options designed to keep your child’s eyes safe and happy. At Te Rā Sunglasses, we understand that every child’s style is unique, and their needs vary based on age. That’s why we offer a diverse range of sunglasses designed to protect and enhance their vision, while also catering to their individual tastes. From adorable baby sunglasses perfect for keeping little ones’ eyes safe from the sun, to stylish options for toddlers and kids, our collection features a full range of colours and designs to suit every personality. Our size guide is very easy to read and select which sunglasses style will work best for your kid based on the measurements. Our Pepi and Harikoa sunglasses for babies come with a removable, adjustable strap to prevent them from losing their shades, ensuring maximum protection and peace of mind for parents. We have a variety of colours for both boys and girls — vibrant blue & yellow, stylish white & red, and more neutral and pastel tones for those who prefer a classic look. Our toddler and kids range extends to cover children aged 10 and above, offering a wider selection of frame styles and colors. These sunglasses feature durable frames and lenses, designed to withstand the active lifestyles of older kids. We also offer a range of frame shapes and sizes to suit different face shapes, ensuring a comfortable and secure fit for every child. Whether it’s a sporty, bold design or a more subtle, elegant style, we’re confident there’s a pair of Te Rā Sunglasses perfect for every child, ensuring they look great while protecting their precious eyes. From juicy orange, striking red & black, vibrant blue & yellow, playful pink & purple, pretty white & orange, to neutral and pastel shades, we cover a full range of colours to match each kid’s personality. Te Rā Sunglasses offer several key benefits for your kids’ eyes: Here are a few practical tips for choosing and using Te Rā Sunglasses: Protecting your child’s eyes from the sun is essential for their long-term health. Te Rā Sunglasses are a stylish, functional, and convenient way to do just that. Visit our website to explore our range of kids’ sunglasses and find the perfect pair for your little explorer. Contact me if you have any questions. Let’s keep our kids safe and happy in the sun!

Four BIG Reasons Why Upper Body Strength Is Critical for Kids’ Development

— And Why Swedish Ladders Have Been Supporting This for Over a Century Before we dive into why upper body strength is essential for kids, let’s take a step back. Swedish ladders, also known as stall bars, were first developed in the early 19th century by Pehr Henrik Ling, a Swedish physical therapist and gymnastics pioneer. Originally designed for therapeutic use, they quickly became a cornerstone in Scandinavian physical education programs due to their ability to strengthen muscles, improve posture, and support rehabilitation. Over the decades, Swedish ladders became widely adopted across Europe in schools, clinics, and gymnasiums. Physiotherapists and educators recognised how effective they were in helping children improve coordination, motor skills, and strength in a safe, natural, and play-based way. Today, this time-tested piece of equipment is making a comeback in European homes. Now, we are able to supply them to New Zealand homes for growing Kiwi kids! 1. Coordination, Balance & Spatial Awareness Upper body strength isn’t just about muscle, it is key to helping kids move confidently through the world. Activities like climbing, hanging, or transitioning between rungs improve proprioception (the sense of body position) and balance. These are the building blocks of safe, coordinated movement – whether they are jumping across a stream, catching a ball, or navigating a playground. 2. Motor Skills Development Strengthening the upper body also enhances both gross and fine motor control. Hanging from a bar develops grip strength and shoulder stability. Climbing activates large muscle groups, while reaching and transitioning between levels requires control and coordination. These movements naturally support handwriting, drawing, and sports skills, all while kids are simply having fun at home. 3. Injury Prevention Strong muscles protect developing joints. When children have better upper body strength, their shoulders, elbows, and core are more stable and resilient—reducing the risk of sprains and strains during play, sport, or daily activities. The Swedish ladder encourages natural movement patterns that build functional strength across the arms, shoulders, and core. 4. Posture, Focus & Cognitive Benefits Posture begins with strength and kids with strong upper bodies are more likely to sit upright, breathe better, and feel more alert. Good posture improves oxygen flow to the brain, which directly impacts focus and cognitive performance. So when your child is swinging, climbing, or pulling themselves up, they’re also boosting their brainpower. Win-win. Why Topsy Turvy’s Swedish Ladder is the Modern Home Upgrade You’ll Love At Topsy Turvy NZ, we’ve reimagined the classic Swedish ladder for the modern home. Built from sustainable materials and safety-certified, it’s the perfect indoor climbing frame for helping tamariki build strength and confidence. Final Word Swedish ladders have been empowering physical development for over 100 years. Their relevance is greater today than ever. In a screen-filled world, giving kids a space to climb, swing, and move helps them thrive physically, emotionally, and mentally. Ready to build strength and confidence at home? Check out the Swedish Ladder at Topsy Turvy and bring movement, learning, and joy into your space.

Real Food in Pregnancy: A Trimester-by-Trimester Guide to Nourishing Your Body

Pregnancy is a season of profound change — physically, emotionally, and mentally. Yet when it comes to food, many women feel uncertain, overwhelmed, or quietly worried about whether they’re doing enough to support themselves and their baby. You’re growing a human, but the advice often feels vague or contradictory. Eat a balanced diet. Take a prenatal. Avoid certain foods. Manage nausea. Watch your iron. Keep blood sugar steady. It can quickly feel like just another thing to get wrong, especially when appetite is unpredictable, energy is low, and your body no longer feels familiar. If you’ve ever wondered whether what you’re eating is truly supporting your pregnancy, you’re not alone. Why Pregnancy Nutrition Often Feels So Confusing I work with pregnant women who want to nourish themselves well, but feel unsure where to focus or how to eat in a way that actually meets the demands of pregnancy — without restriction, guilt, or constant second-guessing. Let me say this clearly. Pregnancy nutrition doesn’t need to be complicated to be effective.But it does need to be intentional. What Your Body Is Really Doing During Pregnancy Your body is doing extraordinary work during pregnancy. It is building a placenta, expanding blood volume, growing organs and brain tissue, regulating hormones, and laying the foundations for birth, recovery, and breastfeeding. That level of work requires more than simply eating enough or relying solely on supplements. It requires nourishment that your body can absorb, use, and build with. Rather than following rigid rules or long lists of foods, it can be far more supportive to understand how your nutritional needs shift across pregnancy — and how food can work with your body in each trimester. Nourishment in the First Trimester In the early weeks, your body is laying essential foundations. For many women, this is also when nausea, food aversions, fatigue, and low appetite appear. Nourishment during this stage is not about perfection. It’s about steadiness. Choosing foods that feel manageable and supportive, even if intake varies day to day. Small, intentional choices can make a meaningful difference in how you feel. Nourishment in the Third Trimester In the final trimester, your body is preparing for birth and the early postpartum period. Your baby is growing rapidly, storing nutrients, and continuing critical brain and immune development. At the same time, your own body is preparing for labour, healing, and feeding your baby. Nourishment during this phase is about resilience. Supporting strength, recovery, and long-term wellbeing, rather than pulling back or eating lightly. The Role of Blood Sugar Across Pregnancy Across all three trimesters, one factor quietly influences how many women feel day to day. Blood sugar balance. This isn’t only about gestational diabetes. Fluctuations in blood sugar can affect energy, mood, nausea, cravings, and how satisfied you feel after meals. When meals are structured to support steadier blood sugar, many women notice fewer energy crashes, a more consistent appetite, and greater stability throughout the day. This doesn’t require cutting out food groups or following strict rules. It’s about understanding how to nourish your body in a way that works with pregnancy, rather than against it. Across pregnancy, nourishment tends to work best when a few core elements are in place. Meals that include enough protein to meet pregnancy’s increased demands, alongside fats that support hormones and absorption, tend to feel more sustaining. Eating often enough to avoid long gaps can help smooth energy and appetite, and adjusting meals to suit symptoms like nausea or fatigue can make nourishment feel more achievable rather than forced. These foundations don’t need to look the same for everyone, and they don’t need to be perfect. They simply create a steadier base for your body as its needs continue to change. When Symptoms Are Signals, Not Failures Many women experience symptoms along the way. Persistent fatigue. Strong cravings. Constipation. Nausea. Low iron. Feeling hungry shortly after eating. These are not personal failures or signs that you’re doing pregnancy wrong. More often, they are signals that your body needs more targeted nourishment and support. Food in pregnancy should feel grounding and supportive. It should help you feel more like yourself, not less. And it should support your baby’s development without leaving you anxious or overwhelmed by choice. A Calm, Real-Food Approach to Pregnancy Nutrition A real-food, trimester-aware approach can bring clarity to this stage. When you understand what your body is asking for and why, nourishment becomes something that supports you rather than another source of pressure. Pregnancy is not the time to aim for perfection with food. It’s a time to listen more closely, nourish more intentionally, and let go of the idea that there is one right way to eat. How I Support Women During Pregnancy If reading this has helped you see pregnancy nutrition more clearly, but you’re still unsure how to apply it to your own meals, symptoms, or changing needs, you don’t have to work it out on your own. Many women I support understand the importance of real food, yet still feel unsure what to prioritise, how to build meals that actually support energy and blood sugar, or whether supplements are necessary — and which ones genuinely support pregnancy rather than add to the overwhelm. Through one-on-one pregnancy nutrition support, we look at your individual needs, your current intake, and how food and supplements can work together to support your body throughout pregnancy. The aim is always the same: to help you feel steadier, more supported, and confident that you’re nourishing yourself and your baby well — without rigid rules or unnecessary additions. You’re not alone. I’m here to support you. 1:1 Pregnancy Nutrition Consultation Warmly,Kelly WrightCertified Holistic Nutrition ConsultantFounder, Well and Truly Nourished

Feeding with Confidence: How Thoughtful Breastfeeding Clothing Supports New Mums

Breastfeeding can be one of the most natural and rewarding experiences many mums share with their babies. Yet, it can also be one of the most challenging, especially when it comes to feeding outside the home. For many new mums, breastfeeding in public or on the go brings up concerns that go beyond simply finding a private spot. It’s often about feeling comfortable, calm and confident. The early months of motherhood are filled with a whirlwind of emotions and constant learning. On top of caring for a newborn, many mums are also juggling older children, daily errands, social catch-ups, or even a return to work. Feeding sometimes needs to happen wherever and whenever required. In this article, with the help of a lactation consultant, we explore some challenges on feeding outside the home, some tips to help when out in public and if breastfeeding clothing could help support you. The Real Challenges of Breastfeeding in Public Feeding at home is one thing. Feeding in a café, at the park, or at a playgroup while also potentially keeping an eye on a toddler is another. Many mums find themselves navigating: These experiences can leave some mums feeling flustered, anxious, or hesitant to breastfeed outside the comfort of their home. Babies don’t feed to a strict schedule, especially in the early months. Delaying a feed because you’re out and about can lead to fussiness and make latching more difficult. Feeding in public allows you to meet your baby’s needs in the moment, which is not only beneficial for your baby but helps maintain your breastfeeding rhythm too. Breastfeeding on cue—responding to your baby’s early hunger signs—is vital for both milk supply and your baby’s development. In Aotearoa New Zealand, you have the legal right to breastfeed your baby anywhere you are legally allowed to be. This is protected under the Human Rights Act 1993, which prohibits discrimination based on breastfeeding. Whether you’re in a café, on public transport, or in a park, you’re well within your rights to feed your baby. Knowing this can help build confidence and reinforce that you’re doing nothing wrong—just caring for your child. Even though breastfeeding in public is completely normal and legal, it’s okay if it doesn’t feel easy at first. Many parents worry about being stared at, judged, or simply feel exposed. These emotions are valid. Building confidence takes time, and what works for one parent might not work for another. Whether you choose to use a cover, find a quiet space, or feed freely, your comfort and your baby’s needs come first. Tips for Feeding Confidently in Public Here are a few gentle tips that can help ease the experience of breastfeeding on the go: Small steps can make a big difference when feeding in public. Practise at home in front of a mirror or with a friend to get used to different positions or using a carrier. Learn your baby’s early hunger cues so you can start feeding before they get distressed. It can help to scope out feeding-friendly spots ahead of time or sit somewhere you feel safe and relaxed. And don’t be afraid to lean on your support people—they can help advocate for your space and ease any discomfort. Could Breastfeeding Clothing Help? While breastfeeding is ultimately about the bond between you and your baby, what you wear can make a real difference in how confident and capable you feel. Here’s how the right breastfeeding clothing can help: Discreet, Easy Access Many standard tops or dresses require you to lift or shift fabric in ways that feel awkward and revealing. Breastfeeding-specific clothing often includes thoughtful features like front zips, hidden openings, or layered panels that can make feeding faster and far more discreet. Extra Coverage Having extra coverage, especially around your chest and stomach, can help mums feel more secure when feeding in public. Whether it’s a layered design or a clever zip, these details provide peace of mind and allow you to focus on your baby, not your outfit. Comfort While You Move Soft, stretchy fabrics that accommodate your body’s changes are ideal during the fourth trimester and beyond. Whether you’re running errands or rocking a baby to sleep, comfort matters! More Confidence on the Go Feeling good in your clothes isn’t just about appearance, it’s about feeling comfortable and confident. When your clothes help you feel good, you’re more likely to get out and about without second-guessing yourself. What you wear can make a huge difference to your breastfeeding experience, especially when out and about. Functional, purpose-designed breastfeeding clothing—like those made by MiRo & Co, can offer easy access, discretion, and style all in one. It’s not about covering up; it’s about making feeding feel smoother, more confident, and more you. Having clothing that supports you can be empowering, especially in those early outings. What to Look for in Breastfeeding Clothing If you’re building a practical wardrobe for your feeding journey, these features are worth considering: When Breastfeeding Clothing Isn’t Essential Every mum is different, and not everyone finds breastfeeding clothing necessary. Some mums are comfortable using layers, scarves, or stretchy basics. Others may not feel they need anything at all and others may choose to find a private spot or prefer to use a cover. The key is finding what works for you. There’s no right or wrong – just what helps you feel supported and confident. The Power of Feeling Comfortable Being able to breastfeed comfortably in public isn’t just about convenience, it’s also about empowerment. When your clothes make feeding feel smoother and less stressful, you’re more likely to feel confident going out, being active, and saying yes to social invitations or everyday errands. And while clothes might seem like a small detail, they can play a big role in helping you feel like you again during a time when your body, identity, and routines are all shifting. Every time you feed in public, whether discreetly or openly, you’re helping to normalise it for others.

How to throw an awesome kids’ birthday party, without the stress (or spending a fortune)

Let’s be honest, planning a kids’ birthday party can feel overwhelming at times. There may be unspoken pressure to throw a celebration bigger and better than the previous year, or to have that ‘Instagram-perfect party’, but your kids’ big day doesn’t have to mean sleepless nights, maxed out budgets or complicated set-ups. With a few simple tips and tricks (and a little help), you can throw a fun party your child will absolutely love—and that you will enjoy too! 1. It doesn’t need to be extravagant to be fun Stick to one easy theme your child loves and build the core elements around that, whether it’s a few decorations, some cups and plates, a cake, and maybe an activity or two. Focus on bringing family and friends together and making your child feel special. A few key decorations and supplies will make the biggest impact: One quick and easy solution?Use an All-In-One party box. The Party Bundle Co supplies everything you need for an awesome party—all in one box. Each bundle includes tableware, decorations, party bags (with favours), a cake topper, candles, and even a balloon garland kit (with easy-to-follow instructions). Just choose your theme and everything is delivered to your door within days—not weeks! 2. Plan ahead (if you can!) Not suggesting a colour-coded spreadsheet (unless that’s your jam), but a simple checklist of things to organise can seriously help ease the pressure. You can download a free printable party checklist from the Party Bundle Co website to help tick things off as you go. Also think about what you can outsource: You don’t have to do it all yourself. Involve others, and make it fun. 3. Kids’ party food doesn’t need to be fancy Simple is often best. Take dietary needs into account, but here are some easy ideas that have worked well: Burnt out by DIY catering? Local bakeries or supermarkets often offer great catering options—like sandwich or sushi platters—at affordable prices. If you do enjoy baking, check out the Bake-It Add-On from The Party Bundle Co, which includes cupcake cases, toppers, cutters, stands, and a recipe. No shame in packet mix cakes or jazzing up a supermarket cake with a cute topper! 4. Keep games or activities simple but fun Hiring an entertainer is great—but not always affordable. Here are low-cost, kid-loved ideas: You can DIY activities that fit your theme. For example, the Enchanted Garden Party Bundle includes DIY Fairy Wand Kits, or you could set up a cupcake or cookie decorating station. 5. Making memories and having fun is the most important part! It’s easy to get caught up in the chaos and realise too late you’ve got no photos with your child or didn’t get to chat with guests. Top tips: At the end of the day, it’s about creating memories. That’s why Sara founded The Party Bundle Co—to help parents throw a stress-free, memorable party that everyone enjoys. Want to skip the late-night scrolling and endless store trips?Check out themed Party Bundles—curated boxes with everything you need for a fun, stress-free birthday. Just pick your theme, unbox the magic, and let the fun begin! Explore more: www.thepartybundleco.nz

Village Birth Empowers Kiwi Birth Partners with New Online Course

Stepping into a birth support role can feel daunting—but Village Birth, led by registered midwife and māmā Candice Kovacs-Milner, has launched a smart new resource to make sure you’re confident, prepared, and ready to give your loved one the support they truly deserve. Meet the Birth Partner Blueprint, an online course designed specifically with Kiwi whānau in mind. For just $39.99, this practical, down-to-earth course helps fathers-to-be, mothers-to-be, doulas, and support people alike gain a solid understanding of pregnancy, birth, and postpartum care. Delivered entirely online, the Birth Partner Blueprint is divided into clear, concise sections that gently guide you from pregnancy right through to those precious early days with your newborn. In the Pregnancy 101 module, you’ll learn about the modern realities of pregnancy, the maternity care system here in Aotearoa, and the specific ways you can offer meaningful support. The Birth 101 segment walks you clearly through the stages of labour, what to expect realistically, when to call for assistance, and common interventions—all delivered with Candice’s signature reassuring style. But it’s not just theory—Birth Partner Blueprint equips you with practical tools and hands-on techniques too. From affirmations and breathwork to traditional practices like Rebozo techniques and acupressure, you’ll quickly feel confident in supporting your loved one throughout labour. The course then smoothly transitions into the postpartum period, helping you prepare practically and emotionally for life with your new pēpi, including baby feeding basics, newborn care, and mental health awareness. Candice also emphasises advocacy and informed decision-making, empowering birth partners to clearly understand their rights and how best to support their loved ones in navigating the maternity system confidently. Designed to be completed in around 2-4 hours, this course is ideal for busy Kiwi families. Short video modules, helpful quizzes, and journal activities keep the learning straightforward, friendly, and engaging—exactly how Hey Māmā loves it. To find out more or to sign up for the Birth Partner Blueprint, head to Village Birth’s website.

I Thought I Was Failing as a Mum — Then I Supported My Baby’s Sleep

Right from when my son was just a few weeks old he would be awake for hours on end. I’d try everything to settle him for sleep. I kept wondering what I was doing wrong. I felt like I was failing as a mum. I remember calling my partner in tears on a few occasions, saying, “He just won’t sleep.” I was exhausted and anxious, endlessly scrolling Google at 2am —Do this. Don’t do that..Don’t contact nap.They should be self-soothing..Put baby down drowsy, but awake. (What even was that supposed to mean?) There were so many conflicting messages, and I was trying to follow them all. I thought surely, he should be sleeping at night seen he wasn’t sleeping much at all during the day. We were stuck in this cycle that made no sense and left me completely drained. We resorted to rocking him to sleep, all the time, for every nap, every bedtime, every time he woke during the night. Our backs were aching, and our nerves were shot. A couple of months passed, and I finally reached out to a sleep consultant. I was nervous — I didn’t know what to expect. I absolutely did not want my baby to be left crying himself to sleep. That wasn’t an option for me. But just a few days in, the change was incredible. It turns out, he did know how to sleep. He just needed a little help.A few gentle tweaks here and there, some consistency — and everything shifted. That’s when I knew I wanted to help other families who were going through the same thing. I put my heart into studying and became an Internationally Certified Infant and Child Sleep Consultant. And wow — I learned so much.So much more than what the internet ever told me. I learned that it is absolutely okay to have contact naps with your baby.That self-soothing isn’t just something babies are born knowing — it’s something they learn with time and support.That sleeping through the night isn’t some magical milestone every baby hits at 8 weeks. I learned that: If You’re Struggling, Please Know This Every mum feels differently post birth. And when sleep is hard — really hard — it can feel like you’re doing something wrong. It can be isolating, confusing, and overwhelming. I know that feeling, because I lived it. Looking back now, I can see just how much sleep deprivation impacted everything.It wasn’t just about being tired — it was the way I coped with stress, how quickly I became overwhelmed, how my emotions felt so raw all the time. I was more irritable, and I questioned myself constantly. It’s no wonder I felt like I was failing — I was running on empty. When you’re in it, it’s so hard to see how much the lack of sleep is affecting you.But with rest and support, it really does start to feel manageable again. That emotional fog begins to lift. You feel more capable, more connected, more like yourself again. If what you’re doing now is working for your family, that’s amazing — keep going.But if it’s not, and you’re exhausted and need support, I’m here for you. With my personalised sleep shaping packages and 1:1 guidance, I help parents gently and confidently support their baby’s sleep — without guilt, without pressure, and without compromising your instincts. You’re not alone. And you are certainly not failing.You’re just tired — and it’s more than ok to reach out.

What Babies Really Need in the First 6 Months

Becoming a parent is one of the most transformative journeys we can take—and one of the most overwhelming. From the moment we bring our babies home, we’re flooded with advice, apps, milestone charts, and product recommendations. Every scroll through social media seems to suggest there’s something else we should be doing to support our baby’s development. Enrol in sensory classes. Stimulate their brain. Buy more toys. Keep them busy. But what if I told you that none of that is essential? As an early childhood teacher and a mum, I’ve spent years observing how babies grow, bond, and learn. And if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s this: babies don’t need to be “kept busy”. What they need—especially in those precious first six months—is something far simpler and more profound. Rethinking the “Empty Vessel” Myth There’s a long-standing idea that babies are born as blank slates—empty vessels waiting to be filled with knowledge. It’s an image that has shaped everything from parenting styles to early education approaches. But this view, while once popular, simply doesn’t hold up to what we now know about infant development. Psychologist Jean Piaget challenged this notion with his constructivist theory, which proposes that children actively construct knowledge by interacting with their environment. They aren’t passive recipients of information. From the very beginning, babies are observing, exploring, experimenting, and learning—on their own terms. This shift in perspective is powerful. It reminds us that even in the earliest stages of life, babies are not empty—they are wired for connection, discovery, and growth. They come into the world equipped with the building blocks they need to develop, as long as we give them the right environment. The Foundation of Brain Development: Connection In those first six months, your baby’s brain is developing at an astonishing pace—forming more than a million new neural connections every second. But this isn’t driven by flashcards or enrichment toys. It’s driven by relationships. The most important tool for early development isn’t something you can buy—it’s you. When your baby gazes into your eyes, they’re learning about trust and safety. When you respond to their cries with cuddles and soothing, they’re learning that their needs matter. When you talk to them during nappy changes or mimic their coos, they’re developing language, social awareness, and emotional security. These moments of connection help wire the brain for future learning, and they shape how your baby experiences the world. It’s through consistent, responsive caregiving that babies learn to feel secure—and a secure baby is a confident, curious learner. Why “Busy” Isn’t the Goal It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking we need to entertain our babies every waking moment. After all, stimulation = development, right? Not necessarily. Babies don’t need constant stimulation—they need space to process and explore at their own pace. Overloading their environment can actually be counterproductive, leading to stress or overstimulation. Instead of asking “Am I doing enough?”, try asking “Am I present enough?” These small, everyday interactions are where the magic happens. They build a sense of safety, familiarity, and connection—all of which are critical to emotional and cognitive development. A Safe and Nurturing Environment In the first six months, your baby is adjusting to life outside the womb. This is a time of tremendous change—not just physically, but emotionally and neurologically. What they need most is a calm, predictable environment that supports their basic needs: When these needs are met, the brain can focus on building those vital neural pathways that shape everything from emotional regulation to language and learning. The Role of Language and Expression Babies are born ready to communicate. They use crying, facial expressions, and body language long before they speak their first words. And they learn the rhythm of language by listening to yours. Narrating your day, responding to their sounds, and maintaining eye contact as you speak are powerful ways to build communication pathways. These early conversations may seem one-sided, but they’re laying the foundation for literacy, comprehension, and emotional intelligence. Studies show that babies who are spoken to regularly from birth have stronger language skills later in life. But again, this doesn’t require formal “learning time.” It’s the natural, relational back-and-forth that matters most. Supporting Parents, Not Pressuring Them As a mum, I know how easy it is to compare ourselves to others—especially in the age of social media. One mum’s nursery tour becomes another mum’s anxiety spiral. One baby’s tummy time progress becomes another baby’s “delay.” But babies don’t develop on a strict timeline. They are individuals with their own rhythms, preferences, and temperaments. And your intuition, love, and presence matter more than any milestone tracker ever will. I created Alle Ana because I wanted to support parents through one of the most vulnerable and beautiful times in life—without the overwhelm. Our products are practical, evidence-informed, and focused on what really matters: helping you feel prepared and supported, so you can focus on bonding with your baby. Final Thoughts: You Are Enough In those early months, it’s easy to feel like you’re not doing enough. But let me reassure you: if you are responding, loving, holding, feeding, smiling, and showing up—then you are doing everything your baby needs. You are not raising an empty vessel that needs to be filled with constant activity. You are nurturing a whole person who is already learning, connecting, and growing in every moment you share. So take the pressure off. Slow down. Soak in those sleepy snuggles and soft coos. The best thing you can do for your baby right now is to be with them—and that is more than enough. About the Author Iveta is a Qualified and Registered Early Childhood Teacher, and the founder of Alle Ana—a New Zealand-based business offering thoughtfully curated hospital bag gift boxes for expectant mums. With a deep understanding of infant development and a passion for supporting women in the lead-up to birth, she created Alle Ana to help take the pressure off—so mums-to-be can feel prepared, supported, and

Childcare Trends in New Zealand 2025: What Parents and Carers Need to Know

The landscape of childcare in New Zealand is evolving rapidly. With rising wages, a growing demand for flexible care options, and changing work patterns for parents, it’s never been more important to understand the current trends shaping the market. Whether you’re a parent navigating after-school care, or a carer looking for opportunities, staying informed helps you make the best decisions. Here’s a comprehensive look at what’s happening in the NZ childcare sector in 2025, including current pay rates, the surge in after-school care demand, and the popularity of flexible, on-demand babysitting services. Nanny and Babysitter Pay Rates in 2025 Hourly rates for nannies and babysitters have risen to reflect inflation, living costs, and tight labour demands. Pay The Nanny’s latest data offers the following range: These rates align with the $23.50 minimum wage effective from 1 April 2025, ensuring even entry‑level carers earn a competitive wage. Why Rates Keep Rising We lean on our partner Pay The Nanny for information around trends in pay and you can see their full guide here: Nanny Pay Rates Minimum Wage Boost from April 2025 The 1 April 2025 increase to $23.50/hr has significant effects across the childcare sector: After-School Care: Demand Is Booming One of the most significant shifts we’ve seen in 2025 is the increase in demand for after-school care. With both parents working in many households, families are seeking nannies or babysitters who can pick children up from school, supervise homework, and manage activities until parents return home. After-school care hours typically run from 2.30pm to 6pm, and families often seek carers for 3 to 5 afternoons per week. This is providing attractive, stable part-time opportunities for carers, particularly students or part-time workers who prefer short shifts. Why it’s so popular Flexibility: The New Norm Another key trend is the desire for flexible working arrangements among carers. Nannies and babysitters are increasingly looking for roles that allow them to balance other commitments, whether it’s study, family, or other jobs. The traditional 9–5 nanny role is still common, but shorter, flexible shifts – such as mornings, after-school, or casual evening babysitting – are more in demand than ever. For parents, flexibility is also crucial. Busy families are wanting carers who can accommodate ad hoc requests, evening babysitting, or occasional weekend support. This dual need for flexibility has led to growth in services that can connect families with trusted carers on short notice. Parents’ needs Carers’ preferences Instant Babysitter Bookings Are on the Rise At Caresies, we’ve seen this trend firsthand. Our On-Demand Babysitting Service is specifically designed for one-off bookings, where parents can instantly book a qualified babysitter without needing to post a job ad or wait for applications. Using our Instant Booking feature on Caresies, parents can: It’s been especially popular with Auckland parents who want a reliable carer for weddings, nights out, or when their usual nanny is unavailable. Every carer on our On-Demand team is police vetted, reference checked, and experienced with children of all ages. Explore the service here: Instant Booking Broader Trends in Parenting and Childcare in NZ Over the past six months, we’ve observed a few additional trends: What is Caresies? Caresies is New Zealand’s fastest-growing childcare marketplace, designed to connect parents with trusted, vetted nannies and babysitters. Whether you’re looking for regular after-school care, casual babysitting, or an experienced nanny, Caresies makes the process simple and secure. Parents can: For carers, Caresies offers: We currently have a strong presence in Auckland, Wellington and Christchurch, with expansion plans underway to support more regional communities across Aotearoa. Learn more or sign up today Final Thoughts The NZ childcare market in 2025 reflects the broader shifts in how we live and work. Flexibility, safety, and experience are more important than ever – for both parents and carers. If you’re a parent looking for quality childcare options, platforms like Caresies provide easy access to vetted nannies and babysitters across New Zealand. Whether you need after-school care, a casual babysitter, or an instant booking for a night out, our services are built for modern family needs. If you’re a nanny or babysitter, there are plenty of opportunities, especially if you offer flexible availability or after-school hours. For more information on childcare rates, compliance, and services, check out:

Why a Simple Walk Can Be a Game-Changer in the 4th Trimester

The 4th trimester—that tender time right after your baby is born—can feel like a whirlwind. You’re navigating sleep deprivation, big emotions, healing bodies, and an entirely new rhythm of life. It’s beautiful, yes. But it can also be a bit isolating and overwhelming. One of the simplest yet most powerful ways to support your wellbeing in these early months? Getting outside for a walk. Yep, just popping bub in the pram and heading out the door can do wonders—for both of you. The Benefits for You, Māmā (and Pāpā Too!) Stepping out into the fresh air, even for 10–20 minutes a day, can feel like pressing a little reset button. Mental Health Boost Physical Recovery and Strength Social Connection What It Means for Your Baby While you’re reaping those grown-up benefits, your baby is having their own mini-adventure. Visual Stimulation New Sounds and Sensory Learning Calming Motion Top Tips for Making It Happen We get it. Some days just making it out the door feels impossible. Here’s how to keep it doable: You’re Not Alone, Māmā If the idea of getting out feels too big right now, that’s OK. You’re doing your best, and that’s enough. But when the stars align—nappies are changed, coffee’s in hand, and bub is calm—consider popping outside for a gentle stroll. Your body, your mind, and your baby will thank you. Looking for more practical tips and local resources? Check out the Hey Māmā directory to find parenting groups, postnatal fitness classes, and more support near you. Let’s keep walking this parenting journey together—one step (and one walk) at a time.

This Is Birth: When Invisible Wounds Need a Voice

For roughly 50 Māmā every day, birth leaves emotional scars that last long after the baby arrives, and for 120, physical injuries that can upend life as they know it. Yet too often these stories remain untold. As Birth Trauma Awareness Week kicks off under the banner “This Is Birth”, experts and survivors alike are urging Aotearoa to listen, validate, and act. “Birth trauma is real – even when it’s invisible,” says Kate Hicks, founder of Birth Trauma Aotearoa. “Our goal is to shift the shame and stigma so Māmā know they’re not alone.” Defining Birth Trauma While there’s no universally accepted definition, Birth Trauma Aotearoa describes birth trauma as: “Any physical or psychological injury to come from pregnancy, labour and birth, and early post-partum” – Birth Trauma Aotearoa That encompasses everything from severe perineal tears and prolapse to the fear, confusion or isolation experienced during an emergency C-section or when baby goes to NICU. One in Three Māmā Say “I Was Traumatised” A 2021 feature in The Spinoff found that 1 in 3 women would label their birth “emotionally traumatic” if asked – mirroring global estimates that up to 30% of mothers feel trapped in traumatic memories long after discharge – Spinoff. “I felt like a passenger in my own body,” recalls one Wellington mother. “I wasn’t even sure what was happening – no one explained a thing.” Physically, over 80% of wāhine sustain at least a perineal tear, yet only the most severe (13 listed injuries) are now covered by ACC under the Maternal Birth Injury scheme introduced in October 2022 – Beehive.govt.nz. From Systemic Gaps to Personal Stories A New Zealand Herald investigation in August 2024 spotlighted a Tauranga mother whose fourth-degree tear left her incontinent and in chronic pain – yet she waited three years for proper treatment – NZ Herald. “I now grieve a life we never got to have,” she told the Herald, speaking of the isolation and flashbacks that jolted her new motherhood. Other common triggers for psychological birth trauma include lack of consent for procedures, unmanaged pain, and births that veer sharply from the plan – each felt deeply “in the eye of the beholder.” As Birth Trauma Aotearoa puts it, only the birthing parent can decide whether their experience was traumatic. Validation, Care, and Next Steps Māmā and their whānau deserve clear pathways to support: “Your response to your traumatic birth is your nervous system protecting you,” stresses Birth Trauma Aotearoa. “It’s not your fault, and you deserve care.” ‘50 for 50’: A Campaign of Solidarity To honour the 50 Māmā hurt by emotional trauma each day, Birth Trauma Aotearoa invites everyone to choose 50 acts over Awareness Week – bake 50 biccies, plant 50 seeds, offer 50 hugs or cycle 50 km. Share your action with #bta50for50 to send the message to the birth trauma community: “We believe you, and you are not alone.” Through sharing stories and joining together in this campaign, we can move towards a future where every Māmā feels safe, supported, and respected… because this, in all its raw power and vulnerability, truly is birth. Ngā mihi nui to every Māmā, partner, health provider, and advocate driving change this Birth Trauma Awareness Week. Kia kaha: your voice matters, your story counts, and together, we can shape a system that truly honours every birth.

Is It Safe to Have Sex During Pregnancy?

Let’s get straight to it—yes, if you’ve got a healthy pregnancy, there’s usually no reason you can’t continue having sex. In fact, for many couples, intimacy during pregnancy can be even more connected, more exploratory, and yes… more fun than before. The real trick? Communication. Your wants, needs, energy levels, and everything in between can change from day to day—or hour to hour. So talk to each other. A lot. And often. Because your relationship matters too, not just the growing bump. So, What’s Happening in There? Your body is going through massive changes, but guess what? Sex doesn’t need to be one of the things that stops. Baby is happily floating in their own private hot tub (aka the amniotic sac), surrounded by all the cushioning they need. Plus, the cervix is sealed with a mucus plug (not glamorous, but super important), which adds another layer of protection. Also important to know—nothing from the outside, whether it’s a penis, a toy, or an overly ambitious finger—is getting anywhere near your baby. They’re blissfully unaware of your adult activities. And if baby gives a little wiggle after you orgasm? That’s just their way of saying, “Hey, I noticed your heartbeat sped up!” Not “I know what you did.” Totally normal. First Trimester: The Wobbly Start Ah, the first trimester. You’re riding a hormonal rollercoaster blindfolded while trying not to throw up. Not the sexiest season for most people. Between nausea, exhaustion, sore boobs, and the sudden emotional whiplash, it’s perfectly normal for your libido to go into hiding. For some though, those pregnancy hormones actually ramp things up. Vivid dreams (often X-rated), random bursts of arousal, and unusual cravings—for chocolate and cuddles—are common. Some women even experience “unresolved orgasms,” where the pleasure lingers in a weird but not unpleasant way. The main message here? You do you. There’s no “normal” when it comes to libido in the first trimester, and there’s zero pressure to perform. Second Trimester: The Golden Era The second trimester is often when things settle down, energy returns, and you finally feel like a functioning human again. With increased blood flow to the pelvis, everything down there gets a little plumper and a lot more sensitive. Hello, enhanced pleasure! Many women feel sexier during this stage—the bump is showing, the skin is glowing, and the hormones are doing their thing. Some even report having the best sex of their life during this phase (yep, really!). This is a great time to explore new sensations and maybe even discover a few new favourite positions. And if you’re into anything a little more outside the box, this is the time to bring it up (with your partner and your midwife, if you’re unsure about safety). Just remember one golden rule: no blowing air into the vagina—seriously, just don’t. It can lead to a very rare but dangerous complication called an air embolism. Third Trimester: The Awkward Tango Things get a little trickier as baby grows. You might still feel like being intimate, but your body will definitely have opinions about how and when. Orgasms can trigger some uterus tightenings, which are usually harmless Braxton Hicks contractions. And sex late in pregnancy might cause mild spotting or discomfort, especially if baby is settling down into your pelvis. That’s normal too—but any bleeding should still be flagged with your LMC just to be safe. And let’s be honest—sex with a full-term belly? It’s not all effortless passion. It’s more like solving a slow-motion, giggle-filled puzzle. Don’t be afraid to laugh your way through it. Here are a few go-to positions: You might find that some days it works, some days it just… doesn’t. Totally fine. Prioritise comfort, connection, and a good sense of humour. When Sex Might Not Be Safe There are some situations where hitting pause is the right call. If you’ve had early bleeding, have a low-lying placenta, cervical issues, infections, or are carrying multiples, your LMC might recommend avoiding sex for a while—or entirely.And if there’s ever pain, pressure, or you just don’t feel right? Speak up. Listen to your instincts. There’s no shame in being cautious. Also, if either of you has a sexually transmitted infection, you’ll want to have an open, honest conversation with your healthcare provider. Protecting your health—and baby’s—is priority number one. Same-Sex Couples Pregnancy in same-sex relationships can come with its own set of unique dynamics. Whether you’re the pregnant partner or supporting the one who is, it can stir up big feelings around roles, connection, and closeness. Maybe you conceived through IVF, surrogacy, or IUI. Maybe only one of you is pregnant, but both of you are on the emotional rollercoaster. Regardless, intimacy might shift—not just physically, but emotionally too. That’s totally normal.The same rules apply here: keep the lines of communication wide open. Check in with each other, adapt together, and find ways to stay close that work for both of you. Final Thoughts: Keep It Real, Keep It Fun Pregnancy doesn’t have to mean waving goodbye to your sex life. If you’re feeling good, and your midwife gives the green light, there’s no reason why intimacy can’t stay on the menu. Your body is changing, your relationship is evolving, and yes—your hormones are throwing in some surprises for good measure. But with honesty, laughter, and a willingness to adapt, you can still find loads of connection and pleasure. So, go ahead—snuggle up, stay safe, and have fun. Your body is doing something amazing, and your sex life doesn’t have to hit pause just because there’s a baby on board.

Navigating Daycare Sleep: What to Expect and How to Support Your Little One

Starting daycare brings a whole mix of emotions, for both you and your child. One of the biggest transitions for many families? Sleep. Whether your little one is a baby or a toddler, sleep at daycare often looks very different from the calm, predictable routines you’ve worked so hard to build at home. And if you’re already feeling the anxiety rise, I want to say this clearly: daycare sleep doesn’t need to be perfect. Truly. Our Story: Two Children, Two Very Different Daycare Sleep Journeys When our eldest started daycare, I was riddled with anxiety. The routine we’d worked so hard to implement just didn’t carry over. He slept less, came home overtired, and dinner was a daily battle. I’d spend my afternoons dreading bedtime. On days he didn’t nap well, the anxiety would creep in—what kind of night were we in for? I questioned everything: his schedule, my decisions, even my own instincts. Fast forward to our second child starting daycare and, honestly? Daycare sleep hasn’t thrown me one bit. What changed? I was empowered. I knew what to expect, and more importantly, I knew how to respond when sleep didn’t go perfectly. Because it doesn’t have to. We can only offer the opportunity for sleep; whether or not they take it is up to them. That said, there were a few things we did to set him up for success. We Sent Comforts from Home To help bridge the gap between home and daycare, we sent his sleep sack and comforter to provide a sense of familiarity. If your daycare is open to it, you could even send a used cot sheet from home so it smells like their own sleep space. We Used a Flexible Routine: The 2–3–4 When he was still on two naps, we followed the 2–3–4 routine: We explained this routine to the daycare team and suggested they not wake him after just 30 minutes in the morning—something we would usually do at home. Instead, we preferred that he simply take the sleep when needed and follow more of a “medium/medium” nap structure, with two naps of roughly equal length. We also shared a cap on his total day sleep and a preferred wake time from his lunch nap to help protect bedtime at home. We Troubleshot Afternoon Overtiredness What I’ve learned is this: a short day of sleep doesn’t always mean a rough night. What matters is how we respond and support them when things don’t go to plan. We Communicated with Educators Open communication with your child’s teachers can make such a difference. Ask questions like: At one point, we noticed those dreaded 40-minute naps creeping in. I chatted with the team and learned they were patting him to sleep and getting him up as soon as he woke. I gently asked if they’d be willing to give him a chance to resettle (without allowing him to get upset). Soon after, they told me they’d seen him sit up, lay back down, and drift off again. With that one change and a bit of consistency, those short naps turned into 1.5–2 hour stretches. We Advocated Through the Cot-to-Floor Bed Transition When the transition to a floor bed came at 14–15 months, I knew he wasn’t quite ready. Sure enough, naps went back to 40 minutes. After a week of broken sleep, I asked if he could return to the cot—and the improvement was nearly immediate. At 22 months, we tried again. This time, it went beautifully. Because the sleep foundations were solid, the transition was smooth. If something doesn’t feel right for your child, speak up. You are their best advocate. A Few Final Tips for Daycare Days And remember: it’s okay if your child’s daycare routine looks different from home. Weekends Are for Catching Up If your little one has had a string of short naps or disrupted sleep during the daycare week, the weekend can be a great opportunity to catch up. You might let them have a slightly longer nap, or a bit of a sleep-in if they naturally wake later. Just try not to let that throw off the rest of the day—keeping the routine predictable will help you maintain a smooth bedtime. A little extra rest can go a long way in helping them reset. Connection After a big day at daycare, your little one may be running on empty, emotionally and physically. Even if they’ve had fun, the noise, stimulation, and time away from you can leave them feeling a little wobbly by evening. That’s why I always prioritise connection after daycare and before bed. It doesn’t have to be elaborate—some one-on-one (phone and screen-free) play, reading a favourite book together, or a cuddle on the couch can go a long way in helping them feel safe and grounded again. For us, it’s become a non-negotiable part of the routine, and I truly believe it’s made a huge difference in how settled our evenings feel. You’re Doing an Amazing Job Daycare sleep can feel out of your hands, and that can be really tough. But what matters most isn’t having perfect routines—it’s how we show up for our little ones with calm, compassion, and the willingness to adapt. Need More Support? Looking for age-specific troubleshooting, finding the above advice isn’t quite working, or feeling unsure about how to navigate daycare sleep? My personalised sleep plans offer tailored support and practical strategies to guide you through daycare transitions with confidence. And if you ever feel stuck, know that I’m always here to help.

Why TikTok Advice Like “Feed Your Baby Butter” Isn’t the Sleep Solution You’re Looking For

If you’ve spent more than five minutes scrolling through parenting TikTok, chances are you’ve come across someone confidently sharing baby sleep hacks that promise the world — from putting butter in a bottle to keeping your baby awake for hours to “make them tired.” As infant sleep specialists, we’ve seen it all. And while some of these ideas might go viral for their shock factor, they rarely reflect what’s best for your baby — or for you. At Village Sleep, we get it. Parenting is relentless, especially when you’re sleep-deprived and desperate for answers. But here’s the thing: there are no quick fixes. Especially not ones involving butter. Let’s break this down. The viral suggestion that feeding your baby a teaspoon of butter before bed will help them sleep longer? It’s not only unproven — it’s potentially unsafe. Babies’ digestive systems are delicate, especially under 12 months. Introducing saturated fats like butter into an infant’s bottle or solids can disrupt digestion, lead to discomfort, and in some cases, pose a choking hazard. This isn’t just a case of “do what works for you” — it’s about safety and long-term wellbeing. Unfortunately, these kinds of hacks gain traction because they tap into something very real: parental exhaustion. We see you. We know what it feels like to try everything and still be up at 3am googling “how to get my baby to sleep through the night.” The truth is, sleep is biological, not behavioural. Babies are not broken, and they’re not manipulating you when they wake at night. They’re wired that way. At Village Sleep, we take an evidence-informed, attachment-respecting approach. That means no rigid routines, no cry-it-out, and definitely no butter tricks. We focus on tuning into your baby’s cues, creating a supportive sleep environment, and helping you feel more confident — not more confused. Sleep will eventually consolidate. In the meantime, our job is to walk alongside you with realistic, gentle tools that support your baby’s development and your family’s wellbeing. Not everything on the internet deserves a place in your bedtime routine — and if it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. You deserve better than band-aid fixes and viral myths. You deserve support that’s grounded in connection, not coercion.

Empowering Mums Through Every Step: How Tiny Bloom Supports Breastfeeding in NZ & AU 

Breastfeeding in Aotearoa New Zealand: A Journey of Care, Choice, and Support  For many new mums, breastfeeding is one of the most intimate and sometimes challenging parts of motherhood. In New Zealand and Australia, countless parents begin this journey full of hope but often face unexpected hurdles—from medical complications and early births to latching issues and low supply. At Tiny Bloom, we understand these challenges first-hand. That’s why our products aren’t just designed to be functional and beautiful—they’re designed with real-life mums in mind. From Bluetooth-enabled wearable breast pumps to reusable milk collectors and milk storage solutions, every item in our range is crafted to make feeding easier, more comfortable, and less stressful.  But beyond our products, we’re proud to say that our mission is deeply rooted in community, care, and connection. One of the most impactful ways we support families is through our growing relationships with midwives and our involvement with the Little Miracles Trust.  Empowering Midwives & Their Mums Midwives are the backbone of birthing care in Aotearoa and Australia. They guide, nurture, and advocate for mums through pregnancy, birth, and those fragile first weeks. At Tiny Bloom, we believe that when midwives are supported, mums are empowered. That’s why we have donated our Bluetooth breast pumps to midwives across both countries—so they can recommend, demonstrate, and use our products with confidence. These pumps serve as tools for education and empowerment, giving midwives hands-on ways to support their clients through breastfeeding.   In addition, we’ve provided exclusive discount codes for midwives to pass on to their clients. This ensures that high-quality, hospital-grade, wearable pumps are accessible to all mothers—no matter their circumstances. If you’re a midwife who would love to get involved, we’d love to hear from you! Email us at support@tinybloom.co.nz to learn how we can support you and your māmās.  Supporting the Smallest Fighters: Our Partnership with The Little Miracles Trust Every year in New Zealand, more than 5,000 babies are born prematurely or require special care. Some arrive as early as 23 weeks gestation. For their families, what should be a joyful time becomes one filled with fear, worry, and an overwhelming need for support. We’re honoured to partner with The Little Miracles Trust, an organisation that works to make these difficult starts to life a little easier. Through this partnership: These aren’t just products—they’re bridges. They offer mothers the comfort of choice, the dignity of control, and the ability to nourish their babies during one of the most vulnerable periods of life. Why It Matters Our mission at Tiny Bloom is simple: to make motherhood easier, calmer, and more supported. Through our trusted partnerships with midwives and our work with the Little Miracles Trust, we’re doing more than just selling breast pumps. We’re walking alongside mums—from their first pump session in a hospital chair to their late-night feeds at home. We’re here for the NICU māmās, the first-time mums, the midwives on the frontline, and everyone in between. If you’re part of the maternity community and want to be involved, we’d love to collaborate. Let’s continue to create real impact, together. Get in touch: support@tinybloom.co.nzTiny Bloom – Where real mums help real mums bloom.

Celebrating Matariki With Your Tamariki: A Guide for Kiwi Whānau

Matariki, the Māori New Year, is a special time in Aotearoa for reflection, connection and celebration. It’s also the perfect opportunity to introduce tamariki to te ao Māori through hands-on, age-appropriate activities. Whether you’re new to Matariki or looking for fresh ideas to celebrate this weekend, this guide will help you learn about the kaupapa and get creative with your littlest ones. What is Matariki? Matariki is the Māori name for a cluster of stars also known as the Pleiades. Its rising in the winter sky signals the beginning of the Māori lunar new year. Traditionally, Matariki was a time for: In recent years, Matariki has been recognised as a public holiday in Aotearoa. It’s a time for all people in Aotearoa to reflect on the past, celebrate the present and plan for the future. Why It’s Important for Kiwi Kids Celebrating Matariki supports tamariki to: When we bring Matariki into our homes, we strengthen cultural awareness and create meaningful moments for the whole whānau. 10 Simple Matariki Activities for Under 5s All activities are based on resources from Matariki.co.nz, Te Wānanga o Aotearoa, Playcentre NZ, and Paitu. 1. Paper Star Craft Create a cluster of Matariki stars for your window or fridge. You’ll need: Steps: Source: Playcentre NZ 2. Matariki Star Biscuits Get little hands helping in the kitchen with star-shaped cookies. You’ll need: Steps: Source: Paitu 3. Create a Matariki Wishing Tree Write or draw hopes and dreams on paper stars. You’ll need: Steps: Source: Playcentre NZ 4. Matariki Light Jar A gentle sensory project to honour the stars. You’ll need: Steps: Source: Paitu 5. Name the Matariki Stars Game Learn the nine whetū in a fun interactive way. You’ll need: Steps: Source: Te Wānanga o Aotearoa 6. Nature Walk and Star Hunt Connect with the land while looking for star shapes. You’ll need: Steps: Source: Matariki.co.nz 7. Starry Sky Collage Make your own night sky at home. You’ll need: Steps: Source: Matariki.co.nz 8. Matariki Breakfast Celebration Start the day with a shared kai and kōrero. You’ll need: Steps: Source: Te Wānanga o Aotearoa 9. Matariki Waiata Time Introduce simple te reo Māori songs. You’ll need: Steps: Source: Te Wānanga o Aotearoa 10. Night-Time Star Spotting If you’re up before sunrise, try finding Matariki in the eastern sky. You’ll need: Steps: Source: Matariki.co.nz Ngā Mihi o te Tau Hou Māori Celebrating Matariki with tamariki doesn’t have to be complicated. Whether it’s baking, crafting or sharing stories, these small acts of connection are what this season is all about. From our whānau to yours, we wish you a meaningful and magical Matariki.

Considered Going Goat? A Look into New Zealand Goat Farming and Goat Milk

New Zealand Goat Farming The introduction of commercial dairy goat farming in New Zealand began in the late 1970s and early 1980s, but remains to this day an extremely small industry in comparison to the New Zealand cow industry. While there are over 10,000 cow farmers in New Zealand, there are less than 100 goat farmers. Predominantly farmed for the production of goat milk, meat and fibre, 72% of the dairy goat population is found in the Waikato region with the three main breeds being: These goat breeds were selected for farming due to their high protein productivity and suitability for producing goat milk. Goats are milked twice a day on a daily basis, with the two main methods in New Zealand being the herringbone system and the rotary milking shed. The herringbone system enables the goats to be arranged at a 45° angle away from the milking equipment which allows for easy access for the milkers and farmhands. The rotary shed on the other hand resembles a carousel in that the goats each enter their own section, and the machine spins them around the rotary function while they are being milked. To keep the goats calm and happy, they are also fed while being milked and in theory should arrive back at the start once they are finished milking. Goats appreciate variety in their diet, so besides grazing on grass, they thrive on other locally grown, on-farm forages such as clover, lucerne, hay, silage, plantain or pasture plants. Some goats also feed on grains and molasses which are high in protein and energy. Goats also prefer shelter from the wind, rain and sun as unlike cows and sheep, they are more vulnerable to the elements (and susceptible to sunburn). For this reason, about half the goat farms here in New Zealand provide indoor housing to their goats to ensure adequate shelter and protection from extreme weather conditions. Goats raised in sheltered barns also tend to grow larger in size than goats raised outdoors in open paddocks. Why goat milk? Goat milk has been consumed for centuries. During ancient times, in regions that were particularly mountainous or where cow milk was less readily available, goat milk was seen as a staple and a vital source of nutrition. Unique flavour profile. Goat milk is known to have a creamy, sweet taste that can add to the flavour of food. Its versatility also makes it a great ingredient to feature in cooking, baking and smoothies. Goat goodness. Goat milk is a naturally nutritious source of essential vitamins, minerals and protein due to its unique fatty acid, protein and oligosaccharide (prebiotic) profile. It is a good source of calcium to support healthy bones and teeth, and has protein that contributes to the maintenance of muscle mass. Besides calcium, goat milk also contains potassium, magnesium, phosphorus, zinc, selenium, iodine, manganese and chloride, as well as Vitamins A, B2, B3, B6 and D. As a result of its nutritional value, goat milk’s use has expanded into skincare and infant nutrition. At Baby Steps, we believe in the natural goodness of goat milk to nourish and support your little one as they take their adventurous first steps through life. Why mums trust and love Baby Steps: “Just want to leave a review to say this had quite literally changed my baby’s life ahha. Tried almost every formula on the market as I couldn’t breast feed, and my baby was met with bad reactions and side effects. Looked into healthy, safe alternatives without too many nasties and found goat milk the closest. Since switching to this my baby has slept beautifully, gained weight perfectly, had clear skin and no more awful tummy gas and spit ups, and NO CONSTIPATION!!! Well worth every penny for a healthy baby. Thank you so much for this milk, our wee man loves his sweet goat’s milk!” – Laura “I switched to this goat milk formula for my toddler, and the results were almost immediate. His eczema, which had been a constant struggle, improved quickly, and his skin is now so much clearer. Not only is it gentle on his stomach, but he also loves the taste! It’s been a game-changer for us, and I highly recommend it for little ones with sensitive skin or digestion issues. Will definitely be purchasing in the future.” – Katie “Very happy with this toddler milk and my 2 year old loves it! She’ll point up at the container asking for her milks in the morning and evening so definitely a hit with her. We’re aware we could swap to normal milk but enjoy having the added benefits of toddler milk a couple of times a day. We would absolutely continue purchasing.” – Josie Discover the natural goodness of goat milk for your little one with Baby Steps, and enjoy 20% off your first order when you sign up. Baby Steps – we’re with you every step of the way.

The Mighty Mineral: How Magnesium Supports Your Little One (and You!)

Magnesium often doesn’t get the spotlight it deserves, but this essential mineral is nothing short of magic for your body—and your little one’s, too. Let’s dive into why magnesium is so important, how it works, and why replenishing it daily is key to overall health and wellness. Magnesium Magnesium is a crucial player in over 300 biochemical reactions in the body. From supporting muscle function to maintaining a steady heartbeat, magnesium is a multitasker that works tirelessly to keep things running smoothly. But there’s a catch: our bodies can’t produce magnesium on their own, and we burn through our magnesium levels every single day. Whether it’s through stress, physical activity, or just daily living, magnesium needs to be replenished consistently. How Magnesium Benefits Your Little One When it comes to your baby or child, magnesium is a superhero for their growing bodies. Here’s how it helps: Magnesium for You: A Parent’s Best Friend Magnesium isn’t just for the kids; it’s a lifesaver for parents, too. How to Replenish Magnesium Daily Because magnesium isn’t stored in the body for long, regular replenishment is key. Topical magnesium is a game-changer—it’s absorbed directly through the skin, bypassing the digestive system and delivering magnesium straight to where it’s needed most. Here are some easy ways to incorporate magnesium into your family’s routine: Why Consistency Matters Consistency is key with magnesium. Think of it like hydration—you wouldn’t drink water once and expect to stay hydrated forever. Similarly, replenishing your magnesium levels daily ensures your body can keep up with all it needs to do. Magnesium is a true powerhouse for the entire family, supporting everything from better sleep to muscle relaxation and stress relief. By making magnesium a daily part of your routine, you’re giving your little one (and yourself) the tools to thrive every single day. Ready to experience the benefits of magnesium for your family? Check out our range of magnesium products designed with love and care to make low-tox living simple and effective. 

Mornings Made Easier: 3 Quick Wins to Save Time, Energy & Sanity

Let’s set the scene: it’s 8.13am, one kid’s still in pyjamas, the baby’s halfway through a feed, you haven’t eaten, the kitchen looks like a tornado touched down, and someone’s yelling they can’t find their shoe (could be your husband or toddler). Oh, and yeah, you need to be out the door in 15 minutes. Sound familiar? I see you. I am you. As a mum of two, I’ve had more of those mornings than I can count… the ones where the day feels like it’s spiralling and the kettle hasn’t even boiled yet. While I can’t promise a perfect start every day, I can share a few time-saving tricks that have helped me claw back a little calm and feel more on top of things. These small shifts have made all the difference in my mornings, and I hope they can help you too. Make lunch boxes the night before (even if it’s a home day) I know the couch is calling after dinner. But trust me, packing lunches at night is one of those small wins that pays off big the next morning. Instead of scrambling to fill lunchboxes while fending off little hands raiding the stash, imagine just grabbing them from the fridge and heading out the door. Too good to be true? It’s not. Past you has your back. No early morning decision fatigue, no crumbs all over the bench, and no last-minute scramble for snacks. Just one less thing to deal with while you’re juggling brekkie requests, missing socks and the rest of that pre-9am chaos. Create a morning flow that works for you I’m not here to tell you to wake up before sunrise and do a 10 step wellness routine. I wish! This is about creating your own little rhythm, just a few simple non-negotiables that help you start the day feeling a bit more grounded. For me, I try to fit in 5–10 minutes of stretching or meditation, a quick shower, and pop my contacts in before the kids start following me around the house. Doesn’t always happen, but I try! And when it does, I feel way more like myself and happy that I did something for me before it becomes about everyone else.  Even just a few intentional minutes to reset can make the whole day feel smoother. Have a go-to, effortless breakfast on hand Feeding yourself properly can feel like a luxury. And let’s be honest, mum breakfast often looks like crusts and coffee (if you’re lucky). But you need fuel just as much as your kids do. That’s why we created CupFull. It’s a mum-made, no-fuss frozen smoothie, packed with protein, healthy fats, fibre, and powerful nutrients to support your energy and recovery during this phase of motherhood. And it’s ready in a minute. Just add water or milk, blend, and a nutritious delicious breakfast is sorted. No dragging out ingredients, no mess to clean up, and no thinking required. The only decision you’ll need to make is which flavour to choose (and yes, they’re all yum). It’s one less thing for the morning mental load, and a nourishing moment just for you. Progress over perfection Mornings won’t always go as planned. That’s just life with little ones. But small, practical tweaks like sorting lunchboxes the night before, protecting a few morning non-negotiables, or having an easy breakfast ready to go can make the whole process feel more doable. Pick one. Try it. See how it feels at your place. You might just reclaim a tiny bit of calm for yourself. Because you deserve to start the day with something that fills your cup first. About the authorRosie is a nutritionist supporting women through pregnancy and postpartum, and a co-founder of CupFull. She’s a mum of two who believes small, consistent nourishment is the secret weapon to not just surviving, but making the most of motherhood.

5 Things Every Mum Should Know When Returning to Exercise Postpartum

Congratulations Mama! You’ve made it through pregnancy and birth and have your precious bundle of joy but now what? Society may have us believe that we will (or should) feel ‘back to normal’ after about 6 weeks postpartum or that we need to ‘bounce back’ after birth. This is certainly how I felt after the birth of my 1st, 10 years ago. In reality though, many mums feel completely different in their postpartum bodies, perhaps with aches and pains, feelings of weakness in the core and pelvic floor and/or utter exhaustion from lack of sleep. So knowing what exercises to do to support your postpartum recovery and build strength for motherhood is really important not only for a mother’s physical health, but emotional and mental well being too. In this blog, I will walk you through 5 essential things to consider before you start exercising postpartum. Whether you are a new mum, more than 1 year postpartum these tips will provide guidance and support you need to return to exercise safely postpartum. When to start exercising after baby Most mums will receive clearance from their midwife or doctor to return to exercise at around 6–8 weeks postpartum. This clearance generally means your body has healed well enough from birth (whether you birthed vaginally or via c-section) and can start to introduce more movement. It does not mean you are ready to return to pre-pregnancy exercises. Your body has gone through many changes over the past 9 months as you have grown and birthed your baby so it’s important to understand these changes and how to safely return to exercise to reduce this risk of injury and/or pelvic floor dysfunction. Your adapting body During pregnancy your body experiences many changes including: Once baby is born, your body doesn’t quickly snap back to its pre-pregnancy state so your exercise or movement needs to take these changes into consideration. Mums often will feel really weak through the core and pelvic floor and it’s common to experience back pain, knee pain, wrist pain and leaking or heaviness in the pelvic floor. It’s important to understand these changes we experience in our pregnant and postpartum bodies so we can move in ways to support the physical demands of motherhood. In the long term, this will allow a sustainable return to exercise whilst reducing the risk of injury, pain and pelvic floor dysfunction. And whilst these things are common, they don’t have to be your new normal. I recommend all Mums seek support of a women’s health physio and a qualified pre-postnatal personal trainer – MumSafe Trainers are the Gold Standard in Pre and Postnatal care. You can visit Mumsafemovement.com to find your local women’s health physio and trainer. The MumSafe website also has a variety of articles so you can delve deeper into these changes & learn more. Nutrition Matters More Than Ever What we eat and drink can have a huge impact on our mood, energy levels, recovery from birth and recovery from exercise postpartum. With the focus on our cute new arrivals, we can often forget to take care of ourselves but finding ways to improve your nutrition can positively enhance your postpartum experience and nourish your body for Mum life. So how do you do this? Keep it simple with: For more info, check out the Nutrition for Mums Guide here. Top tip: If you find it hard to prepare healthy foods and snacks – ask for help! I’m sure your friends/family would be more than happy to do a grocery shop or prepare some food for you. Managing Expectation Motherhood is such a personal and unique experience. Whilst we have some guidance around when to return to exercise postpartum, my #1 piece of advice for Mums, especially in the first year postpartum, is to not compare yourself to others. Every baby is different and every woman is different, every day is different and every week is different, so when exercising postpartum (or motherhood in general), flexibility is key. Do what works best for you at that time. Some days it might be a walk, others a full workout, other days a gentle stretch session. Aim to add more intentional movement into your day – even if it’s just a few minutes at a time. For one Mum, returning to the gym regularly may be possible, for others, finding the time and energy to exercise even for just a few minutes is extremely hard. Remember, motherhood is a physically demanding job – feeding, lifting, carrying, changing bubs, all on limited sleep and fuelled only by nutella toast & a banana (my personal experience). For this reason, exercising regularly is important, but know that it will not look perfect or may look completely different to pre-pregnancy exercise and even week to week. Self compassion is your new superpower Forget about the should’s, the guilt, the comparison to other Mums, the worry about not doing enough, the perfect workout (I know, easier said than done! It’s not easy but shifting focus can really help with motivation & progress). You took 9 months to grow your baby so allow yourself at least that amount of time to find your feet again and discover how exercise may fit into Mum life. There is no prize for being ‘Super Mum’. Take small steps, aim to move your body regularly, celebrate the small wins along the way & don’t dwell on things that don’t go to plan – use these opportunities to reflect and improve moving forward. Imagine the advice you would give a close friend in the same situation, allow yourself the same compassion and grace and reach out to others if you feel you could do with extra support. You’ve got this Mama! There is no perfect or magic timeline for returning to exercise postpartum. You are unique and so too will be your return to exercise. By tuning into your body, understanding and honouring the changes it’s been through, fuelling yourself well and managing

Feeling Alone in a Crowd? Building Your Village When You Can’t Rely on Whānau

It is a truth universally acknowledged that having a new baby is both miraculous and utterly exhausting. Yet for many Kiwi mums, the reality is that the traditional village of support – Nana dropping by with kai, aunties pitching in with babysitting, cousins entertaining older siblings, is simply not there. In Aotearoa nearly one in four mums will experience postnatal depression in the first year after birth (Plunket New Zealand), and feelings of isolation and loneliness only amplify the risk. If your nearest whānau lives hours away, or you’ve recently moved cities for work or study, you might feel even more cut adrift just when you need connection the most. The Hidden Toll of Postnatal Isolation New parents often describe the first weeks as a surreal blur of feeds, nappies and bleary-eyed days. It can be hard to admit that, as lovely as visitors are, what you really crave is someone to do the dishes, whip up a meal, or simply tell you you’re doing a great job without expecting you to entertain them. Research shows that between 13% and 19% of New Zealand mums develop clinically significant postnatal depression in the months after giving birth (CSIRO Publishing), and we know that social isolation is a major contributing factor. When the “you’ve got this” encouragement runs dry, and there’s no one to step in with practical help, mums can slide from feeling tired to feeling truly unsupported. Why Your Village Matters More Than Ever Humans evolved to parent in tribes, not in isolation. Support from friends, family or community members allows new parents to rest, recover and recalibrate. A compassionate listener can catch the first hints of anxiety or low mood. A warm meal can banish hangry tears before they start. Someone to entertain your toddler while you have a quick shower can stop frustration building to meltdown levels for everyone. In short, practical help is a form of emotional support – when your basic needs are met, you’re better able to cope with the highs and lows of postpartum life. How Postpartmum Can Be Your Modern-Day Village Postpartmum understands that real life doesn’t always look like the sentimental postcards. That’s why their personalised postpartum services are designed to fill the gaps when whānau can’t be there: By the time they leave, you’ll feel lighter, more capable, and genuinely cared for in this special yet overwhelming season. Take the First Step Toward Your New Village You deserve a postpartum era where you feel valued, supported and less alone. If you live in Dunedin, Ōamaru or Wānaka, and you’re ready to build a village that shows up with practical help and emotional warmth, get in touch with Postpartmum today. Let them take care of the dishes, the kai and the errands so you can focus on what truly matters – enjoying your pēpi and easing into motherhood with confidence.

Why Dads Matter in the Fourth Trimester: Simple Ways to Share the Journey

Navigating the fourth trimester is a huge adjustment for everyone in the whānau, not just pēpi and māmā. Partners, dads, non-birthing parents and co-parents often splash into this phase full of excitement and nerves. Yet their needs can get lost amid feeding schedules, healing bodies and over-tired minds. Here’s why supporting dads and partners matters, and some practical ways to make that early journey smoother. Why partners need support, tooEach year about 58,539 babies are born in Aotearoa, so there are plenty of families working out this new normal right now (Stats NZ). Partners often juggle learning infant cues, navigating parental leave and keeping the household ticking over. On top of that, up to one in ten dads experience postnatal depression or anxiety (Plunket New Zealand). It is not “just a mother’s issue”. If left unchecked, anxiety and low mood in a partner can affect the entire family’s wellbeing and bonding. Practical ways to support partners How professional fourth-trimester support helpsMultiple Choice’s founder Emma (BNurs PGDipMid) has walked the walk as both a mum and a midwife. She offers tailored support for the whole whānau from short online consults to in-home visits when you need that extra hand. Here’s a snapshot: If you are based in Queenstown, Arrowtown or Jacks Point, Emma can visit your home. Central Otago families are welcome too, with modest travel charges. After your chosen bundle, you can book extra daytime support at $60 an hour or evening help at $70 an hour. Getting startedIf you’d like to explore what support might look like, Emma offers a free 15-minute chat before you book. Sometimes just having a plan and knowing someone has your back is enough to settle the nerves and lift the mood. The fourth trimester can be full on but you do not have to do it alone. With shared responsibilities, honest conversations and a bit of professional help when you need it, partners can find their feet and your whole whānau will thrive.

Why What You Eat in Pregnancy Matters More Than You Think

Why What You Eat in Pregnancy Matters More Than You Think (…and how the right foods can support your baby’s development long before they’re born) Pregnancy is a whirlwind — emotionally, physically, and mentally. With all the changes happening week to week, it’s easy to overlook how much the food you eat is quietly shaping your baby’s future. As a Certified Nutrition Consultant specialising in Pregnancy, Postpartum & Baby Nutrition — and a Mama of two — I know how overwhelming it can feel. But I also know how empowering it is to understand what your body and baby truly need. The truth is, what you put on your plate during pregnancy can have a lasting impact on your baby’s growth, development, and even their long-term health. As Ina May Gaskin so beautifully said (and one of my favourite quotes): “Gardeners know that you must nourish the soil if you want healthy plants… Why should nutrition matter less in the creation of young humans than it does in young plants? I’m sure that it doesn’t.” From the moment of conception, your baby grows at an incredible rate. Their brain, organs, immune system, and even gut health begin developing from the earliest weeks — and your nutrition provides the building blocks for all of it. Good nutrition during pregnancy can: Food isn’t just fuel — it’s nourishment, medicine, and one of your most powerful tools in supporting your pregnancy and your baby’s future. Trimester by Trimester: What to Eat and Why A balanced diet is essential throughout all three trimesters. But your nutrient needs evolve as your pregnancy progresses. Here’s what to focus on: First Trimester (Weeks 1–12): Laying the Foundations Key Nutrients: Why They Matter: Eat more of: Second Trimester (Weeks 13–27): Building Blocks Key Nutrients: Why They Matter: Eat more of: Third Trimester (Weeks 28–40+): Brain & Immune Support Key Nutrients: Why They Matter: Eat more of: Long-Term Benefits for Baby What you eat now doesn’t just support your baby’s development in the womb — it can influence their health for years to come. But let’s be honest — it’s not always easy. Between the nausea, cravings, exhaustion, and well-meaning advice coming from every direction, pregnancy nutrition can feel like a lot. But here’s what I want you to know: That’s why I created Nourish Me Mama and my Personalised Pregnancy Nutrition Support Consultation — to help pregnant women feel confident, informed, and nourished every step of the way. Together, we’ll create a nutrition plan tailored to you — your lifestyle, your needs. Whether you’re managing food aversions, navigating fatigue, or just want to give your baby the best start, I’m here with non-judgmental support backed by experience and science. You’re growing a tiny human — that’s incredible. You deserve to feel strong, informed, and supported through every bite and every trimester. Want to feel more confident in your pregnancy nutrition? Visit www.nourishmemama.nzFollow along on Instagram: @nourishmemama.nz Mention this blog when you book and receive 10% off your Personalised Pregnancy Nutrition Support consultation. (Offer valid for this service only, not to be used with other discounts. Limited time offer.) With love and care,Arti ChhaganlalCertified Nutrition Consultant & Founder of Nourish Me Mama

Big Dreams Club: Making Early Childhood Magical (and a Lot Less Overwhelming)

Let’s be honest—parenting young children can feel like a never-ending to-do list. Between nappies, meal times, nap times and trying to just keep up, it’s easy to wonder: “Am I doing enough to support my child’s development?” That’s exactly why Big Dreams Club was born. What is Big Dreams Club? Big Dreams Club is a 6 monthly educational toy and book bundle tailored to your child’s exact age and stage, from birth to 4 years old. Each bundle is packed with purposeful play, Montessori-inspired tools, and guidance to make parenting easier—and childhood more magical. Why Parents Love It Backed by Research, Built with HeartEvery item is thoughtfully chosen to support developmental milestones like fine motor skills, language, sensory exploration, and emotional connection. Plus, the included parenting guide helps you understand why each activity matters—without the overwhelm of Googling late at night. Zero-Prep PlayNo need to scroll Pinterest or roam the toy aisle. Just open the box and play. Everything’s ready to go, so you can focus on bonding—not planning. Guilt-Free SupportWhether you’re a working parent, solo mum, or just juggling a million things (like we all are), Big Dreams Club is your permission slip to let go of the pressure and still give your little one a rich, stimulating start. What’s Inside a Typical Bundle? From tummy time to toddlerhood, every month brings something new—designed to grow with your child and make your job a little easier. Trusted by Families Across NZ and Australia We’re proud to support thousands of parents who want the best start for their little ones. Ready to Try Big Dreams Club? Whether you’ve got a newborn or a curious kindergartener, there’s a bundle for you. Come explore what intentional play can look like—without the stress. Because childhood isn’t just about keeping them busy—it’s about building their future, one playful moment at a time.

The Dark Trenches of Postpartum: How Sleep Deprivation Can Exacerbate PPD and PPA

In the deep, dark trenches of sleep deprivation and new-mumhood, I found myself lost and feeling oh so very low. I didn’t understand—wasn’t I supposed to feel elation? Extreme happiness? An overwhelming sense of love? This wasn’t like what they showed in the movies. Then came the dark thoughts I never imagined I’d have. I was questioning everything about my life, crying constantly. I remember sitting in antenatal classes during my pregnancy, listening to the section on the “baby blues” and what to look out for. They talked about shaken baby syndrome, and I remember thinking, How could anyone feel that way about their little baby? More importantly, how could they do that to their baby? But there I was—exhausted after a traumatic labour, what I saw as a failure to breastfeed, mastitis just five days postpartum—and I was thinking my daughter would be better off without me. A terrifying thought to have in the middle of the night. What I didn’t realise at the time was that postnatal depression is actually really common. Around 13–19% of women in New Zealand go through it (Gunn & Parag, 2022). And yet, it still feels like something we’re not really supposed to talk about. Like there’s this invisible pressure to just “be grateful” or “enjoy every moment.” When people asked if I was loving being at home with my newborn, I tried to be honest and said, “No, not at all.” They’d look surprised or uncomfortable, which only made me feel worse about the thoughts I was having. So eventually, I just smiled and said what they wanted to hear. It took me a long time to reach out for help. I was having regular panic attacks, crying daily, not eating or looking after myself. Eventually, I hit a point where I realised: enough was enough. I needed to care for myself so I could be the mum Lyla needed. So, I reached out – I got help (Thank you to MICAMHs, WCLT, and my incredible friends and family.). Looking back now, I can see how much of a role sleep played in all of it. It wasn’t just that I was tired—it was next-level exhaustion. There’s actually research that shows how closely linked sleep deprivation is with postnatal depression and anxiety. It messes with your ability to regulate emotions, cope with stress, and feel grounded. When you’re already feeling fragile, that lack of sleep can tip you over the edge. Lyla was a pretty terrible sleeper, and with my recent diagnosis of PPD and PPA, I was very lost. One of my friends had an older little one and had gone through the process of getting a sleep consultant. I had never heard of a sleep consultant, and when I googled, so many things came up – and with such high prices! My friend gave me the information of a sleep consultant she used, and after a particularly bad day, I reached out. I had the initial consultation and felt so validated and supported just from that first phone call. Then I got Lyla’s sleep plan – it really interested me and opened up my eyes to the world of sleep. The one-on-one support I got from our sleep consultant literally changed our lives – for the better. I finally started to feel like myself again and was actually enjoying being a mum. I ended up becoming good friends with our sleep consultant, and we still talk to this day. She encouraged me to study to become a qualified sleep consultant myself, and so I took the plunge and did it—and Snowdrop Sleep was born. I’m a registered nurse and have been for over five years now, so Snowdrop Sleep is my side hustle and my passion. I love being able to give other mums that one-on-one support and help them navigate their own deep and dark trenches. My goal is to help other parents by Making Sleep Simple, and to keep speaking up about the things people are still scared to talk about—like postnatal depression, anxiety, and the very real struggles that come with being a new parent. And just a gentle reminder—this doesn’t only affect mums. Dads and partners can experience postnatal depression and anxiety too. The weight of it all—supporting a partner, adjusting to a new baby, trying to keep everything together—can be just as heavy. If you’re feeling flat, disconnected, numb, or overwhelmed, please know you’re not alone. There’s support out there, and you deserve to feel better too. In New Zealand, there’s help. Whether you’re in Whanganui or anywhere else. Maternal mental health services are available through Whanganui Hospital, and your GP can help get you connected. There are also community groups, helplines, and national services like PlunketLine (0800 933 922), Healthline (0800 611 116), and the Need to Talk? service (1737), all available 24/7. Whatever you’re going through—mum, dad, caregiver—know this: you’re not alone. Support is out there. And reaching out could be the first step toward feeling like you again.

How to Create Your Ultimate Birth Plan

When you’re preparing to welcome a baby, you’re often told “just go with the flow” or “don’t bother writing a birth plan, it’ll never go that way anyway.” But here’s the truth: while birth can be unpredictable, you still deserve to feel informed, supported, and in control of your choices. A great birth plan, or what I like to call a birth map, isn’t about scripting your birth step-by-step. It’s about understanding your options, communicating your preferences, and feeling confident as you move through one of life’s biggest transitions. Through teaching Aotearoa-wide online antenatal classes, in-person antenatal classes in Hamilton, and practicing as a midwife, I’ve supported hundreds (if not thousands!) of pregnancies and births. I’ve seen time and time again how birth education and planning reduce the risk of trauma and help people feel calm, capable, and heard – no matter what path their birth takes. In this blog, I’ll guide you through how to create a birth plan (or map!) that helps you feel empowered, not boxed in. Plus, I’ll share a free template you can use to get started. What Is a Birth Plan Really About? A birth plan is often misunderstood. It’s not about controlling every detail or expecting things to unfold exactly as written. It’s about: I prefer the term birth map because just like a road trip, you know your starting point (labour onset) and your destination (meeting your baby), but there are many routes to get there. Some will be smooth and scenic, others may take unexpected detours, and that’s okay. You can still be in the driver’s seat. Why Planning Ahead Matters Birth planning isn’t just about designing your dream birth – it’s also about preparing for the “just in case.” By thinking through different scenarios and understanding your options ahead of time, you can approach any twists or turns with calm and clarity. When things don’t go to plan, you’re not starting from scratch, you’ve already built a foundation of informed, confident decision-making. Birth planning helps you: Yes! Even an induction, assisted delivery or caesarean birth can be positive and empowering when you feel like you’re the one making the decisions. What to Include in Your Birth Plan (or Map!) Focus on what really matters to you. Here are some of the things I recommend considering: 1. Your Labour Preferences 2. Pain Relief Options 3. Monitoring & Interventions 4. Birth & Immediate Postpartum Preferences 5. Contingency Plans Why It Matters for Birth Partners & Health Professionals Too A birth plan isn’t just for you – it helps your support team show up confidently too. When your birth partner knows what matters to you, they can: Bring your birth plan/preferences to your antenatal appointments and discuss it with your midwife, obstetrician, or support person. For healthcare professionals, a birth plan communicates what matters to the birthing person and what kind of care environment helps them feel safe and respected. It builds mutual understanding and teamwork! Download Your Free Birth Plan Template I’ve created a beautiful, easy-to-use birth plan template that walks you through each section step by step. Whether you’re planning a home birth, hoping for a water birth, VBAC or preparing for a caesarean, this template will help you reflect, communicate, and plan with confidence. Get my Birth Preferences Template for free by using the code HEYMAMA at checkout. You Deserve More Than “A Healthy Baby” You’ve probably heard it before: “All that matters is a healthy baby.” But that’s simply not true. You matter too. Your emotional wellbeing, your autonomy, and your voice during birth all matter just as much. What truly matters is a healthy baby, a healthy parent, AND an empowered birthing experience, no matter how your story unfolds. Birth planning won’t guarantee the outcome, but it will help you feel informed, supported, and respected along the way. Want More Support? If you’d love more down-to-earth, holistic, evidence-based information and support, check out my self-paced online or in-person Hamilton antenatal classes, or head over and follow me on instagram (@mylittlekiwi_). I’m here to help you: Visit www.mylittlekiwi.co.nz to explore classes, free resources, and tools to help you feel calm and confident on your journey to parenthood!

All things Antenatal Classes

Antenatal classes are where you and your partner go to learn about all things childbirth, and most LMC’s (Lead Maternity Carer’s – your midwife or obstetrician) will recommend that you do an antenatal class, especially if you are pregnant with your first baby. So, why should you go to an antenatal class? What are my antenatal class options? What should I look for in a good antenatal class? Where do I find an antenatal class? We believe a great antenatal class is essential for preparing for labour, birth, and beyond, helping first-time parents feel empowered and well-equipped for this new stage of life. Grace Strange – Midwife and owner/founder of Antenatal Co.

Understanding Sleep Regressions: What They Are and How to Cope

If your little one has suddenly gone from sleeping well to waking frequently, skipping naps, or becoming harder to settle, you’re not alone. These changes can feel confusing and frustrating—especially when they seem to come out of nowhere. What you might be seeing is a sleep regression—a completely normal (though challenging) part of your baby or toddler’s development. Let’s break down what sleep regressions actually are, why they happen, and how you can gently support your child through them. What Is a Sleep Regression? A sleep regression is a temporary disruption in your baby or toddler’s sleep patterns, often linked to a burst of development. This might look like more night waking, shorter naps, resistance to bedtime, or early rising—sometimes all at once! Sleep regressions are most common during periods of rapid change, such as learning to crawl, walk, or talk. As your little one’s brain and body work overtime to master new skills, sleep can take a hit. When Do Sleep Regressions Happen? While every child is different, there are a few key ages where parents commonly report sleep disruptions: These sleep regressions are tough—but temporary. And they’re actually a positive sign that your child is growing and learning. How to Cope with Sleep Regression Here’s the good news: there are things you can do to make these phases a little easier, for both you and your child. 1. Stick to a Consistent Routine Babies and toddlers thrive on predictability. A calm, consistent bedtime routine helps signal to your little one that it’s time for sleep—even when their body is feeling wired. 2. Offer Extra Comfort and Connection During regressions, your child may need more closeness and reassurance. That’s okay. Responding with patience and love helps them feel safe, which in turn supports better sleep. 3. Protect Daytime Sleep It can be tempting to drop naps early if sleep is tricky—but holding on to age-appropriate nap routines helps avoid overtiredness (which often makes nights worse!). 4. Try Responsive Settling Techniques If your little one needs more help falling asleep or resettling at night, gentle strategies like shush-pat, gradual withdrawal, or check-ins can support them through this phase without relying on crying it out. 5. Look After Yourself Too Broken sleep is exhausting. Try to rest where you can, lower the bar for non-essentials, and ask for help if you need it. This won’t last forever—but it can feel long when you’re in it. Sleep regressions are hard—but they’re also normal and part of your child’s healthy development. They’re not a sign that you’re doing something wrong, or that your baby will never sleep again. With time, support, and a few simple tweaks to your routines, your little one’s sleep will settle again. And remember—you don’t have to figure it all out on your own. At Restful Sleepers, we’re here to help you navigate these changes with gentle, realistic advice that works for your family. Whether it’s your first regression or your fifth, you’ve got this.

Unlocking Your Toddler’s World: A Deep Dive into the 10 Most Common Play Schemas

Have you ever wondered why your toddler insists on throwing toys, lining up their cars, or carrying blocks from one room to another? What if I told you these behaviours aren’t just random—they’re actually essential to your child’s development? Welcome to the fascinating world of play schemas — the repetitive behaviours that children use to explore and learn about their world. In this blog post, we’ll take a closer look at the 10 most common play schemas. Understanding these schemas can help you turn moments of frustration into opportunities for learning and connection with your child. Let’s dive in! What Are Play Schemas? Play schemas are patterns of repetitive behaviour through which children explore concepts like motion, connection, and transformation. These schemas are more than just play—they’re the foundation of how kids learn about the world. By identifying and supporting your child’s schemas, you’re helping them develop critical motor, cognitive, and emotional skills. If you would like all of the Play Schemas in your back pocket, head to playschemas.com/free to download the cheat sheet and other Play Schema ideas and resources! The Trajectory Schema Does your child love throwing objects or pushing toys across the floor? That’s the trajectory schema at work. Through these actions, children explore how objects move through space, learning key concepts like gravity and force. How to Support It: Provide soft balls to throw, set up mini bowling games, or create ramps for rolling toys. If you’re indoors, think about activities that allow safe exploration, or take the fun outside. The Transporting Schema Is your toddler always carrying toys from one room to another or filling bags with objects? This is the transporting schema, where children learn about spatial awareness, organisation, and how objects exist independently of their location. How to Support It: Offer baskets, bags, or toy wheelbarrows for moving items. Scavenger hunts are another fun way to tap into this schema. The Enveloping Schema Children fascinated by wrapping, covering, or hiding objects—or even themselves—are exploring the enveloping schema. This behaviour helps them understand containment, boundaries, and the concepts “inside” and “outside.” How to Support It: Provide materials like scarves, blankets, or boxes for wrapping and hiding objects. Build forts together or encourage them to tuck toys into bed with blankets. The Rotation Schema If your child loves spinning wheels, turning tops, or even twirling themselves, they’re exploring the rotation schema. This schema helps children understand circular motion and balance, laying the groundwork for spatial awareness. How to Support It: Offer spinning toys like tops, visit playgrounds with merry-go-rounds, or simply let them roll down hills. The Connection Schema Children working on the connection schema are fascinated by joining objects together. Think building blocks, train tracks, or even puzzles. They’re learning how relationships between objects work, fostering early problem-solving and creativity. How to Support It: Provide toys like Lego (or Duplo depending on the age/s), puzzles, or construction sets. Encourage experimentation with different ways of connecting and building. The Disconnecting Schema The disconnecting schema is the opposite of the connection schema. Children love taking things apart—breaking down block towers or separating toy parts. While it might seem destructive, it’s actually a critical part of learning how objects work. How to Support It: Offer toys that can be safely disassembled, like puzzles or stackable blocks. Involve them in safe activities like unscrewing lids or removing parts with simple tools. The Enclosure Schema Children exploring the enclosure schema are all about creating boundaries. They might build fences for toy animals, place objects in containers, or draw circles around pictures. How to Support It: Provide blocks, cardboard boxes, or drawing materials to help them explore ideas of inclusion, exclusion, and spatial organisation. The Orientation Schema Does your child love hanging upside down or viewing the world from unusual angles? That’s the orientation schema, where they’re learning how perspective changes based on position. How to Support It: Let them hang upside down, use mirrors to explore reflections, or take them on outdoor adventures to view things from new angles. The Transforming Schema If your child enjoys mixing water and dirt to make mud or pretending to be a superhero, they’re engaging with the transformation schema. This schema helps them understand change and cause-and-effect relationships. How to Support It: Set up sensory bins, encourage imaginative play, or involve them in simple cooking activities like mixing ingredients. The Positioning Schema Children exploring the positioning schema love arranging objects in patterns or lines. They might line up cars, organise toys by colour, or create symmetrical patterns. How to Support It: Provide materials for sorting and organising, like blocks or colorful objects. Encourage pattern-making activities to help them develop spatial awareness and problem-solving skills. Why Supporting Play Schemas Matters Understanding and supporting your child’s play schemas can: Reduce frustration at home. Strengthen your bond as you engage with their natural interests. Foster critical developmental skills like problem-solving, spatial awareness, and motor coordination. By meeting your child where they are and encouraging their explorations, you’re creating a joyful learning environment where they feel understood and supported.

Car Seat Safety: What Every Parent Needs to Know

One of the most important jobs you have as a parent is keeping your child safe—especially when you’re on the move. Whether you’re heading to daycare, popping to the shops, or embarking on a road trip, making sure your child is properly secured in a car seat is critical. But let’s be honest: car seats can be confusing. Just when you’ve managed to pick the right one, you then need to install it correctly—and that’s a whole new challenge! The Basics: Choosing the Right Car Seat The best car seat is the one that: Your child’s safety depends not only on the seat you choose, but how you use it. Installation matters—a lot. Expert Help from Baby On The Move At Baby On The Move, car seat safety isn’t just a product—it’s a priority. With stores nationwide, they’re passionate about helping families keep their little ones secure on the road. Each store is staffed with certified Child Restraint Technicians who take the time to guide parents, caregivers, and grandparents through the process of selecting and installing the right car seat. They understand that every family’s needs are different. Is your child rear or forward-facing? What’s their weight and height? What kind of car do you drive? These details matter—and Baby On The Move is there to help you get it right. Understanding Car Seat Standards in New Zealand All car seats sold in New Zealand must meet one of three approved safety standards. However, not all seats are created equal—some go well beyond the minimum. Here are the three approved standards: All car seats hired or sold by Baby On The Move meet one of these standards, and many exceed them. Whether you’re preparing for a newborn or upgrading for a growing toddler, our expert team is here to help you find the perfect fit for your family. Bonus: Every purchase includes three free car seat installations by their local trained technicians. Baby On The Move’s Top Tips for Car Seat Safety Here are some expert tips from the Baby On The Move team to help keep your precious cargo safe: And Finally, Remember: Whether you’re hiring or buying, Baby On The Move is your trusted partner in child car seat safety.Our expert team is here to guide you through your options, ensure compatibility with your vehicle, and provide professional installation – giving you complete peace of mind. Because when it comes to your little one, there’s no such thing as too safe.

Maternal Mental Health in Aotearoa: Time to Do Better for Our Māmās

This week marks Maternal Mental Health Awareness Week in Aotearoa — a chance to spotlight the wellbeing of those navigating pregnancy, birth, and early parenthood. While the week aims to reduce stigma and spark important kōrero, it also brings to light the uncomfortable truth: our system is not doing enough to care for māmās when they need it most. We know that bringing a baby into the world can be one of the most transformative — and vulnerable — times in a person’s life. But for too many parents in Aotearoa, that transformation is marred by anxiety, depression, and a lack of accessible support. The Reality for Parents in NZ An estimated 12–18% of birthing parents in New Zealand experience perinatal mental health challenges such as depression or anxiety. For partners, the rate sits around 10%. These conditions can develop during pregnancy or in the first year postpartum — a time already fuelled by sleep deprivation, hormonal changes, identity shifts, and constant demands. But here’s the most heartbreaking stat: Suicide is the leading cause of maternal death in Aotearoa. Between 2006 and 2017, suicide accounted for 45% of maternal deaths within the first 42 days after birth. That’s a staggering figure — and it only reflects the small window we currently track. International evidence shows the risk of suicide can remain high up to a year postpartum, meaning the true scale here in NZ may be far greater. These aren’t just numbers. They’re lives — wāhine, whānau, and pēpi caught in the gaps of an overstretched system. The Support Gap So, what’s going wrong? It’s not that healthcare professionals don’t care. Midwives, GPs, nurses, and specialists are often working under enormous pressure with limited resources. The issue is that many parents seeking help are falling through the cracks. Specialist Maternal Mental Health Services (MMHS) are available in many regions — but they’re chronically under-resourced. Long waitlists, strict eligibility criteria, and patchy regional coverage mean some parents are told they’re “not severe enough” to qualify for help. Others don’t even know such services exist. The gold standard internationally is to have specialist Mother-Baby Units (MBUs) — hospital spaces where māmā can receive mental health care without being separated from their pēpi. New Zealand has only two of these for a population that sees around 60,000 births each year. For comparison, the UK recommends one unit for every 15,000 births. Put simply: the demand far outweighs the supply. What Can Be Done? There is no one-size-fits-all solution, but here’s what experts, advocates, and families across the country agree on: More funding for Maternal Mental Health ServicesServices need to be better staffed, better resourced, and more accessible — especially for rural and underserved communities. Increased investment in Mother-Baby UnitsParents deserve care that keeps them with their babies in a safe, supportive environment — not general psychiatric wards. Earlier and broader screeningEducation around perinatal mental health should start during pregnancy, with routine check-ins for both parents in the months following birth. Culturally safe, inclusive careMāori wāhine are over three times more likely to die by suicide in the perinatal period. Our systems need to be actively anti-racist and inclusive of diverse cultural understandings of hauora. For the Māmās Reading This If you’re in the thick of it, feeling low, anxious, overwhelmed or just not right, please know: you are not alone — and it is absolutely okay to ask for help. Mental health challenges don’t make you a bad parent. They don’t mean you’re broken. They mean you’re human. Support might look like medication. It might look like therapy. It might look like a cuppa and kōrero with someone who gets it. All of it is valid. All of it matters. Where to Get Help Here are some trusted places to start: And if you’re currently pregnant, take this as a gentle nudge: set up your support network now. Whether it’s your partner, your whānau, a friend or a postnatal doula — having a village around you can make all the difference when things get hard. We need more than awareness weeks — we need action, funding, and real change. But while we wait for the system to catch up, let’s keep doing what we can at ground level: checking in on each other, talking openly, and reminding every parent out there that their wellbeing matters. You matter, mama. Always.

 What the Heck is Breastmilk Jewellery? 

 A Simple Guide to DNA Keepsakes for Mums in New Zealand  Okay, let’s be real. The first time you hear someone say breastmilk jewellery, your brain probably does a double take. It sounds a little wild, right? But trust me, it’s actually one of the most beautiful and meaningful ways to hold onto your motherhood journey.  Here in New Zealand, more and more mums are discovering DNA keepsake jewellery as a special way to capture those early memories. The cuddles, the milestones, the endless night feeds, the bittersweet goodbyes when your breastfeeding chapter wraps up. And no, you don’t need a huge stash of milk in the freezer to make it happen. 10mls of breastmilk is all it takes to create a keepsake that immortalises all your precious breastfeeding memories.  So, What Is Breastmilk Jewellery?  Breastmilk jewellery is a handcrafted piece of DNA keepsake jewellery that holds a small, preserved drop of your very own breastmilk inside it. Think rings, necklaces, bracelets, or charms to go on your Pandora bracelets that are designed to look just like a pearl, an opal, or even a little galaxy, but with a beautiful personal story behind it.  Each piece is custom made by a keepsake artist, like The Spilt Milk Co. (based in Tauranga, New Zealand), who carefully preserves your milk so it won’t spoil or discolour, and then sets it into jewellery you can wear and treasure.  Why Do Mums Choose Breastmilk Keepsakes?  Because breastfeeding isn’t just about milk. It’s about the love and the bond between you and your baby. It’s about those quiet 3am feeds, the cluster-feeding marathons, the tearful pumping sessions, the milestones met, and the end-of-an-era weaning moments… it’s a massive journey, and every achievement is absolutely worth celebrating.  Breastmilk keepsake jewellery gives you a way to carry a piece of that chapter with you, long after the burp cloths and breast pads are packed away. It’s more than just jewellery, it’s a memory of those beautiful newborn days that you can hold onto.  Not Just Breastmilk: DNA Keepsakes for Every Story  And here’s the cool part, breastmilk is just the beginning. DNA keepsake jewellery can hold so many other precious memories too.  At The Spilt Milk Co, mums (and pet parents!) also choose to preserve elements such as:  Each piece tells a story that’s completely unique to you.  How Does It Work?  The process is super simple. You send around 10mls of breastmilk (that’s all!) or your chosen DNA inclusions (hair, pet fur, cremation ash, first tooth, or even an embryo vial) to a keepsake artist like The Spilt Milk Co in Tauranga.  Your milk is professionally preserved at their studio so it’s safe and stable, and then carefully crafted into jewellery designed just for you. You can choose the shape, style, colours, and even add little extras like shimmers or birthstones.  More Than Just Jewellery. It’s Your Story.  At the end of the day, DNA keepsake jewellery is more than just a pretty accessory. Whether you’re marking the end of your breastfeeding journey, holding close a loved one’s ashes, or celebrating your little one’s milestones, it’s about turning memories into something tangible and beautiful.  Author Ashley De Grey Founder & Crafter The Spilt Milk Co.  You can find Ashley’s work & connect with her here: www.thespiltmilkco.com or on Instagram and Facebook

Why Neurodivergent-Friendly Oral Care Matters (and How We’re Helping)

Toothbrushing is one of the most important daily habits we teach our children—but for many neurodivergent kids, it’s far from simple. At Teeny Teeth, we’ve spoken to hundreds of families who face real challenges getting their children to brush their teeth—especially children with autism, ADHD, sensory processing disorder, or developmental delays. We believe that oral care should be inclusive. Every child deserves tools that support their unique needs, reduce stress, and encourage independence. That’s exactly what we’re here to advocate for. In this blog post, we’ll shine a light on the common challenges that neurodivergent children face when it comes to toothbrushing, explore the emotional toll of traditional toothbrushes, and share how our three-sided toothbrush design is helping families around New Zealand (and beyond) build better, easier oral care routines. Understanding the Toothbrushing Struggles of Neurodivergent Children 1. Sensory Sensitivities Children with sensory processing differences—often present in autism, ADHD, and other neurodivergent profiles—may find everyday sensations overwhelming. Brushing their teeth can cause distress due to: Even the smell of mint toothpaste can be too intense for some kids, making the experience unpleasant before it even begins. 2. Fine and Gross Motor Challenges Toothbrushing requires coordination: holding the brush, angling it correctly, brushing each surface, and covering all areas evenly. For children with motor planning difficulties, weak muscle tone, or developmental delays, this can be frustrating and fatiguing. Some kids simply don’t have the motor skills yet to use a traditional toothbrush effectively, leading to poor cleaning and even more battles with parents. 3. Executive Functioning and Attention Issues Children with ADHD or executive functioning challenges may struggle to: Brushing becomes something they avoid—not because they don’t care, but because it’s hard to stay focused and organised during the process. The Emotional Impact on Kids and Caregivers Parents of neurodivergent children often describe toothbrushing as one of the most stressful parts of the day. What should be a 2-minute self-care task can lead to: This repeated daily stress can take a toll on the whole family. Some parents find themselves brushing their child’s teeth for them just to get it done. Others avoid the battle entirely, leading to missed brushes and dental issues down the line. Traditional toothbrushes aren’t made with these challenges in mind. And it’s time that changed. Inclusive Design: How Teeny Teeth Is Making Brushing Easier for Every Child We created Teeny Teeth’s three-sided toothbrush because we saw a gap in the market—and in everyday parenting needs. Our toothbrush is designed to work with children’s abilities, not against them. Here’s how it helps: 1. Brushes All Surfaces at Once Instead of having to manually brush the fronts, backs, and tops of each tooth, our brush cleans all three surfaces at the same time. This reduces the time, effort, and coordination needed to get a full, effective clean. 2. Gentle Bristles for Sensitive Mouths We use soft bristles that are gentle on gums and ideal for kids with sensory sensitivities. No more bristle burn or complaints about “scratchy” brushes. 3. Simplified Motions = Less Frustration Our brush is designed to be easy to grip and easy to use—just move it back and forth along the teeth and it does the rest. No fancy angles or motor skills required. 4. Faster = More Tolerable Because our brush cleans more surface area in less time, brushing becomes quicker and more tolerable for kids who struggle with sensory input, attention, or transitions. Why Inclusive Oral Care Matters Neurodivergent children deserve products that are designed for them—not just adapted from tools made for someone else. When we talk about inclusion, we’re not just talking about schools or playgrounds. We’re talking about every aspect of daily life, including brushing teeth. Better brushing experiences mean: And for caregivers? Less stress. Fewer tears. And the comfort of knowing your child is getting the care they need—without the daily struggle. We’re Advocating for Change—One Brush at a Time At Teeny Teeth, we’re more than a toothbrush company. We’re advocates for accessible oral hygiene and for designing with neurodivergence in mind. We know that when children feel supported, they thrive—and that starts with small wins, like brushing their teeth without a meltdown. Whether your child is neurodivergent or just needs a gentler brushing experience, our mission is the same: to make oral care fun, easy, and stress-free. Because every child deserves to smile with confidence—and every parent deserves tools that work. Ready to Try a Neurodivergent-Friendly Toothbrush? Explore our full range of toothbrushes here. Whether you’re looking for a first brush for toddlers, something for a sensory-sensitive child, or an easy-grip option for little hands, we’ve got you covered. Join the growing number of families switching to Teeny Teeth—and make brushing one less battle in your day. Navigating the world of oral health can feel overwhelming — that’s why we’re here to help! Visit our Information Centre for helpful tips and guidance, or reach out to us with any questions.

Weeks 6–10: Settling In, Waking Up, and Finding Your Rhythm

The first six weeks of life with your pēpi are often filled with snuggles, sleepless nights, and many (many!) feeds. At this stage, their tiny tummy grows rapidly—from the size of a marble to about a golf ball in just 10 days. Frequent, small feeds help support this growth and keep them comfortable. By now, you’ve likely spent countless hours learning each other’s rhythms. Life as a new māmā is beautiful—but it’s also a huge shift, both emotionally and physically. You may find yourself having thoughts or feelings that are hard to explain, and that’s okay. You’re not alone. A New Kind of Awareness Around six weeks, something magical begins to happen: your pēpi starts to “wake up” to the world. You might notice them becoming more alert, gazing at you intently, or even recognising your voice. To them, you are their safe place. With this growing awareness, however, can come a greater need for closeness. They might resist their bassinet, crave more contact naps, and be harder to settle. This is all part of the journey—and totally normal. Wraps and front packs can be your best friends during this phase, especially fabric carriers that hold them snugly against your chest. They’re ideal for calming unsettled pēpi, especially during those late afternoon hours. Contact naps can be a sanity-saver for both of you. Settling Techniques and Soothing Tips Sometimes, pēpi just need movement. Gentle squats while holding them, bouncing on a Swiss ball, or wearing them in a front pack can all help soothe a fussy baby. These motions remind them of the womb and can help settle an overstimulated nervous system. If your pēpi is struggling with wind, reflux, or colic, you’re not alone—these are all very common as their digestive system develops. While most babies grow out of it, don’t hesitate to check in with your GP if you’re concerned or feel your baby is in pain. Feeding Realities Whether you’re breastfeeding, bottle feeding, or somewhere in between—it’s all okay. Breastfeeding can take time, and it’s normal to face challenges. If you’re struggling or feel that something’s not right, reach out for support. And remember: fed is best. If your pēpi or your own wellbeing is suffering, offering a bottle is not a failure. Although it can feel like a huge decision, it may be the right one for you and your pēpi. Sleep: What’s Normal? Sleep might still feel unpredictable—and that’s expected. Wake windows at this age are usually around 45 minutes to 1.5 hours and include feeding, nappy changes, play, and cuddles. As pēpi grows and becomes more alert, these windows will gradually stretch out. But it’s important to watch your baby, not just the clock. Some babies show tiredness through fussiness or being overly active—know their cues and respond gently. If naps become harder, try simplifying the sleep environment: darker rooms, less stimulation, and white or brown noise can make a big difference. Noise machines can help block out household noise, but they don’t need to follow you everywhere. Brain Development and Early Learning From weeks 6–10, your baby’s brain is growing at an incredible rate. They’re beginning to focus more clearly and watch your face as you speak. This is a perfect time to introduce early learning through connection. Talking, reading, singing, and using rich language in your everyday routines helps pēpi form essential brain connections. Even if it feels a bit awkward, speak to your baby during nappy changes, while you’re dressing them, or during feeds. Reading aloud is another beautiful way to build connection—and it’s a wonderful way for pāpā to bond too, especially if speaking to a baby doesn’t come naturally to him at first. Play: Simple Is Best Play at this stage is about sensory exploration, not stimulation overload. A safe floor space with a few interesting textures, toys they can grasp, or objects to visually explore is perfect. Time on their back helps develop muscles and coordination, and you’ll start to notice that everything ends up in their mouth—which is just another way they explore and learn. Relationships and Support The beginning of this stage often marks the end of midwife visits, which can feel like a sudden shift. You may feel unsure or overwhelmed—that’s normal. Lean on your support network, whether it’s a partner, friend, or community group. Your relationship with your partner may also be adjusting. You’re both navigating huge changes, and communication is key. You may parent differently—and that’s okay. What matters most is that you stay connected on the things that matter to you both. Remember, you and your pēpi are learning together. There is no “perfect” way to do things—only what works for you and your whānau. Trust your instincts, be gentle with yourself, and take it one moment at a time. You’re doing better than you think. If you’re navigating these early weeks and finding it overwhelming, you’re not alone—and you don’t have to do it alone either. At Grace & Aroha, I offer support as a Postnatal Doula and Parent Guide, walking alongside you through the emotional, physical, and practical shifts of new parenthood. Whether it’s guidance around settling, feeding, sleep, or simply having someone to hold space for you, I’m here to offer care grounded in grace, aroha, and connection. Your journey matters—let’s walk it together.

Sustainable Living with Children: Why the Little Things Matter

When you become a parent, your world shifts. Suddenly, the choices you make each day feel heavier—not just for your children, but for the world they’re growing up in. You start noticing things you once overlooked: the mountain of single-use plastic toys, the endless drawings on printer paper, the packaging that overflows the recycling bin before the week is out. It can feel overwhelming. You want to do the right thing—but where do you even start? And how do you find a path that feels doable in the chaos of family life? Here’s the good news: making a difference doesn’t mean changing everything overnight. Sustainable living with children isn’t about perfection. It’s about intention. Less, but Better In a world that celebrates more, there’s something quietly radical about choosing less. Fewer toys, but ones that last. Fewer activities, but more connection. Fewer disposable things, and more that can be used—and loved—again. When we slow down and choose quality over quantity, we’re not just reducing waste. We’re teaching our children that how something is made, and how long it lasts, matters. In New Zealand, each person sends around 750kg of waste to landfill every year—one of the highest rates in the OECD. And while recycling is part of the solution, it’s not a silver bullet. Only 28% of plastic is actually recycled in New Zealand, and much of what we separate is sent offshore—where it may never be recycled at all. That’s why choosing reusable, durable alternatives isn’t just more reliable—it’s a long-term shift we can count on. Reusability as a Rhythm One of the most powerful things we can do as parents is to build sustainable habits into the everyday rhythm of life. Children thrive on routine—and reusability can become part of that rhythm. The same lunchbox packed each morning. The same art supplies pulled out after school. That favourite Kidoodle mat rolled out again and again for colouring sessions, storytelling or quiet play. These small, familiar habits create comfort—and quietly show our children that not everything needs to be new to be special. Instead of chasing constant novelty, we’re nurturing a deeper relationship with the objects in our lives. That special reusable water bottle isn’t just a practical item—it becomes their bottle. That lunchbox tells a story of many adventures. That colouring mat becomes a well-loved canvas for imagination, again and again. These aren’t grand gestures. They’re small rituals. But over time, they quietly shape the way our children see the world—and their place in it. The Power of Progress, Not Perfection Let’s be honest—parenting is hard. It’s messy, unpredictable, and exhausting. And sustainable living? That can feel like just another thing on the never-ending to-do list. So let’s let go of perfection. You’re going to use disposable nappies sometimes. You’ll forget your reusable bags. There’ll be weeks when the recycling piles up and the compost smells weird. That’s okay. Sustainability isn’t a competition. It’s not about being “green enough.” It’s about doing what you can, when you can—and giving yourself grace when you can’t. Because every small step matters. And every time you model thoughtfulness, even imperfectly, you’re teaching your children something powerful: that caring for the world is part of caring for each other. Creativity with Care When we let go of the pressure to be perfect, we free ourselves—and our children—to explore, create, and connect more meaningfully. Children are endlessly imaginative. Give them a cardboard box, a set of pens, and five minutes, and they’ll build an entire universe. They don’t need an overflowing toybox to be entertained—they need invitation and space to explore, to create, to play with freedom. When we offer open-ended, durable tools that encourage creativity, we’re not only reducing waste and being kind to the planet—we’re fostering independence, problem-solving and self-expression. A reusable colouring mat. A pile of scrap paper. A basket of shells and pinecones from the latest walk. These simple items can unlock far more creativity than any flashing, battery-operated toy. The Ripple Effect of Small Choices No one has all the answers. There’s no perfect path to sustainable living. But if parenting teaches us anything, it’s that the little things add up. The everyday decisions, the quiet conversations, the way we show up—it all matters. When our children see us choosing to fix something instead of tossing it, bringing our own bags, or turning packaging into crafts, they’re learning. They’re watching. And they’re absorbing the idea that we all have a role to play in caring for the planet. You don’t have to overhaul your entire lifestyle. Start with one or two small shifts: switch to refillable cleaners, shop secondhand, pack waste-free lunches. Let your children help sort the recycling. Talk about your choices around the dinner table. Show them how to plant a seed or mend a tear. These are the moments that stick. The ones that quietly build a mindset of care, responsibility, and resourcefulness. Because if our children grow up watching us make mindful—not perfect—choices, they’re more likely to carry that mindset forward. Kaitiakitanga Starts at Home Sustainability isn’t just a trend. It’s a way of living that says: I care about what happens next. Here in New Zealand, we are guided by the principle of kaitiakitanga—a deep responsibility to care for the land, waters, and living systems that sustain us. When we teach our children to tread gently, to reuse, to respect, we’re passing on more than habits—we’re passing on values. A sense of guardianship. A connection to something bigger than themselves. And really, isn’t that what parenting is all about?

Fill Your Cup First: Why Nourishing Yourself is the Key to Showing Up for Your Kids

Let’s be honest, in the juggle of motherhood, your own needs are usually last on the list (if they make the list at all). Between feeding everyone else, wiping little faces, and answering “Muuuuum!” for the 37th time before 9am, it’s easy to forget you’re a human too….one who needs energy, patience, and brain space to function. But here’s the truth we often forget: You can’t pour from an empty cup. Nourishing yourself isn’t indulgent — it’s necessary.  The myth of “pushing through” Motherhood is full of moments where we’re told to “just keep going.” But constantly running on empty isn’t a badge of honour — it’s a fast track to burnout. The brain fog, the exhaustion, the 3pm slump that hits harder than your toddler’s tantrum — these are signs your body is asking for help. Often, it’s not a lack of willpower. It’s a lack of fuel. Why fuelling YOU makes a difference When your body gets the nutrients it needs, everything works better: Put simply: when you’re nourished, you show up as the version of yourself you actually enjoy being. Small ways to fuel yourself every day You don’t need a whole new routine or fancy wellness rituals to feel better. Try these simple, manageable steps: 1. Start your day with real nourishment Skipping breakfast or living off your toddler’s scraps can send your blood sugar crashing before 10am. Instead, aim for a brekkie with protein, healthy fats, and fibre. This is where CupFull comes in — our frozen smoothie packs are made for mums, by mums, and are packed with: Just blend and go — no prep, no mess, no thinking required. 2. Drink more water than your toddler spills Dehydration makes everything harder — including parenting. Keep a drink bottle handy and aim to drink a glass of water before your morning coffee (yes, even if it’s reheated three times). 3. Snacks, snacks, snacks Snacks aren’t just for little hands. A handful of almonds, boiled eggs, or some greek yoghurt with berries can help you stay steady through the chaos. 4. Get outside when you can Fresh air does wonders for your mood and energy. Even a quick lap around the block can reset your body and mind — and bonus points if you leave the house solo. A gentle reminder: you deserve to feel good, too Motherhood asks a lot of you — your time, your energy, your heart. But taking care of yourself isn’t selfish; it’s essential. When you’re well-fed, well-fuelled, and feeling good, you’re not just surviving — you’re creating the solid foundation your family needs to thrive. Because the best way to care for them, is to start by filling your own cup first.

Why we Say No to Drop-Side Cots

Written by Jacinda Bowring – CEO/Founder of boulevard kids Drop-side cots, which were once a common design feature, allowed one or both sides of the crib to be lowered to make it easier to access the baby. However, due to safety concerns, drop-side cots have been largely phased out in many countries, including the United States and Canada.  Here’s why: Ultimately, the shift away from drop-side cots by boulevard kids reflects a commitment to child safety and the recognition that the risks associated with such designs outweigh any convenience they might offer. If you’re a parent or caregiver, it’s important to prioritise safety when choosing a cot for your baby and to follow the recommended guidelines for safe sleep practices.  Our decision aligns with the safety concerns that have led to the discontinuation of drop-side cots in many regions. We offer cots that adhere to modern safety standards and regulations, boulevard kids take seriously the well-being of infants and providing peace of mind to parents and caregivers.

Cot to Bed Transition – by Village Sleep

I have been thinking a lot about big transitions this month. One year ago, almost to the day as I write this, I was very unwell after an appendectomy turned into internal bleeding which became infected. That led to two months of being in and out of hospital, being taken to Christchurch via air ambulance, having an abdominal drain for a month, rounds and rounds of antibiotics, and being robbed of time with my family. I have been reflecting a lot on how I have transitioned back to ‘normal life’ after this. I am well again, I am active, I am happy, and my son’s birthday party is coming up soon. It is so exciting to be able to have that this year—last year we had to cancel it because I went back into hospital. All of this got me thinking about transitions for our kids.

Getting Started with Cloth Nappies

Written by Bear & Moo

Getting started with cloth nappies doesn’t need to be difficult. I know there’s a lot of information out there about the ‘right’ way to do things, and if you want to follow that path, go for it!

I’m going to try and bring it right back to the very basics below, to take away the fear around using cloth … because it’s not as hard as it sounds. I promise.

How to best serve foods to my little one based on age!

As a parent, you want to make sure your little one is getting the right nutrition at every stage of their development. One important aspect to consider is how to best serve foods to your child based on their age and ability to chew and eat. I personally found this difficult when i was a new mum and found i got anxious at points, not knowing how my babies would deal with it, and what was normal. Here are some tips to help you navigate this important aspect of your child’s growth:

Bhone Beauty: Bringing Ancient Nutrition to Modern Motherhood

Motherhood is rewarding, but let’s be real—it’s exhausting. Between feeding, working, cleaning, and keeping up with life, 75% of postpartum mothers say reducing fatigue and boosting energy is their top health priority. But who has time for complicated wellness routines?

Top 10 Things to Consider When Choosing a Daycare Center

Choosing the right daycare centre is a big decision that can significantly impact your child’s well-being and development, as well as your peace of mind. With so many options available, it’s important to take a close look at what matters most to you and your family. Here are our top 10 factors to consider when evaluating daycare centres:

Vision Boards: A Powerful Tool for Pregnancy and Parenting 

Becoming a parent is one of the most transformative journeys in life. Whether you’re expecting your first baby, adjusting to life with a newborn, or navigating the ups and downs of parenting, having a clear vision for yourself and your family can make all the difference. A vision board is a simple yet powerful way to set intentions, stay motivated, and manifest the life you want for yourself and your little one. 

Your Guide to Baby Beds: From Bedside Bassinets to Cots

Ensuring your baby gets quality sleep is a top priority for new parents. The choice of sleep environment plays a crucial role in this aspect. In this blog post, we’ll explore the benefits of using a bedside bassinet, and discuss the transition to a cot.

Sneaking in the Good Stuff: An Interview with Sneekico’s Founder, Laura

If you’ve ever struggled with a fussy eater, you’re not alone. Laura, the founder of Sneekico, knows the battle all too well—cue the untouched plates, the rejected veggies, and the creative (but exhausting) attempts to make food fun. Instead of admitting defeat, she turned her experience into something game-changing: a brand that helps parents sneak in wholesome ingredients without the fuss.

Back to School: Preparing Kiwi Kids for a Fresh Start

The beginning of the school year is an exciting time for many Kiwi families. After weeks of summer adventures and a slower pace, it’s time to get back into routines, reunite with friends, and embrace new opportunities for learning. But let’s be honest—back-to-school prep can also feel like a logistical whirlwind. Between stationery lists, uniform shopping, and juggling costs, it’s a lot.

What Life Will Look Like for Kiwi Kids Born After 2025 – A Peek Into Generation Beta

The arrival of 2025 births the beginning of Generation Beta, the children born from this year through to 2039. As parents and parents-to-be, it’s natural to wonder about the world our kids will grow up in. While each generation faces its own set of challenges and opportunities, Generation Beta is poised to thrive in an era of incredible innovation, sustainability, and connection. Here’s what life might look like for our tamariki and how we, as parents, can prepare them for a bright future.

Hey Māmā’s Guide to Holiday Peace

Hey Mama - Keep Calm Christmas On

The holiday season can be magical, but for parents—especially mums—it often feels like a marathon. Between planning family gatherings, buying presents, organising food, and keeping the kids entertained, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. Add in unsolicited advice from relatives, overstimulated tamariki, and a sprinkle of seasonal stress, and you might find yourself wondering how to make it through with your peace (and sense of humour!) intact.

Beyond the Shelf: How Elf on the Shelf Became a Kiwi Christmas Tradition

Elf on the Shelf New Zealand Hey Mama

Elf on the Shelf has become a festive favourite in many Kiwi households, bringing excitement and mischief to the lead-up to Christmas. This little tradition, now beloved by families worldwide, has its roots in 2005 when Carol Aebersold and her daughter Chanda Bell co-authored The Elf on the Shelf: A Christmas Tradition. Inspired by a family custom they enjoyed during their own childhoods, the book introduced the idea of a magical elf who observes children’s behaviour and reports back to Santa each night. The accompanying elf doll, with its nostalgic design, captured imaginations and quickly became a global phenomenon. By 2012, the tradition was so popular it even spawned an animated Christmas special, ensuring its place in modern holiday culture.

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